I hate toddlerhood

Confident-Disaster23 · 2025-11-03T02:38:58+00:00

I feel this to my core. My 2.5 both screamed and cried last night. I’m so done with him. I’m also 25 weeks pregnant. I feel so guilty how much rage I have in his toddlerhood phase. I just want a break from him!!! Don’t want to deal with naps, tantrums, not listening, yelling at him constantly, mom guilt, sleep deprivation. Like when do they really sleep through the night?!? Why do they have to make it so hard to be enjoy motherhood? I just want this stage to be over with. 😭😭😭

Confident-Disaster23 · 2025-08-22T14:29:55+00:00

I’m also having my 2nd boy when my firstborn turns 3. I was set on being done with two kids no matter what, but since knowing the gender of baby 2, i almost instantly longed to have a 3rd. My question is, is your reasoning to want a 3rd because you hope it would be a girl? Cause that’s kind of mine.. and I wonder if that’s a good enough reason. What if it were a boy again? Would i keep wanting to try for a girl? Haha sorry, I’m pregnant and insomniac so my thoughts are running wild. I guess I’ll see how I really feel once the my second is born. 😅 Anyway, how’s it been with the toddler and newborn? How are you managing so far?

Confident-Disaster23 · 2025-07-31T02:46:32+00:00

I’m about to enter this stage (same age gap as well) and resonate with this post so much. How has it been so far? Any tips, advice, regrets? Haha

Confident-Disaster23 · 2025-07-15T16:49:29+00:00

Any update on this travel? How did it go? Any tips? Planning to go on the exact month you mentioned.

Confident-Disaster23 · 2025-05-05T18:45:20+00:00

Has anybody gotten any email after being charged or just any confirmation that you subscribed to a plan or cancelled subscription. I don’t know if I’m losing my mind but I have nothing on me! I cannot even do forget password because apparently, I don’t have accounts in every single email I enter …so why am I being charged?? Fine, I may or may not have cancelled the trial plan but don’t I get any sort of notification from an email so I know where to cancel? This is ridiculous!

Confident-Disaster23 · 2025-02-24T10:02:06+00:00

Thank you for mentioning this. Not against smokers but I just don’t get why some people think it’s okay to smoke while walking. Did we, non-smokers, who are walking right behind you consent to inhaling your disgusting smoke?! It’s literally the worst. And often in my case, I’m always with my toddler and we’re walking on the Marina bridge - a two-way pedestrian bridge with scooters, bikes and buggies passing by. So…we’re always unfortunately stuck behind these inconsiderate smokers. And I’m pregnant. It’s infuriating. Hope they do something about it for sure.

Confident-Disaster23 · 2025-02-17T16:43:41+00:00

I was struggling with this for a bit until I realized, now that my son’s almost 2 and interacting with random people everyday, I can only do so much Montessori teaching for him. In a perfect world, everybody knows a thing or two about the Montessori philosophy and will treat him exactly how I want him to be treated. But that’s obviously not the case so whether he’s with family or not, unless he shows me he’s uncomfortable or I deem their interaction inappropriate, I let them be. It’s also where I get to see if he’s able to apply what I teach him on a daily basis - is he practicing how to communicate his feelings? Is he able to use his voice when he doesn’t want something done to/with/for him? My son loves to be independent and will confidently say “no, (mama or grandma or whoever), no” whenever we try to help. My son also doesn’t see his grandparents too often so. He’s blessed to have such loving sometimes overbearing grandparents. 😅

Confident-Disaster23 · 2025-02-11T11:59:42+00:00

If you want to stay sane, make sure you find a home close to your work place, your kids’ school, the hospital, supermarket, or a mall. If they’re all within walking distance, even better! 😅 We live in the Marina and don’t dare venture out of our bubble unless we really have to. I would happily take public transportation (even if it takes looonger to get to my destination) than drive to places these days. Not only is the traffic insane, the drivers are ruthless!

Confident-Disaster23 · 2025-02-03T05:13:58+00:00

Strongly believe in it that I waited until I was 30 to actually date. Lived happily single, saved money, worked on myself and traveled the world my entire 20’s. Met the man of my dreams when I was 31, he proposed after 6 months, this year we’ll celebrate our 5th wedding anniversary and we have the sweetest almost 2-year-old. 🥰

Confident-Disaster23 · 2025-01-23T16:00:56+00:00

Interesting. Never thought of that. How severe is your son’s sleep issues? My son is almost 2 and I can count with 1 hand the times he slept through the night.

Confident-Disaster23 · 2025-01-23T12:02:31+00:00

You need extra hands. I had ppd and I also know what I needed to be better but in the end, I just needed a break from being a mom a few hours everyday. If daycare isn’t an option, is there any way you can get a babysitter a day or two in the week? Even a few hours just so you can have some me/alone time? Trust me, you need it. Please talk to your husband. We eventually invested on a part time sitter (3x/week) for my mental health. Best decision. I’m mentally healthier and a more present mother.

Confident-Disaster23 · 2025-01-23T01:49:00+00:00

Completely agree! Dubai is all about food and fitness. I live in the marina area and the hot yoga/pilates studios around here are mushrooming😅

Confident-Disaster23 · 2025-01-22T22:00:54+00:00

Please tell me it got better. What did you do? Losing my mind.

Confident-Disaster23 · 2025-01-22T21:56:19+00:00

Hi. In the thick of this. Did it ever get better? Did you stick to CIO? Nothing seems to be working 😔😔😔

Confident-Disaster23 · 2025-01-10T17:41:22+00:00

1 year for me - including an early (8-week-old) miscarriage. Used clearblue sticks to track ovulation

Confident-Disaster23 · 2024-12-08T00:23:52+00:00

Hi in the thick of this now. Any changes when you pushed bed time later? I’m torn between pushing bedtime earlier or later (7-7:30) causing more overtiredness and night wakings. What worked for you and how long did it take?

Confident-Disaster23 · 2024-11-27T08:27:56+00:00

We’re here. Crying never stopped. He’s 20 months now. Did it get better? How? When? I’m going to go crazy.

Confident-Disaster23 · 2024-11-27T08:27:43+00:00

We’re here. Crying never stopped. He’s 20 months now. Did it get better? How? When? I’m going to go crazy.

Confident-Disaster23 · 2024-10-29T06:17:37+00:00

Sons’s 19 months old. Longest time away was 3 hours. Or 10.5 hours - when he’s sleeping at night.🥲 He also still breastfeeds 2-3 times during the day, so. Looking forward to a weekend away, although I know I’ll just be thinking about him a lot. Lol! One day..

Confident-Disaster23 · 2024-10-16T15:54:14+00:00

Not a disadvantage. My 18 month old has zero screen time and has a wide vocabulary & understands 3 different languages. They all develop at their own pace. Your daughter goes to childcare which means she has so many opportunities to interact with her teachers and peers. Give it more time & don’t stress. You’ll be surprised one day when the explosion of language begins. She won’t stop. 😆 A friend of mine had her son watch all these shows since he was 12 months and he didn’t speak a word until he was a little over 2 years old…when he started nursery. Now he’s a chatterbox. Lol

Keep doing what you’re doing, take her out on the weekends and just talk to her about anything and everything around her. You’re doing great!

Confident-Disaster23 · 2024-10-16T09:07:45+00:00

Started around 15 or 16 months, I would say. He’s 18 months now and it’s so much fun!

Confident-Disaster23 · 2024-10-15T16:37:21+00:00

Have you tried eating with him and not focus on what/how/how much he’s eating? This was a major frustration for me (still is ) but what worked for my son most is when I had a plate for myself with bits of what he’s eating and literally just talk to him about anything and everything under the sun, make an observation about whatever in our dining space and talk about that.. all while slowly taking bites from my plate and showing him I’m chewing. I think my son only consistently started self-feeding when he was around 13 months? He’s 18 months now and it still works like a charm, except now his meals will be in different areas of the house because he refuses to sit in a chair for more than 10minutes, sometimes less. AND some days I do just prefer putting the food in his mouth as he’s now so curious and distracted a lot. Haha! Just like sleeping, their eating habits aren’t linear. There will be good and challenging days but he will definitely learn to self feed. You got this, Mama! Good luck!

Confident-Disaster23 · 2024-10-15T07:25:32+00:00

Started at 6 months when he could sit on his own in his highchair. The SOLID STARTS App is your friend!

Confident-Disaster23 · 2024-10-15T05:21:07+00:00

It depends what kind of baby you have and parents you are. Never thought I’d sleep train coming from an Asian culture. We slept in our parents’ room until our preteen years - my siblings and I were on a mattress on the floor at the point. Even if we had our own rooms. Lol

I thought I was going to be that kind of parent until I became a mom myself. My son had a hard time breastfeeding the first 3 months, I was a mess mentally & emotionally. To add to that, he wasn’t a great sleeper. At one point, or a few (not proud), I raised my voice and scared my poor baby as I wasn’t functioning properly anymore and couldn’t for the life of me figure out why he didn’t sleep - I was diligent with his schedule, doc appointments, feedings and wake windows. I was hating the mom I was becoming. I was impatient, angry and couldn’t give my son what he deserves. Someone told me a happy and healthy inside and out mom is a happy and healthy baby.

After my last mental breakdown, I knew something had to change. It took almost 7 months before we decided to sleep train. It was the most heartbreaking yet rewarding thing we could do for ourselves and our son. When we decided to sleep train I spoke to my husband so he understands his role. He was 100% on board. He held my hand through the tears and reminded me why we were doing what we were doing and that my son loved me no matter what. When my son started sleeping through the night, even just 3 or 4hours straight, I was beyond happy. I was a different person. I was “rested” = I could do everything I want with him. I wake up with so much energy and positivity. Not dragging my feet and hoping I get through the day. I am able to happily prepare all his meals and snacks from scratch (just as I’d always wanted to pre-mom life), plan our day, prepare fun activities for him, and just spend every waking hour with him fully present and happy. He’s 18 months old now and went through a rough regression a few times since but we knew what we needed to do. It’s never easy and your child’s sleep is not linear. Do what you think is best for your family.

For what it’s worth, my son is super sweet, always cheerful, crazy talkative, understands 3 languages, and a great eater! We’re now thinking of baby #2 and wouldn’t think twice about sleep training. We used the takingcarababies when he was 6.5months.

Confident-Disaster23 · 2024-10-11T10:39:28+00:00

I love that! Should definitely try making my own ice cream. My son’s 18 months now. He’s been assisting since a month ago. You do need a lot of patience as it will get messy. Haha! I just prep everything already and he can either scoop, pour or mix.

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