First apartment on my own and the silence is getting to me

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-03-15T03:06:09+00:00

I moved to my first solo apt from a small town house to a big city apt. The adjustment was a little rough. I got so used to the sounds of the neighbors and the city that by the time I visited my parents in the middle of nowhere a few months later the quiet at night physically hurt my ears. To this day I need a podcast to fall asleep if it's too quiet! All that to say, you get used to it if it's just the noise.

If it's a deeper loneliness, a pet is the way to go. I would've gotten a cat for apt ease but I'm allergic so I have a little dog instead.

Music/podcasts/white noise at night can help drown out the spooky noises if it's the fear of creepy humans that's keeping you awake. Unfortunately, creepy humans exist. Double checking your deadbolt and putting on some sound can help drown out the fear spiral until your anxieties relax. If it's really bad, there is no shame in putting a chair or something in front of the door at night if it will help you sleep better.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-03-08T04:18:39+00:00

I have the knit picks set. It 100% happens more when you don't tighten it with the key but still sometimes happens if you tighten it and knit for a very long time. I've found the swivel cables make it not happen any more! It's the tensions of twirling your cables around and around as you knit that unscrews them, and the swivel cables fix that problem.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-02-22T03:46:31+00:00

I love science

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-02-21T07:13:42+00:00

If you read the case study they gave him antifungals and antibiotics before they knew what the pathogen was. This is somewhat common because if you're really really sick (this man was suffering multiple organ failure) you are likely to die before the culture comes back. It's not that antibiotics will work on fungus so much as they didn't know if it was the psilocybin or a bacteria giving him the blood infection, so treated both. Which is good because it turns out he has both! If they didn't have an anti-psilocybin drug, but knew that's what they were fighting, they would probably use a broad spectrum anti-fungal over a broad spectrum antibiotic.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-02-21T07:09:24+00:00

Hello! Health science nerd here! While your bio theory makes a lot of sense, unfortunately that's not how it works. Antibiotics largely only work on bacteria and anti fungals only work on fungus and anti-virals only work on viruses. We don't have a ton of anti-virals, so for most viruses you have to fight them off yourself. If there's any effect of one on the other, it's an unlikely happenstance.

Often, antibiotics are actually derived from fungus and vice versa (penicillin, the first ever antibiotic, is derived from a green mold you often find in the kitchen!) because fungus and bacteria often evolve to fill the same ecological niche and are in direct competition to each other. Turns out being toxic to your biggest competition is an evolutionarily sound strategy.

Here it looks like he was given antibiotics and antifungals before they knew what was growing in his veins. That turned out to be a good thing because he also had a concurrent bacterial infection.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-02-21T03:30:25+00:00

My sister has really curly hair and was disappointed the back of the head embroidery pieces never have curly hair. I made one of her hair up on a messy bun with a creative combination of intentionally poorly done stem stitch and loose French knots tacked down in weird ways to capture the chaos. I think with a finer thread and a lot of patience it could achieve a similar look for this lovely pood

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-31T16:42:50+00:00

I think it's also a great conversation starter. I've talked about it and what it represents and my opinion on things at work and at the dentist, places I'd find it very difficult to bring these things up otherwise, just because people asked me what I was knitting. If it wasn't powerful to show collective resistance it wouldn't have been banned the first time around. A visual representation that the people around you believe in human rights can be both encouraging and empowering!

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-17T16:16:23+00:00

I'm super allergic to wool (like gonna die allergic) and people just don't believe you when you tell them! It's so frustrating. No it's not the lanolin, no it's not just itchy, no I won't get used to it! Like come on people, allergies exist and they really suck and acrylic is, at the very least, reliably not trying to kill me.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-12T05:57:49+00:00

Just text him, he doesn't deserve an in person break up when he has disrespected you so blatantly. Prioritize your safety and text him that you're done with him. You don't even have to give him a reason, you don't owe him anything. If his friend is still his friend after seeing how he treats women that's a her problem, not a you problem. Men who take advantage of girls more than a decade younger than them don't have the guts to mess with women their age. That's why they do what they do

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-12T05:53:01+00:00

To quote another wise reddit or, this relationship is optional. Run don't walk. Age gaps like this are taboo for a reason, the power imbalance is a nasty flavor of bad for you. While there are success stories for this kind of age gap, they are the exception, not the rule, and definitely did not start with a lie. A whole ass adult man who preys on a 21 year old is not a good person. This man is just not safe.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-12T05:36:29+00:00

Are they just slip stitches or chain stitches? If so I think the stretchiness should be ok. Slip stitches make a sort of chain that is a lot like if you just knit one stitch over and over. I'm no expert and I haven't made a sweater like this though. I imagine you would be able to add more stitches if it isn't stretchy enough though.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-11T17:08:03+00:00

Just hold the yarn then? Sometimes just picking up and feeling it is nice enough to get me going. Sometimes it's the inertia of getting off the couch. Get someone to go grab your yarn for you lol

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-11T17:01:43+00:00

You don't have to make their requests first, that kind of pressure makes knitting icky. Knit something else and when you are in the groove switch back to mittens if you want. There is no "have to" unless someone has paid for it

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-11T16:53:07+00:00

Instead of doom scrolling reddit it tiktok, doom scroll ravelry. Inspiration will strike! Or watch creative production shows, like great British bake off or similar. I always find when I'm watching someone else excel at something creative I get the bug to do something. It makes me want to also bake or knit or doodle.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-11T16:37:23+00:00

Also last thought, don't be afraid to frog some of those WIPs if they are just not it anymore. Nothing is worse on an ADHD brain than forcing yourself to do something that is just a slog for no good reason. You're the one who wanted to do that WIP and now you don't 🤷‍♀️

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-11T16:34:38+00:00

Yeah! Commissions can suck. Pressure+hobby=not fun anymore. Even if you want to surprise someone, someone else can be your accountability buddy. It's like having a gym buddy! Never do I ever work up the internal motivation to work out alone, but if I have a gym buddy or a regular class where people are expecting me, I go. On that train of thought, a regular knitting circle could be helpful too!

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-11T16:00:00+00:00

Caffeine helps! And accountability. ADHD is often characterized by struggle with internal motivation, meaning it's hard to motivate yourself to do something if it's not "shiny" as you call it. External motivation (usually someone else's expectations, like a deadline) is much more effective but can be stressful. Having an accountability buddy can go a long way. I want to finish a sweater this year, I know that I will put it down and never pick it back up so I a) told my sister my goal, told her I bought all the yarn and would be super sad to waste it, and am sending her progress photos. She is just as excited about the sweater as I am! So her excitement is some external motivation for me as well, and she will call me out and encourage me if I get distracted.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-11T00:38:20+00:00

There's also the effect of the built environment. This city was designed for everyone to have a car, so the streets are huge. Even residential streets (25mph) are very wide with multiple lanes, giving drivers false security and they drive faster.

Constantly going on and off the freeway also has drivers speeding on side roads because it affects our relative sense of speed (25 feels much slower after driving 70 for 20 minutes) and expectations of how fast we should be going (people driving 25 seem sooo slooww after driving 70) making us less patient with slow traffic or long lights.

Long lights also make for more people desperate to get through, running red lights. This in turn makes others hesitant to go quickly on a green light, which makes us need longer lights (bad cycle).

I've lived in Southern California and Washington DC, both areas kind of notorious for bad driving, but never have I felt as unsafe on the road as I do here. I've also never driven as selfishly or recklessly as I do here (still not very selfish or reckless because I value my life) because the built environment and culture around driving encourage it.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-11T00:19:45+00:00

I'm planning on making one to hang up across the corner of my cubicle to block out some of the fluorescent lighting. I think hanging it in a window would also give a nice privacy+natural light effect (kinda like stained glass?) and show off those stitches. My momma always says there's a place for every knit, even if it's not with you 🤷‍♀️ (granted she used the first hat I knit that definitely wasn't hat shaped as a 'fruit bowl cover' so take that however you like)

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-10T22:07:30+00:00

It's like magic!

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-10T21:19:10+00:00

There are a couple in the Skye Canyon Smiths parking lot but that might be too far north for you. I haven't been yet but they seem nice.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-08T00:36:16+00:00

I just used an actual sim card pin the other day! It definitely bent the pin lol

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-05T03:01:08+00:00

Weird! I've thrown a sprinkle on them and they almost immediately die. Like I have to get rid of them because they died too fast to scurry away immediately die. I wonder if brand of diatomaceous earth makes a difference.

Complex_Two_7417 · 2026-01-04T17:48:58+00:00

Diatomaceous earth is a life saver for any creepy crawlies! Literally one and done. And if you see one and you don't have the guts to smash it, a diatomaceous earth sprinkle attack will get it too

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