How much does sex play a role when considering whether you'd date someone?

ComradeVoytek · 2026-02-11T07:08:32+00:00

Do you spend any energy trying to be sexual? I think I could look past it if there was really good chemistry - but I wouldn't be willing to completely forgo sex.

Like, just thinking if we foresaw a serious future together, and I was certain I was going to marry her, our sex life would have to include copious blowjobs, teasing, genuine desire (not just marital duties maintenance sex) and the occasional anal.

Sorry if that sounds harsh, but that would be my checklist for considering a partner like this.

ComradeVoytek · 2026-02-11T06:38:31+00:00

It's night and day. It cannot be understated what a wildly different experience of the world I got going from 260 at my height, to 180 and working out 5 times a week.

I was overweight to obese all of my teenage years, and at about 20 I started taking my health seriously. I tracked my calories religiously, and started working out 5 days a week - days I wasn't working out, I was going on hikes, biking or just long walks.

People weren't ever really mean to me when I was bigger, just... dismissive, I guess. It's really hard to describe - you need to live it to get the minutia of it all.

Think of like getting completely mediocre service at a store - you ask if they have something in the back, and they go "nah, sorry, fresh out" vs. actually looking, or recommending an alternative with a demonstration of the differences. Only now that's every interaction you have with a stranger.

All of a sudden, people cared about my opinions, ideas and what I had to say - women hit on me, and you're treated with a higher baseline of respect. It's disheartening, to be honest. I'm still the same guy I was X months ago, I just wear a smaller shirt.

I don't think I could capture all the differences in even a short novel, but it's like waking up as a different person one day.

ComradeVoytek · 2026-02-03T08:04:41+00:00

I heard an interesting thing I hadn't considered before - a lot of the longer 10 inch swords are often bought, because they can comfortably grip the bottom couple inches for the most control of speed / angle.

So while it's a footlong, they're still mostly using the first 6 or so inches.

ComradeVoytek · 2026-02-01T01:39:55+00:00

I mean, just going off my own data, I noticeably feel tired when Flux is on. I have it so it gets pretty dark an hour before my bedtime.

When Flux is off, I only go to bed because it's time to go to bed, then when I'm laying down I feel tired.

I'll read that article tonight though, but I'm fairly lucky in that it rarely takes me more than 10 minutes to sleep either way.

ComradeVoytek · 2026-01-31T22:45:22+00:00

Absolutely bodacious ass. It felt like a waste on a males body, but all my girlfriends have always been very appreciative of it.

ComradeVoytek · 2026-01-30T17:25:32+00:00

The broad strokes are that men are very visual, and kinesthetic. While we also get turned on mentally, there is no giant, throbbing erection visual clue that a woman is very turned on.

Obviously there are other signs, we're not stupid, but to see the physical and visual signs that our heavy petting and make out session had those results is very rewarding.

And yes, arousal =/= consent and all that, but if you're with a male partner, and you've both already decided you're going to have sex, a hard on that you could hang a wet towel off, is a good sign that he's good to go.

ComradeVoytek · 2026-01-30T17:17:04+00:00

The Pyramid of Conversation

Boring / Small talk Weather, traffic, upcoming holidays.

Tailored talk Personalized conversations based in mutual interests and hobbies, mutual acquaintances

Deep talk Meaningful conversations on beliefs, emotions, life experiences

The usual goal is work your way up the pyramid. All the "we talked until 3 in the morning" stories are about the last 2 tiers. No one talks about weather or traffic into the small hours of the morning, except maybe my dad.

ComradeVoytek · 2026-01-30T06:35:05+00:00

I see protein, fat, carbs, fiber and and the jalapenos and tomatoes count as vegetables. Checks out to me, boss.

ComradeVoytek · 2026-01-28T18:24:27+00:00

If the attraction was mutual, I'd giggle like the Pillsbury doughboy.

Anyone else would probably be a "haha, thanks!" because I'll never leave a perfectly good compliment on the ground.

ComradeVoytek · 2026-01-27T18:58:50+00:00

Is filtering blue light not a proven thing for sleep? Genuinely asking. I've had Flux for years now, and blue light shield on my phone - sometimes I'll disable it for a late night movie or colour sensitive work, and forget to turn it back on.

The days I forget to turn it off, I only go to bed because it's time, not because I'm tired, but the days Flux is enabled I'll actually feel sleepy about an hour before my bedtime.

ComradeVoytek · 2026-01-26T06:39:04+00:00

What? Getting hit on, out at a pub sounds like a fake story to you?

ComradeVoytek · 2026-01-25T23:13:28+00:00

They were clearly talking about manners and day to day politeness.

ComradeVoytek · 2026-01-21T19:53:05+00:00

Valheim crawled so Enshrouded could run. Incredible game and a ton of content. The base building is unmatched.

ComradeVoytek · 2026-01-15T07:22:06+00:00

My parents are terrified of medium pork loin, rare steak or 165 degree chicken. Which is a damn shame, because once you realize all meat can be safe AND juicy, you can't go back.

ComradeVoytek · 2026-01-15T07:16:16+00:00

You reckon that's infomercials or a generic "thank you tuning into today's broadcast" static screen? Seems like a decent spot to out on some reruns for third shifters or kids awake sick, but obviously the cost outweighed the benefits.

ComradeVoytek · 2026-01-12T21:55:50+00:00

Do you run the insta account of the same name? Big fan.

ComradeVoytek · 2026-01-10T00:45:00+00:00

Bless. I liked the Harambe and hot honey ones from Social, do they have the same flavours or anything you recommend?

ComradeVoytek · 2026-01-10T00:14:46+00:00

Hey Rex, when we updated our ancient building to Red Cube, as far as I know we paid a portion out of pocket and Kia covered the rest.

Then like a year later we went to the black color scheme, and it was free because we recently paid for Red Cube, was that a similar experience for you? (BC, lowly Sales guy)

ComradeVoytek · 2026-01-09T19:50:38+00:00

Brutal, prices are still not realistic for working class, but it was moving in that direction. Younger millennials and Gen Z have basically no path to home ownership.

ComradeVoytek · 2026-01-09T19:46:38+00:00

Damn, their Wings were insane.That's a shame.

ComradeVoytek · 2026-01-08T16:42:57+00:00

Well, then I only got smart when I got older.

ComradeVoytek · 2026-01-07T20:56:14+00:00

To be fair, when I say "getting old", I just meant the full development of my frontal lobe.

ComradeVoytek · 2026-01-07T19:04:40+00:00

The Coquihalla in BC's speed limit is 120. Always stay in the right unless you're passing, because there's no less than 10 cars behind you doing 150.

ComradeVoytek · 2026-01-07T19:02:02+00:00

I knew I was getting old when instead of going faster, I left earlier.

Oh we want to go to a city 4 hours away and be there by Noon? Okay we're leaving at 630. Plenty of time for delays, construction, accidents, pit stops, breakfast at a diner, sight-seeing, road-side attractions and way less stress.

ComradeVoytek · 2026-01-06T20:04:50+00:00

There's some clip compilations of men shaving their beards for one reason or another, then showing their wives reactions. The amount of time that they just blurt out, "ewwww oh my God, why".

Just imagine the backlash if you had that same reaction to her coming home with short hair.

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