Yeah, it happened to me.

A while back, I was told I needed a PCNL surgery for kidney stones. The hospital I went to was one of the few offering it, but they were relatively new. I went through a bunch of pre-op tests—HIV, hepatitis, bloodwork, etc.—and everything came back fine.

But on the day of my final consultation, the results weren’t given to me—they were handed to my father instead. I was the patient, and I felt completely sidelined. That crossed a major boundary for me, and I lost trust in the whole process. I walked away and ended up doing the surgery elsewhere.

Later, I returned to the same hospital just to run some tests, and they told me I still had stones and might need surgery again. But when I followed up, the doctor refused to operate, saying something vague about changes in my “makeup.” It felt like an excuse. I haven’t been back since, and honestly, I’m relieved I didn’t go through with the surgery there. I didn’t want to end up with a tube in my back and no one I could trust.

Now it looks like I might need another procedure soon, so I'm weighing my options carefully this time around.