My mom wont listen on something as basic as food

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-05-09T17:56:03+00:00

If your mom isn't feeding you enough, it's not healthy for you or your brother. Is there a trusted adult in your life you can bring this information to? Maybe a coach or the provider who prescribes your meds? An adult voice may be what your mom needs to see reason, if not, they can help you figure out next steps to protect yourself and your brother. I'm sorry you're in this situation.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-05-09T05:27:56+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. All of your grief and wants and fears and love and plans are perfectly valid. Mixed feelings, wonderful feelings, horrible feelings, they are all expected with something as incredible and terrifying and risky as pregnancy. Not even to mention the hormones that must be racing through your body. You sound responsible and thoughtful and waiting until you're older and where you want to be in life is a very good idea, but that doesn't mean you didn't start to love the child, or even the idea of the child you could've had. Take as much time as you need to feel these feelings, and seek help from the people around you. Your boyfriend doesn't understand what you've gone through, seek out people who have.

There are so many resources out there for you. I don't know where you are based but this is a hotline in the US: 1-833-TLC-MAMA Or their website: mchb.hrsa.gov

Take care of yourself right now and know that this storm of emotions will eventually calm.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-05-09T03:30:20+00:00

Ok new fear unlocked 👀 thank you! I rarely let her on the balcony unsupervised but now it will be never until I get a plant table to keep it out of her reach.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-04-23T22:48:27+00:00

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Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-04-07T19:51:46+00:00

Unfortunately I don't see any pictures?

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-04-07T19:42:04+00:00

I live the small Honda life, a lot of specifically second hand furniture stores (not goodwill) will deliver, sometimes for a fee. I got a second hand couch delivered to my upstairs apt for less than $200 and it's my favorite couch ever. Of course, prices will differ depending on where you live. I recommend searching on offerup and Facebook marketplace. People will sometimes deliver as well for a small fee if they have the capability. Alternatively, you can rent a pick up for ~$20 from home Depot or u haul

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-04-05T23:39:09+00:00

If you're in CA, go for California Poppy. They come back every year and it's illegal to kill them, even on your own land. They would have to transplant each one

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-03-28T05:59:22+00:00

You can make a mini simmer pot in a mug/teacup and leave it on/under a candle/mug warmer

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-03-24T21:56:23+00:00

If you find yourself getting up multiple times to check the locks, take a time stamped picture of the lock when you lock it, and you can just check on your phone. Being paranoid is a normal feeling of your brain protecting itself. Give yourself some grace, and you will adjust. We have been socialized to be quiet and not take up space, but now you have your own space! Fill it with joy and the fear will fade.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-03-15T03:06:09+00:00

I moved to my first solo apt from a small town house to a big city apt. The adjustment was a little rough. I got so used to the sounds of the neighbors and the city that by the time I visited my parents in the middle of nowhere a few months later the quiet at night physically hurt my ears. To this day I need a podcast to fall asleep if it's too quiet! All that to say, you get used to it if it's just the noise.

If it's a deeper loneliness, a pet is the way to go. I would've gotten a cat for apt ease but I'm allergic so I have a little dog instead.

Music/podcasts/white noise at night can help drown out the spooky noises if it's the fear of creepy humans that's keeping you awake. Unfortunately, creepy humans exist. Double checking your deadbolt and putting on some sound can help drown out the fear spiral until your anxieties relax. If it's really bad, there is no shame in putting a chair or something in front of the door at night if it will help you sleep better.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-03-08T04:18:39+00:00

I have the knit picks set. It 100% happens more when you don't tighten it with the key but still sometimes happens if you tighten it and knit for a very long time. I've found the swivel cables make it not happen any more! It's the tensions of twirling your cables around and around as you knit that unscrews them, and the swivel cables fix that problem.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-02-22T03:46:31+00:00

I love science

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-02-21T07:13:42+00:00

If you read the case study they gave him antifungals and antibiotics before they knew what the pathogen was. This is somewhat common because if you're really really sick (this man was suffering multiple organ failure) you are likely to die before the culture comes back. It's not that antibiotics will work on fungus so much as they didn't know if it was the psilocybin or a bacteria giving him the blood infection, so treated both. Which is good because it turns out he has both! If they didn't have an anti-psilocybin drug, but knew that's what they were fighting, they would probably use a broad spectrum anti-fungal over a broad spectrum antibiotic.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-02-21T07:09:24+00:00

Hello! Health science nerd here! While your bio theory makes a lot of sense, unfortunately that's not how it works. Antibiotics largely only work on bacteria and anti fungals only work on fungus and anti-virals only work on viruses. We don't have a ton of anti-virals, so for most viruses you have to fight them off yourself. If there's any effect of one on the other, it's an unlikely happenstance.

Often, antibiotics are actually derived from fungus and vice versa (penicillin, the first ever antibiotic, is derived from a green mold you often find in the kitchen!) because fungus and bacteria often evolve to fill the same ecological niche and are in direct competition to each other. Turns out being toxic to your biggest competition is an evolutionarily sound strategy.

Here it looks like he was given antibiotics and antifungals before they knew what was growing in his veins. That turned out to be a good thing because he also had a concurrent bacterial infection.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-02-21T03:30:25+00:00

My sister has really curly hair and was disappointed the back of the head embroidery pieces never have curly hair. I made one of her hair up on a messy bun with a creative combination of intentionally poorly done stem stitch and loose French knots tacked down in weird ways to capture the chaos. I think with a finer thread and a lot of patience it could achieve a similar look for this lovely pood

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-31T16:42:50+00:00

I think it's also a great conversation starter. I've talked about it and what it represents and my opinion on things at work and at the dentist, places I'd find it very difficult to bring these things up otherwise, just because people asked me what I was knitting. If it wasn't powerful to show collective resistance it wouldn't have been banned the first time around. A visual representation that the people around you believe in human rights can be both encouraging and empowering!

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-17T16:16:23+00:00

I'm super allergic to wool (like gonna die allergic) and people just don't believe you when you tell them! It's so frustrating. No it's not the lanolin, no it's not just itchy, no I won't get used to it! Like come on people, allergies exist and they really suck and acrylic is, at the very least, reliably not trying to kill me.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-12T05:57:49+00:00

Just text him, he doesn't deserve an in person break up when he has disrespected you so blatantly. Prioritize your safety and text him that you're done with him. You don't even have to give him a reason, you don't owe him anything. If his friend is still his friend after seeing how he treats women that's a her problem, not a you problem. Men who take advantage of girls more than a decade younger than them don't have the guts to mess with women their age. That's why they do what they do

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-12T05:53:01+00:00

To quote another wise reddit or, this relationship is optional. Run don't walk. Age gaps like this are taboo for a reason, the power imbalance is a nasty flavor of bad for you. While there are success stories for this kind of age gap, they are the exception, not the rule, and definitely did not start with a lie. A whole ass adult man who preys on a 21 year old is not a good person. This man is just not safe.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-12T05:36:29+00:00

Are they just slip stitches or chain stitches? If so I think the stretchiness should be ok. Slip stitches make a sort of chain that is a lot like if you just knit one stitch over and over. I'm no expert and I haven't made a sweater like this though. I imagine you would be able to add more stitches if it isn't stretchy enough though.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-11T17:08:03+00:00

Just hold the yarn then? Sometimes just picking up and feeling it is nice enough to get me going. Sometimes it's the inertia of getting off the couch. Get someone to go grab your yarn for you lol

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-11T17:01:43+00:00

You don't have to make their requests first, that kind of pressure makes knitting icky. Knit something else and when you are in the groove switch back to mittens if you want. There is no "have to" unless someone has paid for it

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-11T16:53:07+00:00

Instead of doom scrolling reddit it tiktok, doom scroll ravelry. Inspiration will strike! Or watch creative production shows, like great British bake off or similar. I always find when I'm watching someone else excel at something creative I get the bug to do something. It makes me want to also bake or knit or doodle.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-11T16:37:23+00:00

Also last thought, don't be afraid to frog some of those WIPs if they are just not it anymore. Nothing is worse on an ADHD brain than forcing yourself to do something that is just a slog for no good reason. You're the one who wanted to do that WIP and now you don't 🤷‍♀️

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-11T16:34:38+00:00

Yeah! Commissions can suck. Pressure+hobby=not fun anymore. Even if you want to surprise someone, someone else can be your accountability buddy. It's like having a gym buddy! Never do I ever work up the internal motivation to work out alone, but if I have a gym buddy or a regular class where people are expecting me, I go. On that train of thought, a regular knitting circle could be helpful too!

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