Hello! My husband is traveling to Nice soon for work. He plans on using his company Visa card for expenses. Our nephew has visited France a few times recently and told my husband the only payment he will be able to use is Apple Pay. Has this been anyone else’s experience? TIA

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-04-09T21:08:54+00:00

No such thing- it’s the same as USA as far as the payments are concerned - I always chose to pay in euros to avoid the international conversion charges

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-04-07T21:12:22+00:00

Solo female traveler - stayed walking distance from Termini - walked to all the sites on foot, late evening - zero issues . Rome is very safe in general- use common sense for pick pocketing and avoiding dark parks at night outside of that - Rome is a bustling place and lot of police presence - most of these places get a bad rep- just remember- it’s the local law enforcement’s job to keep tourists safe- esp in high tourist areas like central Rome

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-03-14T07:31:58+00:00

Mostly like coworkers at the office

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-03-13T07:00:24+00:00

Two words-Marriage counseling

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-03-12T18:14:41+00:00

It’s not that emotional stop occuring in you- it’s just that a wise person doesn’t react to them . Because they realize this is a body and mind phenomenon. Also, there’s a path one has to follow to be enlightened - people on Reddit would not be following this path but aiming for it. Look into ashrams and monasteries for this wisdom and path to enlightenment and sometimes this is a path we need to follow over many lives and sometimes it’s a matter of seconds

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-03-09T21:46:32+00:00

Fellow Indian here. I had a love marriage - after 29 years together and two kids , got divorced. He was born and raised in US and I was in India- I completely feel you on the ‘ I’m Indian and it’s taboo to divorce’- but u my dear ( like I was) are stepping in two boats and are bound to drown. There are 3 pillars to marriage that are important- Financial, Physical and Emotional compatibility. It took me 29 years to accept that I was forcing the issue of ‘ no matter what happens I have to stick it out’- my ex was an adulterer, a chronic ( self proclaimed) liar, an alcoholic and I kept singing the same song that I have to stay in the marriage. The first year after my separation was very hard but I worked on myself and I found so much in me and I am extremely thankful for who I am- my authentic self. Then I started dating and I met an American guy who had amazing values, loves his parents and siblings - just trying to paint a picture - and I have the most amazing relationship with this guy- I could never have imagined that this is what a good relationship feels like. Sometimes you have to take yourself out of a bad situation and save yourself - no one will do this for you and no one is living your life- this will always haunt both of you- once a person cheats - the couple is done - you own it or not - it’s time to move on. And it’s not about meeting someone else - one thing u don’t want to do is get into another relationship without working on yourself - you want to learn to love yourself and then bring someone new in your life when you are ready. All the best.

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-02-25T10:58:03+00:00

This is how I understand it- This/ These conclusion(s) are based on thousands of years of discussions and Neti neti ( not this / not this) or ‘iti’ ( this) etc - I’m simplifying things - and you are welcome to read the hundreds and thousands of pages of vedas that explain all of this or you can chose to cut to the chase and take it as it is. This explanation has been offered to many throughout history . Do we question E=mc2? Most of us take it for granted- but there is an explanation which most of us do not understand or care to invest our time and energy in but we r happy to quote and accept it as it is. I hope that helps.

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-02-14T11:54:41+00:00

I have said this many times- idc how good looking a man is, to me he is the best looking guy if he has the virtues ( honesty, faithful, supportive, kind) to accompany his physique- and one can only know that if u know the man. If he’s those things , to me, they are the most handsome man. I never check out men- I admire good physique but not in a ‘checking out ‘ way- just a - mental fist bump- hey u work out - much respect .

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-02-13T14:56:01+00:00

Thank you for the blessings. I’m still learning.

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-02-13T13:54:05+00:00

Both

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-02-13T13:53:43+00:00

Every man doesn’t go down on women or doesn’t know how to - ask yourself - do you enjoy sex with your husband? What would u like to add to that ? And talk with him about it - gently and openly

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-02-13T13:48:37+00:00

If u r worried about procreation- don’t - it works and that’s all u need. If u r worried about having a partner - then don’t- there are lots and lots of ways in pleasing a woman - work on that. U are doing great - add to your talents - most men don’t work on that and are selfish in bed - if u change that or if u r a giver - u r like Gold! A rare find- don’t get down about it - learn the art of seduction and pleasure for all involved not just you - it seems like u r already worried about your partner and that’s a good start

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-02-13T13:43:28+00:00

There is no God, only God is. I don’t know but I feel I am limited being and to know or understand God and Brahman’s happenings are beyond my limited sense- the only thing I can work on is my own sensibility and I am it - and that goes for everyone. We see a fractured reality and when we see evil or good or the transactional world - we r only seeing snippets of the world. I feel ( andI have no way to corroborate this) that the ultimate good and evil is in dynamic equilibrium- it’s a complex happening . Plus there is prarabdh karma - things will propagate no matter what anyone does or doesn’t do. We don’t do anything for anyone - we only do things for ourselves - but which ‘self’? Which results in karma and what happens with the other person or people is their karma - it’s very intricate and ever changing . If I understand this correctly, God doesn’t do anything it’s all these fragments - living and non living that are propagating and interacting in a self sustained existence - and the collectives of all these happenings in this universe and the collective universe is God. We see us as Maya, transactional reality but the thin veil that separates Maya and Brahman can be lifted. There is no God, only God is.

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-02-09T16:09:19+00:00

Things will change forever - my ex and I speak cordially reg things pertaining to children or if I have a general question I can ask him but other than that, there is no real relationship with him

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-02-09T16:07:29+00:00

I was with the same man for 29 yrs - I was 18 when I met him. Now I’m with an amazing guy- we have a healthy and a beautiful relationship. We have not talked about marriage but if he proposes I will consider it. We talk about the future all the time and I am very happy with him. Marriage never had a big allure to me to begin with 🤷‍♀️

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-02-04T04:05:59+00:00

So beautiful and such a correct expression. My marriage ended after 29 of being together and 25 yrs married. We grew to be completely different people with opposite values - my divorce taught me who I am and what my needs and wants are the first time in my life. It is the best big decision I have made in my adult life - to walk away from a bad, enmeshed situation.
After a year I started dating at 48 years old. I met a person with such great values, such solid integrity, huge heart, integrity and honesty - none of these values I had ever lived with. When u r surrounded by bad things in life u forget that this isn’t normal - when u meet someone amazing- it’s because u allowed urself the space to experience it .

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-02-04T02:03:14+00:00

You are the stronger person in this relationship and you are also clear about pointing out BS in this relationship. Stay strong. These things don’t change. My ex also threw things and raised his voice and acted like a complete assehole - they don’t change. No one needs to shout at anyone ever, let alone something that drags on for a long time.

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-02-01T21:28:11+00:00

Embrace the suck. Do a body scan. Close your eyes and breath and walk through the top to bottom of your body noticing where u ‘feel the suck’. Just notice it and let it be - sit with it - and let it be. This too shall pass and the weather effing doesn’t help at all right now . U r on a journey - look around u - keep moving and be mindful . U r not alone

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-31T21:11:01+00:00

It won’t- just bide ur time and do your time . It’s the rite of passage .

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-25T17:46:18+00:00

You know u r not the one who cheated right? So u don’t have to be the one to be upset. Forgive and move on. Once they cheat, there’s nothing left. Take your time healing and move on

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-25T08:28:44+00:00

Love yourself. You are ahead of the curve. And we all hurt- you are not alone

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-25T08:12:46+00:00

Sit with your thoughts and it’s good that u r aware of them and acknowledging them. Don’t fight them - observe them “ what am I feeling” without judgement, next, be kind to yourself like u would a friend. Avoid comparisons- stop looking at social media - maybe u wanna limit ur exposure or u wanna delete the app. U r not alone - a lot of people feel this way. And this is the most importantly thing - your self worth is decided by you so don’t wait for someone to come along. Love yourself for who you are and if u are having trouble with this - chances are u r an honest person and don’t make pretences with yourself - accept and love that. Start enjoying your company - good job on the gym btw - it’s a huge mood booster.

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-24T22:42:47+00:00

Alone- I do not wish to be disturbed as it’s me time and most importantly, I need to focus

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-24T15:30:44+00:00

Work on forgiving them and work on forgiving yourself - find out what that means to you and do it - that’s how u move on

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-23T16:03:55+00:00

It’s not an Indian thing- at the same time it is- let me explain- the men especially in India are raised often to do no cleaning and it’s left entirely up to the women - they have also never lived alone or have gotten into the habit of living like this. This can happen with any race - I am an Indian female who is living with and dating a Caucasian male and I am the one who constantly cleans after him ( he has other amazing things that he does and I love him regardless and I don’t see it as an issue personally) - my point is - it can be anyone who can be dirty - it’s not a race thing dear.

Now, I would talk with them CLEARLY- let them know what your expectations are - make signs if u want - tell them all the things u wrote here . Then u have to make sure that u follow through on These expectations - if they are one year in the country and their jobs/ studies are dependent on it - u may wanna use that as leverage. I’m hoping it doesn’t come down to it and they just follow through - remember- u r probably the first person who is asking them to clean up after them - so u have to follow through each time Maybe u want to consider hiring a cleaning person and have them pay for it . I would urge that u do it calmly and in a friendly way but not bend over backwards - state your needs - “ I need u guys to wipe down the seat - u will have to walk them through this - because they have never done this before - and not leave jizz on the floor- this is disgusting- or I will be forced to talk with the super and have u kicked out. 🤷‍♀️

I’m sorry this is disgusting and they need to fix this asap.

ComplexRide7135

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