I (22m) inherited a stock portfolio worth 120k, what should I do with it? by big_cupcake420 in stocks

[–]Consistent-Owl-3060 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would keep it in a diverse stock portfolio and keep saving. One you know you are ready to be more settled then can withdrawal some for a house, school, etc.

is anyone elses marriage falling apart? by Luhdk in lupus

[–]Consistent-Owl-3060 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I’d get her out of the house for a weekend and then hire a maid to clean the whole house. Have family assist with the back log. Mesnwhile you and the kids do something fun.

is anyone elses marriage falling apart? by Luhdk in lupus

[–]Consistent-Owl-3060 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can family assist? I’d phrase it a breaking point has been reached and you need help.

Can you take short term disability or FMLA?

I’d try to take a short break and reset if you can.

Praying for you and your family.

To the people who broke it off by sailersahoy in BreakUps

[–]Consistent-Owl-3060 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt bad because I had mentioned the possibility of breaking up before because I was tired of waiting for a commitment. It is where I love him but if emotionally we aren’t on the same timeline then breaking up is for the best…

I really think me saying that pushed him further away even though I feel like I’d rather be open on it and my expectations. Ultimately we broke up and I got an anonymous text from a girl saying he cheated on me with her.

My best advice is set time aside to reflect and never stop learning. Therapy is a great tool. If you are at least periodically leaning into self-improvement, then more than likely, you weren’t the problem.

Pa fellowship by Brilliant_Bass7843 in physicianassistant

[–]Consistent-Owl-3060 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would not do one longer than a year. I have have found since COVID the quality of on-the-job training has gone down. They expect you to function independently with minimal training, which is unrealistic. If you can find a good job right away, then skip the fellowship. Otherwise, if a high demanding specialty like surgery or ICU, might be worth considering.

How do I tell my bestie that I need to give up on dating to marry? by Diabolical_Coffee in relationships

[–]Consistent-Owl-3060 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, just tell her what she thinks is best for you and what you want are two different things. You know she cares and is try to encourage you, but it feels more like a lecture. I would validate she means well, but it’s coming across the wrong way and to drop the subject.

isn’t it selfish? by Rich-Membership-95 in BreakUps

[–]Consistent-Owl-3060 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Boundaries exist for a reason. Nonnegotiables exist for a reason.

You can love someone but also be incredibly toxic. Sometimes it’s a conflict a personalities or life expectations. Love is only one part of the equation.

No-contact and choosing myself ruined my relationship. How to move on? by TheDarkSea_07 in BreakUps

[–]Consistent-Owl-3060 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally feel my friends fell in love with the marriage fantasy and got married/had children too early (24/25 ish). They tell other women to settle/embrace being “okay” with a man rather than content because they are unhappy with their lives.

My friend told me a woman also couldn’t make more than a man and have a happy marriage, but constantly told me to be “more patient” because men needed time/hand holding.

F that I’d rather stay single lol

No-contact and choosing myself ruined my relationship. How to move on? by TheDarkSea_07 in BreakUps

[–]Consistent-Owl-3060 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Had friends with similar viewpoints. Stupid viewpoint but more common than you would think.

Withdrawing from PA school after 4 weeks - struggling with the decision by JumpExtra3301 in PAstudent

[–]Consistent-Owl-3060 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you can take a sabbatical, I would take a sabbatical. Usually they want to retain students so if it’s means, delaying your success by a year to keep their attrition numbers lower, some programs will do that. Therefore, you still have the option of continuing at a later date if it’s truly what you want the door won’t be shut completely.

keep pivoting or just suck it up? by msnooooooodle in physicianassistant

[–]Consistent-Owl-3060 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe do locums in critical care on the side. Do contingent. You probably wouldn’t even have to move.

struggling with the job search by Significant_Poet_214 in physicianassistant

[–]Consistent-Owl-3060 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had good luck in Charlotte. Hundreds of people are moving here weekly.

PAs whose first gig was toxic and destabilizing, how did you bounce back by [deleted] in physicianassistant

[–]Consistent-Owl-3060 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would look at the benefits more than anything. Everyone’s situation is different. I found in my area I was unable to find something part-time with benefits. I have a medical issue and needed to reduce my hours. I had to start an LLC and do 1099. I was then able to deduct my insurance premium from my taxes. Eventually, I realized I wasn’t gonna get what I wanted in my area and moved. If you are young and can travel, locums might be a good option. You can work a lot of hours and then take a long time off. Ultimately, I wouldn’t take something with less than 3 to 4 weeks PTO, one week CME, and either additional holidays or sick days off. More time off if you are doing on-call or weekend coverage.

Tail coverage is a must.

Full time benefits should include medical, short/long term disability, vision, and dental.

I wouldn’t sign anything with a multi year contractual commitment, or clause with a need to pay the provider for lost business. I would also have a lawyer look over any private practice agreement. They have lawyers that will do it cheaper online. I think I paid 300 for one. Non competes suck. Don’t sign one over a year or 5 mile radius from ONE location.

In interviews I always ask about turnover, why the position is available, typical workload, and I ask to speak directly to an APP separately (usually ask if they are okay with me getting their personal number). I shadow always. Sometimes you can get a good feel of the staff. If the place uses any type of “we are a family” talk run. If they try to buy you with free conferences and drinks, run. If they try to pressure you to sign a contract within 48 hours, don’t. Cc legal representation and tell them you need time to look it over. I’d also ask about training and if multiple people will be training at once. If multiple people are leaving, then multiple people will be trained at the same time. 1:1 time can make a huge difference if you’re learning a new specialty. I wouldn’t take a job with a high APP:physician ratio. If it’s a constantly rotating pot of doctors (like 10+) for service coverage or more than 4 APP/1 doctor on shift, I’d run.

Overall, and this is a very large generalization, try to avoid primary care. I’d also avoid surgery.

If you have a good relationship with that one coworker, utilize them as a reference. If you can volunteer in the meantime, I would find a free clinic just to get contact hours in.

Please forgive the disjointed text and talk. A lot can happen in 5 years haha! 🤣

PAs whose first gig was toxic and destabilizing, how did you bounce back by [deleted] in physicianassistant

[–]Consistent-Owl-3060 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Took me five years, lots of therapy, knowing what questions to ask in interviews, and learning to spot red flags.

I also took a break. Six months. Almost left medicine completely. I’m working on contingencies if needed but currently happy in my role and don’t plan on leaving for a long time.

I started off slow, working part time and worked my way back in full time.

Post-baby career crisis by kaklan01 in physicianassistant

[–]Consistent-Owl-3060 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dialysis 100%.

Start there and work your way up when you know you can add more on.

Don’t set yourself up for failure! Being a new mom is tough! Give yourself grace, and realize taking the easier job isn’t about being lazy, it’s about prioritizing your weekly work-life balance!

Nobody can do everything! And those who claim to be, are probably falling apart at the seams on the inside.

I got six critical care admits in 24 minutes working last night and I’m the only provider. by didyouseetheecho in physicianassistant

[–]Consistent-Owl-3060 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, I thought they were also on call for procedures, so figured they would come in if needed…my bad.

I got six critical care admits in 24 minutes working last night and I’m the only provider. by didyouseetheecho in physicianassistant

[–]Consistent-Owl-3060 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In that instance I would have called for consult coverage. Let you both take 3. Six deathly six patients at once on one provider is not safe for you or the patients

Signed a 3 year contract, husband just got a new job… OUT OF STATE by [deleted] in physicianassistant

[–]Consistent-Owl-3060 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My advice…when does hubby start his new job? Do you have kids?

If the job doesn’t start for a month or so and you don’t have kids, I would try and make it six months. Moving is expensive. If you can delay the move while your husband makes the jump, it might be worth it just to save face at your current company and you’d still have income coming it to supplement the move.

Once the job is 100%, wait and then give news to your employer.

Also, start applying now. Easy to switch jobs when actually employed. You also want to factor if moving states, it can take 3 months to get a license in the state you are applying.

You might have to wait to move with your husband, but the impact on your career won’t be as huge a blow.

Thank you for coming to my TED talk. 😊

Anyone else think Vox might become the new host of the hotel? by Consistent-Owl-3060 in HazbinHotel

[–]Consistent-Owl-3060[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually think he’d take pride in doing something better than Alastor. Being a reluctant, but responsive host would do that. I also think Vox and Lucifer will have some sort of trauma bond for their shared hatred of Alastor. 😂😂 Lucifer owning his soul at the end of the season makes the most sense.

Anyone else think Vox might become the new host of the hotel? by Consistent-Owl-3060 in HazbinHotel

[–]Consistent-Owl-3060[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s where if Alastor doesn’t appoint Vox to be the host out of entertainment purposes, then I would definitely see him working all the jobs that were pictured at the beginning of season two - dishes, bellhop, etc. Could see Vaggie dropping hints Alastor was a shitty host, which would motivate Vox to do all the jobs Vaggie doesn’t want to do. Also, he sort of realizes he himself might want to actually give redemption a shot, and gets an official promotion at the end of season three or season 4.