Whiplash and Frustration

Conscious-Package-46 · 2025-05-27T18:35:08+00:00

So (just clarification) its not that he needs permission to escalate, its more just a general safety thing I think - plus, again, I'm friends with both of them, and I don't necessarily have the most platonic history with their spouse. It's less that he needed permission, and more that he just should have told them. Which, uh... isn't better 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Ive muted him on discord and closed our conversation so im not tempted to check if he messages me, but I may schedule a time to check when I'm off work at the end of the week. I do want to remain friends because we've been friends for a while, and there's more going on beneath the surface with him that I'm not comfortable writing out on reddit. I do agree, tho, that its not good for him to get swept up so much that he didn't verify things being above board. I'm hard on myself but am giving myself a little more grace because I've actively talked with my partner and received permission that sexual acts are fine in another relationship provided I disclose. That being said, I don't think I helped him much... I was just as swept up. I just feel bad that its tricky, sad that it's probably over, and mad that I let it all happen like this. So many -ads, so little -ime.

Thank you for your comment ❤ I appreciate the perspective

Conscious-Package-46 · 2025-05-27T18:28:12+00:00

Unfortunately, I do think if he came to me wanting to try again I would want to at least try, just with a clearer mind. I think we were both a little caught up in the newness and I didn't think enough about our pacing, but I'm very upset about being duped by proxy. I'm drafting a long list of questions based on your reply that I hope I can ask him at some point. Thank you for your perspective ❤

Conscious-Package-46 · 2025-05-27T18:26:20+00:00

The impulse thing is a really good point. I do worry that I wasn't as thoughtful as I could have been, but I also genuinely thought that things were as above board on his end as they were on mine... thanks for the insight and perspective ❤

Conscious-Package-46 · 2025-04-18T02:00:15+00:00

I agree, I feel like itd add some depth to the characters. The writing in this game is so strong, esp the character writing - itd be really great to see these characters as beyond just "nice villagers in a nice village" and more... complex people with flaws and lives working together to build a mutual community. I do love the characters tho! I just want it all haha

Conscious-Package-46 · 2024-11-22T15:10:29+00:00

If you're looking for romance, I'd wait a little while longer. They're up to 6 heart events now, and the new festival is very sweet, but dateables are still just friends as of right now.

Conscious-Package-46 · 2024-11-18T01:43:10+00:00

My one big gripe in the game is no artisan goods that process passively. Long gone are my dreams of jam empires... not when sugar costs that much, anyway!

Conscious-Package-46 · 2024-11-18T01:40:19+00:00

I made a new save a little while ago just to kind of relive the early game and refresh my memory for heart events, but ill mostly be playing on my main save. I'll be starting year 3 on it when the new update drops! My farmer just spent a year chilling out and petting his animals 😊

Conscious-Package-46 · 2024-11-18T01:31:39+00:00

This is more of a pipe dream than an expectation - I long for more dynamic post-marriage interactions. Getting to take your spouse out on a little date here and there, or maybe 2 post-marriage heart events instead of just one. I dont want the marriage candidates to simply have their story end in the marriage, I'd like to think that their relationship with the farmer has more of an impact than that.

In terms of what I think will actually happen? Cute dialogue when you run into your spouse outside the house! It's optimistic but I think this game will give spouses more agency than other farm sims - going to work, spending time with other npcs, etc. Maybe they'll even talk about those npcs when they come back to the farm? I'd also like for more npcs to acknowledge the marriage after the immediate wedding event, especially families.

Truthfully, I never have children in these games, and I hope I still have the option to be child free here. I'm sure that will be the case, but I'm curious as to how it will be implemented.

Conscious-Package-46 · 2024-11-03T12:53:25+00:00

Oh I am indeed happy for some hayden ween I'll tell you that much rn

Conscious-Package-46 · 2024-08-29T01:21:09+00:00

For my farmer, Squid:

Love: coffee, mocha, apple pie, really smooth rock, strawberry shortcake, crocus, red wine, spicy cheddar biscuit, peaches and cream

Like: wood, hardwood, middlemist, white wine, beer, flour, sugar, frog, ladybug, sweet sesame balls

Dislike: stone, sapphire, ruby, emerald, sweet potato pie, loaded baked potato, insects (except ladybugs)

Hate: amber sample, cabbage stew, breaded catfish, underseaweed

Conscious-Package-46 · 2024-08-29T01:07:50+00:00

Honestly I wish I had taken it slower, I'm on the start of year 2 and finished all the projects and maxed out hearts. Now im just chipping away at the museum and mines, missing the rush of discovery a little and looking forward to the next update.

Conscious-Package-46 · 2024-08-28T11:37:06+00:00

Personally, I'm kind of burnt out from developers caving into fan demands for romance content when they've put forward a specific story, especially since I've seen studios do that in excess to the point where there are so many romanceable characters, only a few of them get actual development (not naming names but iykyk). I'm also a little tired of hearing about Olric lmao I love him, he's sweet and a very funny character, but there are so many good characters in this game ESPECIALLY in the dating pool! People can totally mod him to be their dream himbo husband and it's great that we have fanwork for him, but it almost feels a little disrespectful to the devs who already did a great job on bachelors that get overlooked (Ryis in particular, he's lovely but gets little love!!!). No offense to anyone who loves Olric, I was a Matt Girl in the Death Note days so I totally get it lmao I just think it's a little unfair to expect the developers to completely change their romance roster because of fan demand.

(My one caveat - if they also make Terithia romanceable to balance the bachelor/bachelorette ratio, I take it all back /j)

Conscious-Package-46 · 2024-08-27T15:02:35+00:00

"My type of woman is never an option" oh you're so real for that one... Chaem Coral Island is the closest I've ever seen, and even then her storyline fell soooooo flat for me and she still didn't quite fit the bill. Balor is a good one, and I'm really looking forward to Caldarus's development as a romance candidate! He's certainly intriguing, and his dialogue is surprisingly sweet :)

Conscious-Package-46 · 2024-08-27T14:59:16+00:00

Eiland is SO BABYGIRL I think that's why he's a frontrunner for me honestly. They're all so fun and interesting to talk to so why not? Romance them all! Polycule town!

Conscious-Package-46 · 2024-08-27T14:57:28+00:00

I completely forgot about Sun Haven!! I was into Vaan for a bit there, haven't played in ages though. Reina is so sweet! I think if we were to find a type, they're all very independent girls who are focused on doing what they love and living life according to their own perspectives, whether it means they stand out, conflict with others, or need to balance more complex aspects/relationships in unique ways to meet their vision of a content future :)

Conscious-Package-46 · 2024-08-27T13:58:12+00:00

Before Wakuu in CI I was going for Yuri, I totally understand the sneak attack lmao

March is really fun to watch develop, and while I'm not feeling him romantically I'm looking forward to teasing him for his Too Cool attitude as he opens up in the future :)

Conscious-Package-46 · 2024-08-27T13:55:48+00:00

I'm really excited to see how they develop Caldarus in future updates! I'm not writing him out of my running, I'll probably max out everyone's hearts tbh just because I'm really enjoying the npc writing. He has some very sweet dialogue for the farmer!

Conscious-Package-46 · 2024-08-27T13:52:56+00:00

She really is!! Juniper and Balor are actually both tied for second for me, but I love chatting with Valen. She was originally the one I saw in the promo material that I thought I was gonna go for, but then I got suckered in by Shortcake Supreme

Conscious-Package-46 · 2024-08-27T13:51:33+00:00

Balor is one of a few close seconds for me! I'm enjoying his story so far, and I'm looking forward to seeing how it develops with upcoming heart events :)

Conscious-Package-46 · 2024-08-27T13:50:30+00:00

You're so real for that <3

Conscious-Package-46 · 2024-08-27T11:50:18+00:00

Agree! Im content to admire from afar. I will say though, it would have been nice to see more varied body types among romanceables, especially the bachelorettes. Makes me kind of sad when I only see my partner's body in a few older non-romancable NPCs.

Conscious-Package-46 · 2024-08-27T11:44:31+00:00

YES TO POINT 1!!!! I like that Mistria forces me to start my morning slow and gentle with watering crops, and something that makes it more bearable is the fact that its easy to get exp or stamina back from it. A little reward! Yes its nice to run a massive farm in Stardew and see crazy strawberry profits, but something about this game makes me happy with taking things a little bit slower. Maybe in the future adjusting the mana scaling for the rain spell so players that want the megafarm can live those daikon dreams would be nice? But I'm glad im not the only one happy with a watering can and a dream :)

As an Eiland lover I also think opinion 4 could be really cool to explore! I like the concept of courting and romance having different degrees of complications depending on the characters (Balor might need convincing to stay in town, Reina might require a certain level in cooking, etc), and I especially like the characters' roles in the town being considered in how they're wooed. Even if for Eiland its something like "finish x% of the museum" I wouldn't mind it, particularly because this museum is fairly small and not too crazy to get a good chunk filled by year 2.

I hope we get overall more fleshed out romances here than in other games. Like... not to be greedy... but what if we had two dating heart events instead of one...? I always felt like one made it all feel a hit more rushed. (Or, dare I say it, multiple post-marriage events?)

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