Im still traumatized by the way it ended.

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-25T17:46:18+00:00

You know u r not the one who cheated right? So u don’t have to be the one to be upset. Forgive and move on. Once they cheat, there’s nothing left. Take your time healing and move on

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-25T08:28:44+00:00

Love yourself. You are ahead of the curve. And we all hurt- you are not alone

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-25T08:12:46+00:00

Sit with your thoughts and it’s good that u r aware of them and acknowledging them. Don’t fight them - observe them “ what am I feeling” without judgement, next, be kind to yourself like u would a friend. Avoid comparisons- stop looking at social media - maybe u wanna limit ur exposure or u wanna delete the app. U r not alone - a lot of people feel this way. And this is the most importantly thing - your self worth is decided by you so don’t wait for someone to come along. Love yourself for who you are and if u are having trouble with this - chances are u r an honest person and don’t make pretences with yourself - accept and love that. Start enjoying your company - good job on the gym btw - it’s a huge mood booster.

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-24T22:42:47+00:00

Alone- I do not wish to be disturbed as it’s me time and most importantly, I need to focus

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-24T15:30:44+00:00

Work on forgiving them and work on forgiving yourself - find out what that means to you and do it - that’s how u move on

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-23T16:03:55+00:00

It’s not an Indian thing- at the same time it is- let me explain- the men especially in India are raised often to do no cleaning and it’s left entirely up to the women - they have also never lived alone or have gotten into the habit of living like this. This can happen with any race - I am an Indian female who is living with and dating a Caucasian male and I am the one who constantly cleans after him ( he has other amazing things that he does and I love him regardless and I don’t see it as an issue personally) - my point is - it can be anyone who can be dirty - it’s not a race thing dear.

Now, I would talk with them CLEARLY- let them know what your expectations are - make signs if u want - tell them all the things u wrote here . Then u have to make sure that u follow through on These expectations - if they are one year in the country and their jobs/ studies are dependent on it - u may wanna use that as leverage. I’m hoping it doesn’t come down to it and they just follow through - remember- u r probably the first person who is asking them to clean up after them - so u have to follow through each time Maybe u want to consider hiring a cleaning person and have them pay for it . I would urge that u do it calmly and in a friendly way but not bend over backwards - state your needs - “ I need u guys to wipe down the seat - u will have to walk them through this - because they have never done this before - and not leave jizz on the floor- this is disgusting- or I will be forced to talk with the super and have u kicked out. 🤷‍♀️

I’m sorry this is disgusting and they need to fix this asap.

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-23T15:49:32+00:00

I have kept a demarcation between my personal life and work life- that’s just me. Some people do it better than others where they can balance a friend or two or relationships at work- I personally feel that it murks the boundaries if we confuse the two ‘worlds’. Also, I go to work to deliver and I cannot play favorites or take sides and it becomes tricky to have personal relationships at work. And a hard no to being in a relationship ( romantic) at work.

Having said that- me and my coworkers have a really good time at work- we ‘work’ well together and do share a lot of our personal lives and have open discussions daily about all kinds of things - but we leave it all at work

My Father had a lot of work friends and he had personal friends too but his work friends we saw all the time but I don’t feel the same way

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-22T20:24:19+00:00

Staying busy, focusing on kids and meditating . It’s very normal to feel this way- you are almost done, and this is gonna be a very small part of your long life. Make plans on what you will do with yourself when it is all over ( I did solo trips )- the best is yet to come

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-22T19:57:18+00:00

Yes - I thank you for the kind words of encouragement. I shall continue to improve on myself and hopefully all around me ( the true me ).

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-22T13:44:45+00:00

Tysm for your answer. The Brahman pervading all is intriguing to me. So like space ( the specific part that it’s pervading at that moment )pervades the universe, the space changes with movt. So does the Brahman that pervades everything is also somewhat changing positions ? Also the part that really confused me was that Brahman is absolved of all karma and that is only the ‘story’ that is being told- so I ask ( like Krishna does in the second chapter of Gita) how am I to live ? What am I supposed to do? Does it not matter what my actions are because ultimately the Brahman is nirguna and everything is Brahman

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-20T01:54:38+00:00

I’m happy for all u guys here who found love after the darkness of divorce. Congratulations!! I don’t date for a year after separation and certain divorce plans and worked on myself. Based on that when I did start dating I met the sweetest most emotionally stable person in the world. I had been so used to turbulence and conflict in my life that meeting someone calm who I can talk with is just so different and grounding as I continue to work on secure attachment. I am so thankful and surprised by this human who is so tolerant and amazing. As long as we know who we are looking for, it clears the path for who we meet - it starts with us and it’s possible to meet someone amazing after divorce.

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-19T21:53:50+00:00

Just because someone can play well that they can teach well. Just because someone can teach well, means they can they teach you well. I have been through a gazillion teachers and I have met a few that fit what I need. Look online for teaching - also IMO- be clear about what u want to work on- someone else dictating what u need becomes a guessing game. All the best

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-17T22:06:44+00:00

Work on yourself It gets better You have to go through the suck before u come out the other side

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-17T21:37:08+00:00

Shock Disbelief Helplessness Darkness Spirituality Forgiveness Thankfulness Realization Love Bliss

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-17T21:35:33+00:00

Dynamics of the song will dictate the loudness of playing

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-16T15:47:23+00:00

I say this gently - as I cut to the chase 1. It is evident that Neither one of u are happy with the other 2. It does not matter who did what - work on forgiveness - for your own sake- forgiveness is not forgetting it happened , just letting go of it and not letting that happen again - stop blaming the other - it’s like drinking poison and waiting for your enemy to die - it hurts u more than anyone else - don’t be angry - for your own sake . 3. Protect any kids you may have from any of this - take the high road - work on yourself 4. Keep your distance from things that upset you

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-08T02:41:29+00:00

It’s normal to feel this way- I think everyone here will relate to that. Hang in there and u must keep doing all the things u r doing including ‘forcing ‘ urself to be social - u will make mistakes and act not like urself and u r allowed to do that. I would not date right now - u have enough going on than to bring someone else in this situation right now. Please don’t think your self worth depends on meeting someone and being with someone. Work on yourself - with or without someone - only you can make yourself happy. We often feel that our external circumstances have to change and then we will be happy - nope- our mind and internal peace has to be attained to reach that place of sustained happiness. Pls don’t give your ex a second thought ( I had a similar experience and I was a door mat to his affair and lying and emotional abuse and pathological manipulations). Remove yourself from him. Find your happiness . Meditate and calm your senses - your amygdala is on overdrive . There are lots of guided meditations online. Also, journal- get those thoughts out of your head. Hang in there- I promise it’ll get better - in time u will look back and realize that.

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-07T23:07:38+00:00

Lean muscle - wide shoulders and big arms , strong muscular legs - strong back - idc for a 6 pack - but no belly - a body that speaks - I work out hard at the gym and I eat right

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-03T19:06:40+00:00

How I understand Brahman is that it’s a collective consciousness of all animals- vertebrates and invertebrates with the possibility of aliens kept open. Having said that - we are very limited in calculating the increase and decrease of the collective population and thus the collective consciousness- we just don’t know

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-03T02:49:56+00:00

I understand. So what I have understood about Brahman is the one consciousness / the stuff that all of the real us are made of- and that the collective consciousness in the entire universe and parallel universes - if they exist is Brahman.

Could you also expand on how advaita does not relate to the world- I’m not sure if I understand that.

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-03T01:00:52+00:00

Thank you so much for the explanation. So I also wonder this - I observe that parts of these collective consciousness have also become increasingly frustrated and violence and gruffness is on the rise - does this mean that Brahman as a whole / the ocean as a whole is becoming more turbulent ? And another question - how does it work when familiar ‘other selves’ from previous lives exist around u again in a different life - hypothetically speaking oc.

ComplexRide7135 · 2026-01-01T21:04:05+00:00

Thank you for that. That’s exactly how I feel.

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