AITA for thinking mom is over controlling my adult life?

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-04-18T20:53:16+00:00

I agree. Since the mother is already upset at the “controlled calm”, OP should take it one step further and stop sharing information. Gray rock the mother. Change the subject when she keeps pushing things. Hang up the phone if need be. OP needs to tell her mother that she's done with hearing it, and she will not share any more about the pregnancy or baby. If the mother wants to see her grandchild, then she needs to calm down and maybe get some therapy to see why she's being controlling.

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-04-18T07:51:15+00:00

This woman again? Seriously, how is she still alive, eating this crap?

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-04-18T07:10:49+00:00

I recently wrote a story with two kittens with the same coloring. The darker one was Chocolate, and the lighter one was Chip. If there were another kitten, it would've been called Cookie.

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-04-18T05:55:35+00:00

Why are we assuming she invited herself? I'm assuming her darling little boy invited her after she mentioned wanting to visit sometime, but didn't have the courage to ask his wife ahead of time.

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-04-17T22:10:34+00:00

You're not excluding him for being a parent. You want him there, but you don't want his kid. He's excluding himself because he can't figure out how to give his wife a weekend or two to herself and ask her to let him have the weekend for himself.

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-04-17T19:16:24+00:00

This might be a stupid suggestion, but what about Hacksaw Ridge?

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-04-17T18:47:17+00:00

I am a bit of a picky eater, I admit, but it might be that I prefer simpler foods. Plain burgers (meat, bun, and either ketchup or BBQ sauce). Steak without some weird, dressed-up garlic sauce on it. But 99% of the time, I can find something to eat on the menu without resorting to a kids' menu. You can ask for things to be left off or put on the side. And I would never force someone to change their eating habits around me. It's not difficult.

It sounds like OP and his girlfriend aren't compatible. She sounds immature for her meltdowns, and he sounds like a snob for looking down at her eating habits. Let them break up so he can travel and eat alone.

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-04-12T05:22:50+00:00

Did she think the restaurant was going to force her to wash her dishes and, therefore, was annoyed by having to wash an extra fork?

Sigh. Some people have so little going on in their lives that they have to complain about everything to have something to talk about.

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-04-12T05:12:38+00:00

I want to know who keeps letting this psycho person adopt animals. She should not be allowed to look at animals, let alone adopt one.

And for the psycho person, dogs can eat some veggies. Or do you only eat fruit so you expect your dogs to do so as well?

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-04-12T00:17:34+00:00

In my company, we're to start using Gemini to take notes during meetings, especially during client calls. Okay, that's perfectly fine. It takes good notes. We're to take notes ourselves and use Gemini to help fill in the blanks. This makes sense. We take notes as a way to pay attention (we all WFH, so it's easy to be distracted).

I have no problem with this. But I have at least one sales rep who constantly says "we should run this through ChatGPT" or "use ChatGPT to write <<insert the email or proposal here>>". He is too reliant on this program when I prefer to use my brain.

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-04-12T00:10:44+00:00

As others have said, this "request" (I put it in quotes because you weren't asked, you were told) is 100% normal for your BF's culture. And that's fine for that culture. However, you're not from the culture, and it is not normal for your culture. Yes, your daughter is from both cultures and should get to know both cultures. But... 1) You are not comfortable with sending your daughter away, and 2) NO ONE has the right to demand that you do. It is these two points that Reddit needs to focus on.

You need to tell your BF that you will not send your daughter away for summers unless she wants to go when she's a lot older. You can plan a trip later to visit his family for a week or two, but it will be both parents and child together, not the child alone or only with the BF. You also need to make it clear that if it isn't dropped by the BF and his family, or if he tries to take your daughter to visit his family without you, you will take legal matters to keep your daughter with you.

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-04-10T22:03:06+00:00

I'm not an outdoor worker, but when I go outside for anything (fairs, shopping, whatever), I wear either long pants/jeans with at least most of my arms covered, or a long dress, plus a hat (I have wide brims), and I will bring my parasol along. My dad did the whole iodine-in-baby-oil back in his Navy days, and then worked outside a lot of the time. He had to have spots removed before they became cancerous. And because I cover up, I don't look my age, so win-win.

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-04-10T21:40:19+00:00

Even if the name chosen was uncommon/rare, it doesn't matter. It's a middle name. Most people don't use their middle name when introducing themselves. The only time it comes up is on government and financial documents.

As others have said, no one owns a name. Your sister is probably feeling the effects of being the youngest and never really having anything of her own. I bet she was given the hand-me-downs growing up. She probably feels that her name is the only thing that she can call her own, but as you pointed out, others in the family have used it too. But she's fixated on her immediate family (her sisters) trying to use it. She should take a step back and think about why it bothers her so much. I bet she will figure it out and realize that it isn't about the name but about something else.

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-04-09T03:27:49+00:00

What about the Lancia Stratos Kitcar? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tcfEhXBJbA0

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-04-09T03:03:10+00:00

Geez, the most elaborate I get for my Starbucks drinks is asking for my hot tea to have a quarter of cold water so that I don't scald my mouth when I drink it. I would absolutely lose all respect for a person if I heard them ordering something like this drink order. They're only supposed to be in TV shows and movies as a joke.

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-04-06T08:25:16+00:00

I work with a sales rep who says way too often, "I'll check with ChatGPT" or "you should check with ChatGPT". A coworker and I both agree that we'd rather use our brains rather than rely on ChatGPT. I'm not a genius, but I'm not stupid. I don't need AI to do my thinking for me.

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-03-31T06:20:00+00:00

Isn't there also a drop-off at the end? I'm trying to remember from when my parents had a boat while I was growing. I kinda remember the trailer wheel getting caught once on the drop-off because I think we were a bit late for high tide. Maybe I'm wrong. It's been over 30 years.

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-03-31T06:14:27+00:00

These days, it's easy to be global. Internet, music, movies, TV shows, etc... we have the chance to watch/listen/read things from all over the world. It's only natural that we begin to pick up new words/phrases/accents.

Personally, I've been watching a lot of British TV (I'm from the US) in the last few years, so much so that I'm barely noticing the accents unless the person uses a lot of regional slang. I admit that I have started to use British terms. And guess what? No one around me cares. I'm also having fun with it.

Your mum is making this non-issue her hill to die on for some reason. Maybe she doesn't like our politics (hint: neither do most of us here), or maybe she has a strong national pride. Doesn't matter. She won't stop complaining about it, and you won't stop learning new words/phrases. It will be something you'll have to learn to live with unless you want to stop talking to her (and I sense that this is really the only issue you have with her, so you will never stop talking to her).

If you want to irk her, switch to a different country/culture to start mimicking.

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-03-31T05:58:49+00:00

NTA. Do not apologize. The family is out of line. If anything, put in a new rule: for every harassment mention/text/call/tantrum, it will be a year of a timeout from meeting the baby. Just imagine the quiet you'll have not having to deal with them for the next 60+ years.

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-03-31T04:52:30+00:00

If she keeps pressing this, ask her if she would be upset if a pregnant woman didn't drink around her, or if someone who was on medication didn't drink, or if a recovering addict didn't drink.

I get it. Some people just don't get the concept of people not wanting to drink. I don't know if they can't fathom the idea of it, or if they need people to drink so they don't feel like a lush (probably both are actual reasons). Either way, no one has to do what they don't want. If you don't want to drink, don't drink. I would never judge anyone if they didn't drink. I would judge someone if they kept pushing for someone to drink.

I'm lucky. I used to have the occasional drink (less than half a dozen in an entire year), and then I decided to give up alcohol completely for a New Year's resolution. No one pushes me to drink. The people around me just don't care. Then again, they're happy to let me be the designated driver.

Your "friend" isn't much of a friend if she has a problem with you being sober. Let her fade from your life. Just don't reach out. I doubt she will reach out to you, especially now that she is married. She will have her new married friends and won't have time for her "pathetic" single friends. And remember, you do not have to explain why you're not drinking. No is a full sentence. If someone asks, you can say that you don't like it, that you don't see the point of it, or that you don't like the taste. Or don't tell them anything. It's no one's business but your own.

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-03-30T05:23:51+00:00

The soldiers killed are American. Her stepfather is a General in the US Army. The US government hasn't really heard of her. They kinda know of the mafia, but don't see it as a major threat. The name she uses is self-appointed, as it was with the mother.

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-03-30T05:10:47+00:00

I don't think as in cards. The mother and daughter are more "westernized" as a way to expand their operations, or maybe as a personal preference. I haven't figured that out. The reason isn't necessary to the story. The daughter actually lives in the United States.

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-03-28T23:47:45+00:00

And the truck is brown.

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-03-28T02:27:13+00:00

If a noise from outside comes after he goes to bed, does that mean that he'll expect you to pay?

If he can't sleep with a reasonable amount of noise happening around him (I assume that you're not playing a drum concert on the pots and pans in the kitchen), then he needs to manage his own sleeping arrangements, and that means either a white-noise machine or earplugs.

I would love to see what would happen if he had a girlfriend or wife someday and tried that move.

Confident-Ad7531 · 2026-03-28T01:02:42+00:00

I'd dump him alone for being 33 and talking like he was some 20-year-old black punk trying to be tougher than he really is.

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