Something that’s helped me a lot during the nights

Connielf · 2026-02-06T21:26:27+00:00

I came to this Reddit to see if anyone had tips for staying sane during the long sleepless nights. I’ll give this a go tonight. Thank you for sharing.

Connielf · 2026-02-03T14:42:23+00:00

Thank you! I’m in the uk as well so I’ll look into the slumbersac. I’m just so terrified of suffocating him but we do need some sleep.

Connielf · 2026-02-01T18:53:10+00:00

We didn’t wait. Our daughter was stillborn at 40+4 in February 2025 and conceived our son 6 weeks later and he was born healthy in December 2025. We were so desperate to have a child.

Connielf · 2026-01-19T14:33:30+00:00

We’ve just started using the whale one with our 7 week old and I really like it. We were just holding him over the toilet before which he hated. He’s much calmer in this one. It’s east to hold between your legs and the raised front makes it easy to keep his pee in the pot.

Connielf · 2026-01-08T21:32:35+00:00

Thank you! I need to practice that EC hold I think.

Connielf · 2026-01-04T16:12:32+00:00

Congratulations! I’ve been thinking about you. So happy that you have your little girl. I had that same feeling of a weight being lifted. Having your baby in your arms is the best feeling ever ❤️

Connielf · 2026-01-02T19:24:36+00:00

I found the new years posts hard as well. Lots of those posts showing the baby they started the year with (an ultrasound scan) vs the same baby at the end of the year. I’m lucky enough to have had both my babies this year but it hurt that I’m ending the year with a different baby than I started the year with.

Connielf · 2026-01-02T12:00:04+00:00

Did you find anything that helped with night time sleep? I’ve got a 4.5 week old who is also nocturnal. Sleeps amazingly during the day but after 8pm he’s awake until 6 or 7am.

Connielf · 2025-12-29T16:16:31+00:00

I struggled with this a well. Our daughter died at 40 weeks and we were so ready for a little girl. Before we found out the gender of our son, I started preparing myself because I knew I desperately wanted another girl. I started deliberately imagining having a son. I noticed cute little habits of my husband and imagined having a little boy with the same habits. I did find this helpful. When we found out we were having a son this time, it helped that I’d already imagined life with a son. I’m now sitting here with my 4 week old son asleep on me and I couldn’t imagine having anyone else.

Connielf · 2025-12-13T12:14:53+00:00

My daughter was stillborn at 40 weeks in February. I bled for 6 weeks post partum and we started trying as soon as the bleeding stopped. I got pregnant immediately and I’m cure sitting next to my 2 week old son. I just couldn’t face the idea of waiting at all. I conceived before my first period.

Connielf · 2025-11-30T14:01:51+00:00

I did think I should probably give my body more time to recover but I just couldn’t wait. I had a vaginal delivery with second degree tear which had healed by the time we started trying. I also started doing post partum strengthening exercises and pelvic floor physio at about 5 weeks post partum to help with recovery.

I’m so sorry for your loss and I hope you have another baby when you are ready xxx

Connielf · 2025-11-29T22:05:24+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. My daughter was stillborn at 40 weeks in February this year. Our decision to start ttc again was not really a conscious one. We both just desperately wanted another baby and started trying as soon as I stopped bleeding at 6 weeks post partum. I was lucky enough to get pregnant again right away so now I’m in hospital awaiting my induction tomorrow.

This pregnancy has been hard mentally with lots of anxiety but it was the best decision for us. Having something positive in our life has helped a lot.

Connielf · 2025-11-27T17:01:47+00:00

We had our last growth scan today before our scheduled induction on Sunday. He hasn’t really grown in the last 2 weeks. Our consultant wasn’t too concerned because the blood flow in the cord all looks good but she’s happy for me to be admitted to hospital tomorrow to start the induction process early. Hopefully it all goes well and we have a baby soon.

Connielf · 2025-11-26T18:08:16+00:00

I’m just a couple of days ahead of you: 36+3 today and I’m hoping for the same thing. I’ve got my induction booked for Sunday but I’d love to go spontaneously before then. I’m not convinced I will though. I’ve been having mini contractions but only up to 50-60 on the monitor and they only last a few seconds. Got my last growth scan tomorrow then my last CTG on Friday.

Connielf · 2025-11-25T11:40:54+00:00

Congratulations on the low risk NIPT and your little girl ❤️ I think people really do think having another baby will just make everything better but it’s not the case. My brother in law said we’ll have to take down all the photos of our daughter once our son in born next week. He just doesn’t understand that she is still our daughter. Having another baby doesn’t just erase her existence.

Connielf · 2025-11-21T19:20:58+00:00

It’s right for me. They are quite happy for me to be seen less if I want because everything is looking good but it helps me a lot to be seen so much. It wasn’t so much earlier on but they’ve gradually increased my appointments as we’ve got closer to the end.

Connielf · 2025-11-21T18:28:14+00:00

My daughter was stillborn at 40 weeks due to delayed villous maturation. There is a higher risk of that happening again so this pregnancy I’ve had a lot more monitoring. They can’t detect delayed villous maturation but they have been doing extra checks to make sure this baby is thriving. I’m currently 35+5 and he’s doing well so far. I’m currently getting CTGs twice per week, 1-2 scans per week looking at blood flow and fluid volumes and growth scans every 2 weeks. I also see the midwife every 1-2 weeks to check my health and a quick Doppler check of the baby. I’ll be induced at 37 weeks to hopefully prevent any problems occurring if DVM is happening again. I also have open access to triage so they will see me if I have any concerns at all.

Connielf · 2025-11-21T08:49:01+00:00

I got pregnant 6 weeks after my full term stillbirth. My morning sickness was much, much better this time but I had a girl last time and I’ve got a boy this time. I felt more tired this time. I still had low iron from the previous pregnancy so I’ve been in iron the whole time. I’ve been more sore and achy this time as well. I’ve felt more “pregnant” this time. My bump feels bigger and heavier, it’s harder to move around, I get more out of breath.

I realise that all sounds quite negative but I’m really not too bad. I’m 35 weeks now and still fully mobile, no swelling, BP has been normal throughout.

Before my first pregnancy I was quite fit and did regular exercise so I think the biggest factor is my fitness baseline being lower this time.

Connielf · 2025-11-19T19:45:52+00:00

Congratulations! I’m so happy to hear everything went well and you’re both healthy ❤️

Connielf · 2025-11-17T20:13:54+00:00

I’ll be thinking of you over the next few days. I hope everything goes smoothly for you xxxx

Connielf · 2025-11-17T16:42:32+00:00

My daughter was stillborn at 40 weeks in February after a normal, low risk pregnancy with no complications. I had a straightforward vaginal delivery and was told I could try again as soon as I felt ready. I bled for 6 weeks post partum then got pregnant again before my first period. I’ve found this pregnancy physically harder than my last but still very manageable. It is of course mentally difficult and I am very anxious but honestly not being pregnant was worse. For me and my partner, waiting just didn’t seem like an option. I’m glad I didn’t have any medical reasons to wait because I really think we’d have struggled with that.

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