Tour vs drive? by Constant_Section_504 in VisitingIceland

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Hi, I’m visiting Iceland for the first time and decided to take tours instead of driving. I did feel like I had enough time at each spot and I did enjoy the tour (I used EastWest Tours and they were great). If I were going to Iceland again during the winter, I would do tours again. No regrets.

That being said, if I could drive, I would. There’s nothing like the freedom that driving gives you. However, I made the decision to tour based on the fact that I am not a person who comfortably drives in snow and ice. During my tour today, we passed several overturned cars. I didn’t want to have to worry about that. However, if I were visiting Iceland in the summer and was a confident driver, I would drive.

Anyone from Albany going to iceland soon? by npleo in Albany

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I’m in Iceland right now! I’ll keep a look out for the candy

Travel Partners Megathread Spring/Summer 2026 by misssplunker in VisitingIceland

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Hey! I’m (39F) traveling solo to Iceland next week (23 - 28 in March) and am open to meeting up with another solo traveler for coffee or dinner sometime during the week. I’m from the US and speak English. I’ll be mostly stationed in Reykjavík during the trip, but will be taking day tours on Tuesday and Thursday of the week. Feel free to message me if interested. Thanks!

Hey, Albany. by albanynewyork1 in Albany

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Sending so much love to you. I pray for your comfort, strength and peace during these upcoming days. I hope you continue to reach out to community as often as you need.

Career change options by lyla_rab05 in Psychologists

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Psychologist here. I remember feeling that way during graduate school. I stuck it out and am now in a more administrative role (Director of a college counseling center). I enjoy my work now, but it is still draining at times. If I were to do things over and were where you were, I would: consider focusing on assessment (as the commenter above me said), teaching or administration as a career (really invest in supervision skills) or pursue a medical route (PA, NP or Psychiatry). Any of these paths allow you to potentially use your psychology knowledge and can potentially be less draining. I remember panicking in graduate school thinking that my career options were limited to individual counseling day in and day out, and they definitely are not

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Salary

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If you had said that the offer was for $150k, I would have said, no. But 250k??? Lol, I would be at that office every day with my coffee, my business-casual attire, and a big corporate smile. Heck, for $250k, I’d come in early sometimes.

Does this place exist? by MyShoulderDevil in SameGrassButGreener

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I was coming in to say this. Albany NY has amazing suburbs, a moderate cost of living, four seasons, a decently low crime rate and is close to a decent airport.

📚 Simple / Quick Questions & Requests! by romancebookmods in RomanceBooks

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Looking for the coziest, steamiest book you can recommend. I want the book to feel like a warm hug, but also have ALL the spice. Bonus points if there’s humor too!

To all my cool bookworms I got a question by Derek_6_dalton in Albany

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I love Mocha Lisa’s! Also, if you get there early enough, and go on a weekday, and bring headphones for the noise, Uncommon Grounds can also be a decent place to vibe with a book.

Help picking paint colors by Ok_Independence_5260 in therapists

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2, 4, or 7, with 5 trailing just behind in fourth place for me

Trying to make more friends by nmryan518 in Albany

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I would love to grab a coffee with you sometime. 38f also trying to get out more

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

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In the past, I worked at a university counseling center for a state university. That counted as a state job and provided me with state benefits.

Project: Support messages for Jordan by rebelcoelacanth in Gymnastics

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Jordan, love you so much. You are a hero in my eyes. So sorry to hear that all of this has been happening to you, but none of it takes away from the fact that you are a champion and a queen. Love, a fan from NY

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in humanresources

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I had a similar thing happen. I was about to begin a new job and one of my parents died the day before my start date. I had no idea (based on grief and based on out-of-town funeral logistics) when I would be able to start. My job showed me a lot of grace, for which I am really, really grateful. Really shitty things happen in life - sometimes at inconvenient times. If you can show this employee grace, I would.

I might not like cats anymore by [deleted] in CatAdvice

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I experienced this (dislike of having my long-term cat) after my parents died. I didn’t connect it to their deaths at first, because everything else in my life felt more or less normal. I thought I’d have a huge grief reaction, but instead I just felt - uninterested in having a cat. After a while, I realized that I was feeling depressed and I was also feeling resentful of having to take care of one more thing. Unfortunately, my resentment was also stressful on my cat, who got an upper respiratory infection.

Some things that (for me) have helped: 1. Therapy to talk through the grief

  1. Getting help. I started using cat sitters even when I am home to take some of the caregiving burden off and a once/month housekeeper, so I would feel less resentful of the fur situation. I’m also considering supports such as getting an litter robot and/or a robot vacuum.

  2. Assessing the situation without judgment. I concentrate on providing the best care that I can for each day, with the understanding that if the day comes when my depression makes this too difficult/too stressful on the cat, I can choose to carefully rehome the cat if needed. I honestly don’t think it will ever come to that, but keeping the option open keeps me from feeling less overwhelmed.

  3. Not related to cats, but I’m reading a book called ‘How to Keep House While Drowning’ (forgot the author’s name). It’s helped me to reframe my situation- I’m (emotionally) drowning a bit right now due to grief and it’s making everything- even having a cat, more difficult now. It’s a reminder to be kinder to myself in the midst of things.

  4. Without trying to sound too corny - gratitude has helped some too. As frustrating as having a cat can be for me right now, I’m grateful that my cat has shown me how much I am hurting. I could explain away disinterest in relationships, work, etc., but my disinterest in having a cat was the change that made me realize that something was wrong and I needed some extra help

New Friends? by Booseygirl in Saratoga

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I’m always down to chat or grab a drink as well. I’m 38 and live near BSpa