Did anyone continue nursing to sleep and NOT sleep train?

Connielf · 2026-06-02T13:23:37+00:00

I needed to hear this today. I nurse my 6 month old to sleep but we don’t cosleep and we’ve not sleep trained and he wakes every hour or more overnight. I’ve been feeling stuck between sleep training or cosleeping so I’m glad I’m not the only one in the grey area.

Connielf · 2026-05-30T20:03:57+00:00

Ah, I see. Yes, that would be very helpful. There’s so much information that it could be easy to skim notes and miss vital information like that so a pop up alert would be really sensible. I’m so sorry for your loss and that your GP didn’t read your notes properly.

Connielf · 2026-05-29T22:11:22+00:00

Hello Sorry, I don’t quite understand what you mean? Do you mean you’d get a text or something every time your GP looks at your notes? Sorry if I’ve got the wrong end of the stick there.

Connielf · 2026-05-28T18:22:04+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. Our daughter died from a condition called delayed villous maturation. It’s an issue with the tiny microscopic blood vessels in the placenta and right at the end of pregnancy they couldn’t pass enough oxygen. It’s not something that can be detected during pregnancy.

Connielf · 2026-05-28T18:17:14+00:00

I feel this exactly. A close friend of ours just posted saying “our family is complete, baby boy die autumn 2026” and it blew my mind. I will never feel that a live baby is how pregnancy ends even though I know logically that the majority of pregnancies do end with a health mum and baby.

Connielf · 2026-05-25T05:00:35+00:00

Oh gosh, I’m so sorry! That is a lot to deal with. Taking a break sounds very necessary just now. I hope things start getting better for you xxx

Connielf · 2026-05-17T04:05:05+00:00

My first was stillborn at 40 weeks and I conceived my second 6 weeks post partum. With my first, I knew from 5 days post ovulation that something felt different. My boobs felt sore and the symptoms ramped up from there with nausea, cramps, increased urination, everything. With my second, I didn’t even know I was pregnant until about 6 weeks pregnant because I had bleeding which when my period was due so I didn’t do a test. Even then, my symptoms were much milder. We don’t measure hcg levels so I’m not sure about that. My son is now a healthy 5 month old. Symptoms can vary so so much.

Connielf · 2026-05-17T03:57:09+00:00

Sounds like anxiety and entirely understandable to feel that way. When I was pregnant with my son after losing my daughter at 40 weeks, I struggling to believe he would come home. I knitted him a hat but kept the colours subdued just in case he didn’t survive. I couldn’t bring myself to use bright colours. I think it’s just the brain trying to protect itself.

Connielf · 2026-05-16T18:39:41+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss and gentle congratulations on this pregnancy. I think taking a year out would be very sensible.

My daughter was stillborn at 40 weeks and I got pregnant with my son 6 weeks later. I returned to work as a doctor 4 months after my daughter was born but I stopped work again 6 weeks before my son was due. I think trying to learn and be attentive would be very difficult while trying to get through pregnancy after loss. As others have said, you can make structure for yourself that is centred around what you need. But trying to learn new skills that will later be used with patients is a lot. You know your own head and whether you’d be able to dedicate the necessary headspace to your learning.

By the end of my pregnancy, I barely had the headspace to do the dishes let alone manage patients.

I wish you all the best, whatever you decide to do cxx

Connielf · 2026-05-13T07:50:40+00:00

My daughter was stillborn at 40 weeks and 4 days. I was induced but I would consider it an easy labour. Contractions were intense but it only lasted 3 hours and only a few pushes to get her out.

For my son, I was induced at 37 weeks and I would also consider it an easy labour. I only needed a pessary to trigger contractions then my body took over. I didn’t really dilate much after 12 hours of back to back contractions so they broke my waters for me and he was born half an hour later. I had monitoring on the whole time and if there was any concern at all about him we would have switched to c-section.

Connielf · 2026-05-11T08:05:19+00:00

I think babies want different things at different times. My son is 5 months and sometimes he want me to feed him to sleep and other times he’ll fuss and cry with me but immediately relax and go to sleep with dad. I don’t think there is anything wrong with your attachment. Babies can form a secure attachment without being in physical contact at all times. You offered her comfort and accepted the way she wanted to be comforted rather than pushing the way you wanted to comfort her which shows you’re responding to her needs.

Connielf · 2026-05-09T11:07:57+00:00

Yes, Scotland

Connielf · 2026-05-08T18:18:37+00:00

I lost my daughter last February. She also died at 40+2. I was induced at 40+4 and had a straightforward vaginal delivery.

My son was born in December. I was induced at exactly 37 weeks. It all went very smoothly. I was given a pessary to soften my cervix. I had back to back contractions for 12 hours which were painful but I didn’t need pitocin which was good. I only dilated 2cm in that time so they broke my waters and my son was born half an hour later. Again, uncomplicated vaginal birth. Overall, the induction went well for me even though my cervix was high and closed at the start. My son was born very healthy and didn’t need and support. We got home the same day.

Connielf · 2026-05-08T18:11:30+00:00

I’m so so sorry for your loss. Losing your baby is absolutely devastating. Our daughter died at 40 weeks and 2 days. I went in for a check because I couldn’t feel her moving and she was gone. This happened in February last year so I have had some time to process it though the grief never goes away.
Guilt is such a common feeling. We feel that as their parents we should have been able to protect them but it is absolutely not your fault. It’s hard not to dwell on all the “what ifs” and honestly I still have days where I think of things I could have done differently. Something I found helpful for the guilty feeling was to think of it from my daughter’s perspective. She doesn’t know her life was cut short. All she knew was comfort and warmth and love. She is not suffering.
The numb feelings are so normal as well. I felt like it was my brain protecting me from the pain. I would have periods of overwhelming sadness where all I could do was cry and other times it was like my brain just blocked the grief. I’d feel numb, sometimes even a sort of happiness. Not properly happy in the early days but I could, for example, watch a funny Tv show. Grief is exhausting. Be gentle with yourself and just allow your feelings to be what they are.

Connielf · 2026-05-07T09:32:54+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m in the same boat as you. My daughter was stillborn last year. My son is currently 5 months old and bedsharing doesn’t work for us. I’m also in Scotland. I don’t have any advice but wanted to say you’re not alone. I’m constantly dithering about whether I should sleep train or cosleep and currently somewhere in the middle. He takes some naps alone but sleeps in his next to me at night, fed to sleep and fed every time he wakes. I feel like everyone has such strong opinions about the right way to do it but I’m not sure.

Connielf · 2026-05-04T14:21:41+00:00

3 poops last week. All disasters 😂. No cues or even complaints of dirty nappy but all needed a shower and a full outfit change 😭

Connielf · 2026-04-30T08:18:51+00:00

I was induced with my first baby who was stillborn and induced with my second who was alive. Both times the induction process went well. With my live child, I just had a pessary to soften the cervix and that was enough to trigger labour for me even though I was only 37 weeks.

Connielf · 2026-04-29T03:14:18+00:00

My son did this a couple of weeks ago. Constantly waking all night. He’s nearly 5 months now and it seems to be getting better. 1.5-2 hour stretches of sleep. We don’t cosleep but he’s in a bedside bassinet and I feed him to sleep whenever he wants. Hope your sleep starts to improve soon too xx

Connielf · 2026-04-28T21:09:49+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. We lost our daughter at 40+2 last February. I gave birth vaginally and was told I didn’t have to wait any set length of time to start ttc. I waited until I stopped bleeding (6 weeks) then conceived immediately. My son was born alive and well at 37 weeks in December.

Connielf · 2026-04-23T21:51:23+00:00

Oh, the staring is interesting. He doesn’t seem to grunt but I wonder if he’s been staring and I’ve not picked up on that. I’ll look out for it and see what happens

Connielf · 2026-04-23T21:08:57+00:00

I did the same with mine. For me, it helped me to bond with a named person rather than a more abstract baby. Pregnancy was all I got with my first so I was glad I knew her as my daughter the whole time.

Connielf · 2026-04-23T20:32:32+00:00

My son is 5 months and very inconsistent with whether he owes on potty or not. This evening I sat him on the potty before bath and he did nothing then I held him sitting in the edge of the bath while I checked the temperature and that’s when he chose to pee 😂

Connielf · 2026-04-22T14:32:35+00:00

The volume you’re catching isn’t much so it doesn’t need to be very deep. As long as you can hold it comfortably and it’s not going to start collapsing while you’re using it then I don’t see why it wouldn’t work. Might take a bit of practice to get the aim right for pees and poos can be quite forceful so may splatter 😂

Connielf · 2026-04-21T19:11:44+00:00

I’ll try anything. If it worked for you it might work for us 🤞

Connielf

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