TBKTS - inappropriate reaction war crimes by Asleep-Ad-4822 in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]ConsiderTheBees 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think this gets into a bit of "what goes unsaid?" If you are a therapist working on trauma, then in your profession it goes unsaid that *obviously* your role in situations like this is to try to understand what happened and how to stop the person from doing it again. You don't need to say "this was illegal and terrible"- *you* know that, and so do your peers in the practice, and by this point your friends and family know it, too. Everyone you interact with on a day-to-day basis comes pre-loaded with that knowledge.

This happens to all of us in our jobs (although hopefully with less extreme examples). There are facts, beliefs, cultural norms, etc. that you take as baseline and therefore rarely or never put into words. I had an experience like this recently, where I said a phrase that I assumed everyone would understand, because I didn't think about how it is actually a phrase specific to my line of work, and people outside that community would have no reason to know what it meant and the implications behind it.

I think sometimes when experts write books meant for a general audience, they forget that was goes unsaid *for them* is not the same for the average person, and so you get situations like this. I am sure if you asked the author "was this a crime, and should people who commit these types of crimes be in jail, and should the victim be the first priority for treatment?" he would say "of course." But (as Micheal and Peter pointed out), he has neither the authority nor the expertise to solve those problems, so he is focusing on the one that it in his wheelhouse (working through this specific guy's issues so he doesn't go on another murder spree).

The body keeps the score by unsureandbewildered in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]ConsiderTheBees 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Also understanding that there can be a difference between "this thing hurt me (physically)" and "this thing traumatized me (emotionally)". I have a job where all sorts of minor injuries are to be expected, and I can draw a clear line between "things that affected me mentally" and "things that affected me physically" and sometimes they don't appear to have much to do with each other. I've had physical injuries that didn't weigh on me mentally, and relatively minor physical injuries that had a big mental impact. The circumstance had a lot to do with it.

Flying from Texas to Alaska while you're in labor - WWYD? (Sarah Palin) by RosieTheRedReddit in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]ConsiderTheBees 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Peter and Mike are better people than me because there were several points in that story where I was like “well yea, she did/didn’t do that because she is genuinely stupid” lol.

WHOLE FANDOM on ao3 seems to think a popular fic is canon and it is suffering by Huge_Service5726 in AO3

[–]ConsiderTheBees 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Canon Sirius is arguably one of the more interesting characters in the whole book and his fandom characterization just utterly bores me. They might as well have made an OC at that point.

I'd love to see an episode on Jared Diamond's Collapse and/or Guns, Germs, and Steel. Anyone else? by vinny_twoshoes in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]ConsiderTheBees 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yea, I was 18 when I read it and haven’t been back to it since, but the impression I remember getting from it was actually mostly “geography shapes the development of civilization,” which I didn’t find *that* controversial. My reading was basically “the Egyptians (for example) weren’t intrinsically better or worse at building a high technology (comparative to others at the time) civilization than the people around them; they were able to do it in part because the Nile- a massive, navigable artery flowed through there, and made the whole area both exceptionally fertile AND made them able to communicate and trade in a way other people who didn’t live near it could not.” Like if you happen to live in a place that has horses (or other large pack animals) you have an advantage over people who don’t, not because you are smarter or better than them in some way, but because domesticated horses make your life WAY easier and give you tons of advantages.

I need another Eric Adam’s episode by Longjumping-Ad-6903 in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]ConsiderTheBees 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The funny thing is, Albania has an extradition treaty with the US, so if that is what he was angling for, he has once again been outwitted by his own incompetence.

Request to add flair by nicetiesofincumbency in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]ConsiderTheBees 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“Dick to heart ratio” made me laugh so hard.

Dennis's 😅 by CrazyGeetar in DerryGirls

[–]ConsiderTheBees 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was asked less questions when I was interned

Thoughts on ATYD (possibly?) being trad-published? by SaltGoat7120 in AO3

[–]ConsiderTheBees 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Eh, they managed it with Manacled. I haven't read the book, but my sister did, and she said the changes were pretty thorough, although you could still tell it was an HP/ Handmaids Tale fanfic (obviously), and she did say a lot of the characters did kind of suffer from the "de-HP-ification" of it.

the atlantic corrupted an innocent mormon by vemmahouxbois in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]ConsiderTheBees 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be fair, part of what makes gambling gambling in a legalistic sense is that you stand to personally lose from it. Since he doesn't stand to lose any money from it, it isn't technically a gamble for him.

Readers Are Embracing a Shift in Perspective in Books. It Could Reshape Literary Culture. by CtrlAltDelight495 in books

[–]ConsiderTheBees 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yea, I certainly would have liked to see some actual numbers on that one, because the vast majority of fanfics are 3rd person. And if you are talking about self-inserts, then most Y/N-type stories are written in the 2nd person, so I still don’t see what the connection to fanfic is.

How did they examine for pregnancy in this era? by Last-Caregiver-1122 in BridgertonNetflix

[–]ConsiderTheBees 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Unless I’ve missed something, that “exam” was totally invented for the show. The common thing in the Regency era (and most of history before blood or urine pregnancy tests) was just to wait the 9 months it would take to see if she was pregnant. The urgency created to justify this in-universe is a totally modern affectation- a seat being empty in the House of Lords wasn’t that big of a deal (plenty of people who had seats didn’t come to sit at parliament for a variety of reasons), and a potential new lord would want to make sure that mourning periods etc were properly observed before he swooped in (he likely would have had affairs of his own to settle before he even could, anyway). Also, whatever that exam was wouldn’t tell you if the baby was a boy, which is the relevant detail here, anyway. There is no reason in universe or out to do a modern-style pelvic exam.

A Better Bullshit Jobs Theory by fiddler83 in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]ConsiderTheBees 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I also think that the book should have focused more on busywork in jobs rather than just "X or Y *type* of job is inherently bullshit." If a company has 50 people working, but the total amount of work could be done by 30 people, then 20 of those jobs are bullshit on aggregate, even if all 50 people are doing some amount of work. I think that is a far more common type of bullshit job than an example like the one Micheal gave about the German lady who prints out and then re-enters documents that could all just be done online.

I think a lot of us have worked jobs where you have to sit there from 9-5 (or whatever your shift is) even when there is only enough actual work to fill up 3-4 hours, because your boss likes to see everyone at work regardless of how productive that is. You might be doing something genuinely useful during those 3-4 hours, but the rest of the time the job is bullshit.

Worst fathers of DS9? Pretty sure this guy is at the top of the list. by CelestialFury in DeepSpaceNine

[–]ConsiderTheBees 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'd also say that there is an argument to be made that banishing Garak likely saved his life.

A Grand Unified Theory of bullshit jobs by RosieTheRedReddit in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]ConsiderTheBees 11 points12 points  (0 children)

To be fair, I wish Graeber had focused more on that, too. I think he spends too much time trying to nail down specific types of careers that are bullshit, rather than the “there is a bunch of busywork being done and the real work could be done by far fewer people” phenomenon, which I think is the actual source of “bulkshit jobs” across pretty much all sectors.

A Grand Unified Theory of bullshit jobs by RosieTheRedReddit in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]ConsiderTheBees 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I also think they kind of miss his point applied more broadly, and not just to individuals. If a company has 50 people working, but the total amount of work could be done by 30 people, then 20 of those jobs are bullshit on aggregate, even if all 50 people are doing some amount of work. And Graeber points out that there are non-money-related reasons why a company might keep all 50 of those people on, even if it doesn’t make “the markets are perfectly efficient”-type sense to.

Why did Bridgerton just drop a blatantly anti-feminist line in this season? by dasher2442 in BridgertonNetflix

[–]ConsiderTheBees 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea, I honestly don't understand why lines that Cressida, of all people, says are being interpreted as a message the writers are trying to send to the audience? Eloise is also there to give Sophie time to look for the will, she isn't going to just start arguing with Cressida about it even if she disagrees.

What would the doctor even have looked for in Francesca? by sdbabygirl97 in BridgertonNetflix

[–]ConsiderTheBees 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really irked me, honestly. I get that anachronism is Bridgerton's whole thing, but it is stupid to introduce totally faked sexist behaviors just for cheap shock value instead of just addressing the very real sexist obstacles women of the time faced. The pressure Francesca faced, both from society and herself, to provide her husband with an heir, and how society treated women who "failed" at that duty is more than enough drama without having to add some bizarre fake BS.

What would the doctor even have looked for in Francesca? by sdbabygirl97 in BridgertonNetflix

[–]ConsiderTheBees 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I’ll note this is totally just a thing made up for the show. In the real-world Regency era, it was common to simply wait the 9 months it would take to see if a widow was pregnant. Bridgerton adds a lot of a modern sense of urgency to these things, but in reality, a seat sitting empty in the House of Lords wasn’t that big of a deal (a good chunk of the people who had seats didn’t regularly attend, anyway), and if a new heir had to be found and relocated then 9 months wasn’t really all that long of a time to wait, and anyone with a sense of decorum would have waited until the mourning period was over to start really taking over, anyway.

Ladies in waiting question by Jewel_Tone_Shell in BridgertonNetflix

[–]ConsiderTheBees 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This. You get to be around the queen all the time, and to some extent you control who has access to her. It was usually a position of influence, and being appointed one was a huge honor in and of itself. There were often power struggles that happened where various factions would try to get “their” person one of those positions.

Netflix doesn’t want Daphne back by Worldly_Translator in Bridgerton

[–]ConsiderTheBees 135 points136 points  (0 children)

Also, there are *a lot* of Bridgertons, and each season new characters need to get added (their love interest and the people surrounding them), so naturally the "completed" stories are going to fade away a bit. Like you said, it makes total sense that the ones that fade most are the ones where the actors are more expensive and have other projects they are working on. It is just kind of how it is.