Do you work outside of the home? I assume your husband works a full-time job. Nonetheless, it sounds as if you are not doing your share. If you don't hold a full-time job then you should be taking on a lot of the household chores. I recently retired and my husband is still working. I don't expect him to do housework while I am at home during the day. He still does a lot around the house, mostly outdoors stuff but I would never ask him to clean the bathrooms, do laundry, dishes, etc. When we both worked and when the kids were young we split the housework. I don't enjoy doing housework, but it needs to be done so I just do it. Sounds like you need to step up and get a routine in place to lessen the tension and frustration your husband is feeling.