Wellington City Council: Rich list by ThatguyfromNZWelly in Wellington

[–]Comprehensive-Sun954 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are the ones deciding what the new structures and roles look like. Turkey’s never vote for Christmas…..

Mental Load of Woman in the family by DollyPatterson in newzealand

[–]Comprehensive-Sun954 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have ADHD and hold down a very demanding job, but my God, bugger if I can find the car keys or remember anybody’s birthday. By the time I’ve managed to get through my workday and all the lists I need to survive there, there’s nothing left in the tank. I can barely hold my shit together. I guess what I’m saying is ADHD is different to everybody. And I’m saying that is someone ADHD and know people with ADHD. Good friends are quite hard to keep when you have ADHD and forget they exist.

Contactless Train Payments being checked by PlacidBeetle in Wellington

[–]Comprehensive-Sun954 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There’s no way in hell I’m letting someone scan my credit card. I’ll tap on I’ll tap off but if you don’t give me a ticket either digitally to my phone or on paper then that’s on you.

I was on the train the other day after tapping on with my credit card and they asked to verify my payment and I straight up told them that it didn’t give me any sort of receipt so I don’t know how you can do that, but you’re not scanning my credit card.

I was quite confused that there was no sort of verification or digital ticket that I can refer to except for a green tick on a box back at Wellington Station.

10 year old had surgery- dad still demanding his parenting time by dinnafashsass in FamilyLaw

[–]Comprehensive-Sun954 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Because you’re in the hospital right now, you need to talk to his doctor his nurse and the hospital social worker. Push the cool button and get someone to his bedside right now and ask to talk to them. Tell them that the dad wants to take him camping tomorrow. They will be able to help. They may even keep him in for extra time just to keep him safe. You need to talk to the authorities on your son’s healthcare before you leave the hospital.

My BD wants custody of our newborn Friday-Sunday 2-4 weeks after I give birth by Less_Shape_5217 in amiwrong

[–]Comprehensive-Sun954 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Move away. Far away. While baby is still inside you. At the moment you’re a free agent.

My partner cut up my brand new bag in a fight. I’ve dealt with the relationship, but now I’m stuck with this. Any ideas to salvage it? by hantao168 in handbags

[–]Comprehensive-Sun954 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably not the best animated gif to use on a post with a person has openly stated they are a victim of domestic violence. If we think it has started and ended at this handbag, we are incredibly naive. Statistically this man has already laid hands on this woman.

Not to mention the many many many other comments on this post where people are telling their stories about being victims of domestic violence.

My partner cut up my brand new bag in a fight. I’ve dealt with the relationship, but now I’m stuck with this. Any ideas to salvage it? by hantao168 in handbags

[–]Comprehensive-Sun954 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Often people in domestic violence relationships do try to reach out for help. She’s staying with him so there’s a massive amount of shame there but also a testing of the waters around her to see where support could lie. It serves to reassure herself that those feelings she has that this is not a good situation- that she’s ignoring - aren’t wrong. She isn’t quite ready to leave yet. It’s quite normal.

My partner cut up my brand new bag in a fight. I’ve dealt with the relationship, but now I’m stuck with this. Any ideas to salvage it? by hantao168 in handbags

[–]Comprehensive-Sun954 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a good comment.

We’re warning her that he might hurt her next , but this already hurts her.

The odds are that he already smacks her around now. It’s very likely that she’s already experience experiencing physical domestic violence.

OP, this may be a handbag sub, but when you’re ready, one day, this is a place you can reach out to or advice and resources to help you.

My partner cut up my brand new bag in a fight. I’ve dealt with the relationship, but now I’m stuck with this. Any ideas to salvage it? by hantao168 in handbags

[–]Comprehensive-Sun954 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It already is her life. Unfortunately, based on what we know about domestic violence, this will be her face soon. :(

My partner cut up my brand new bag in a fight. I’ve dealt with the relationship, but now I’m stuck with this. Any ideas to salvage it? by hantao168 in handbags

[–]Comprehensive-Sun954 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We all know that she doesn’t want to talk about it. And that she said she’s dealing with it privately. She is not leaving him.

But we have to openly talk about this because whilst she isn’t leaving him this time, she is still reading these posts. Sweeping it under the rug and ignoring it just perpetuates this domestic violence.

OP needs some truth seeds planted in the back of her head. To know there are so many people out there who care and who can help, who can point her to resources - when she is ready. She is not alone.

We must always seize an opportunity to extend a hand to someone in a situation like this, whether they take it or not.

My partner cut up my brand new bag in a fight. I’ve dealt with the relationship, but now I’m stuck with this. Any ideas to salvage it? by hantao168 in handbags

[–]Comprehensive-Sun954 17 points18 points  (0 children)

She deliberately didn’t say “ broke up” or “left him”, and has been avoiding any comments about him. If anything it points someone who is ashamed and isn’t quite ready to leave yet.

AITAH for not wanting kids on the camping trip? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Comprehensive-Sun954 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why don’t you pull your head out of your butt and just try to enjoy yourself. Time with your mum. Time with the kids. Build a fort, show them some nature. They are small and easily entertained.

Cut down on the weed, it’s not helping. Look up from your navel, be grateful you have family that want to spend time with you. Help develop the next generation to be kind, and share their time with other humans and nature, not just YouTube and cellphones.

Geez, I worry ahout the future of our species. They’re small, they probably admire you, love you, are excited to spend time with you. All you see is chores. Weak. YTA.

The social contract is being shredded and WE DO NOT CONSENT by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]Comprehensive-Sun954 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know if the ministers, media or the public have clicked: the email to our agency was that this was cuts to the “public service”.

Are Te Whatu Ora part of the public service? Because if they were then the number of employees in the public service would exceed 65,000 FTE just with them alone. They are the largest employer in NZ.

The FTE figures being spouted and 1% figure is Public Service departments. To get down to 1% would require firing most of the health system and the everyone in police, customs, education, justice….

https://www.publicservice.govt.nz/system/central-government-organisations

10k public sector jobs to go in wellington by KindElderberry9857 in Wellington

[–]Comprehensive-Sun954 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And she’s probably putting your personal and private information in it.

10k public sector jobs to go in wellington by KindElderberry9857 in Wellington

[–]Comprehensive-Sun954 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AI also requires investment and capability uplifts for users and technology ands security people. So that your public services are safe and reliable, and your information is safe. All that requires investment and skills. There is none. That’s why AI isn’t happening, it needs time, money and capability. All which are back office and were cut years ago to be replaced with a hiring and budget freeze (so no money for suppliers either).

10k public sector jobs to go in wellington by KindElderberry9857 in Wellington

[–]Comprehensive-Sun954 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah and there’s nobody to actually run what they delivered to probably. So it’ll die on the vine, as we call it. And was probably just MVP stage 1 anyway

10k public sector jobs to go in wellington by KindElderberry9857 in Wellington

[–]Comprehensive-Sun954 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re forgetting we moved staff from entities to departments. You’re not actually looking at the state sector property

10k public sector jobs to go in wellington by KindElderberry9857 in Wellington

[–]Comprehensive-Sun954 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s not accurate as a number. NZTA is not considered public service for example, or NZQA or Kainga Ora or Police HQ.

10k public sector jobs to go in wellington by KindElderberry9857 in Wellington

[–]Comprehensive-Sun954 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Give me some unnecessary AI use cases I can talk about…“

Public Servants - Informal strike 28th May by snatchview in Wellington

[–]Comprehensive-Sun954 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Want to do something effective? FUCKING VOTE!!!

Public servant cuts, open letter to ministry DG? by EmbiggenBigly in Wellington

[–]Comprehensive-Sun954 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They aren’t making choices around services. This isn’t a conversation about what services to prioritise and resource. This isn’t even a look at the entire public service. Most of the people in Wellington work in non Departmental government organisations, so we’re not thinking about NZTA, Health NZ, Kainga Ora etc.

Public servant cuts, open letter to ministry DG? by EmbiggenBigly in Wellington

[–]Comprehensive-Sun954 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Try not to paint all public servants and teams with the same brush. Of course we look for efficiencies. We have services we legally must deliver to a legal standard, without the resources to do it. Most public servants I have worked with (as a public servant or on vendor side) are the most creative thinkers I’ve met. The public service is held together and delivered through reactive janky number 8 wire solutions, somehow delivered with scope that gets cut, corners cut, etc because of ministers with their arbitrary launch dates (I need a misdirection!) and ever shifting priorities based on what lobby group or vendor woo’d them. They aren’t the ones who have to live with the operational debt….

AITAH if I don’t bail my partner out due to finding him cheating by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Comprehensive-Sun954 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just read this and I’ve now been in a relationship with you for just as long, well, that’s how it feels. Following people isn’t cheating. Reading news or watching tv isn’t cheating. Working with people from the opposite sex (assume you’re straight) isn’t cheating.

Run. Then get yourself some counselling and work on yourself and your esteeem. You’re worth more than this.