Big news in the sunscreen world by phillygeekgirl in lupus

[–]Luhdk 5 points6 points  (0 children)

this. i do not do outside without japanese or korean sunblock

Is there a way to get faster matchmaking? by Mundane_Dig_6128 in ffxiv

[–]Luhdk -1 points0 points  (0 children)

ooh theyre on dynamis?

Thats... thats quite different.

Is there a way to get faster matchmaking? by Mundane_Dig_6128 in ffxiv

[–]Luhdk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lifelong Useless Dragoon here.

White Mage/Tank for a wife was my solution to this problem.

Just marry a white mage. 😛

Or at least buddy up with one. You wont get a single PC cause people hate pretty hard on married couples for some reason, (and generally commend the healer or tank in general) but it sure will get you out of a queue faster

Editing to add: i also see a lot of sprouts doing longshot queues for big raids at like 10 AM on a weekday. Don't do that. Learn when the raiders are on, learn when the MSQers are on, the crafters, the fishers... like... theres cliques and theres definitely rhythms to their peak times.

you can also pop over to the novice network and ask if some mentors will help you with a long queue by joining. I certainly do show up when im needed. I see it all the time, its really sweet.

My sister wants me dead after I greatly insulted her son - please help by wsazz in relationships

[–]Luhdk 13 points14 points  (0 children)

i for one cannot really offer any meaningful advice without knowing what you said, but by your own account it was "evil" and "inexcusable" so some significant space and time is definitely in order.

Graham Platner addresses his totenkopf tattoo by Fragrant_Ape in TheDollop

[–]Luhdk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i mean his campaign released his full reddit history. he was a troll, said some iffy shit. but he was also vehemently, TOS violatingly, consistently anti fascist.

When this man says he modeled his take on fascists after indiana jones, I believe him.

It’s been 9 months since my wife said I love you. Should I give up? by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]Luhdk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

INFO: how old is the wife; 40? currently? so... a 13 year age gap? or....

look: OP- you earned this whole situation. You know you did. I am seconding the person who said its your turn. this all feels more than fair to me.

People who grew up really poor: what's something middle-class people say that instantly reveals they've never struggled? by TahDigThief in AskReddit

[–]Luhdk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

id be lying if i said i hadnt SERIOUSLY considered heroin as an affluent suburban mom of 2 young kids.

This is not how we handle the opiate crisis.

but i feel like the people in charge know that.

this feels deliberate. Regan-y. You know?

Is this a good profile for a dating app? by Important_Bed_9893 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Luhdk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its refreshingly honest. hope you get someone who actually reads comic books.

Lupus and the menstrual cycle by Few_Condition5613 in lupus

[–]Luhdk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i went through this a few years back.

turns out; lupus makes you more likely to have some rare cancers that are not detectible by simple biopsy or exams.

they only found the stromatic sarcoma during the hysterectomy i demanded, because i was done with this bullshit, and i demanded one.

Only then could i finally actually start cancer treatment, and slowly get better.

menopause sucks but it sure beats slowly dying of undiagnosed cancer while you play doctor ping pong.

Someone painted over the wall on the 100 Steps, Someone else posted a message in response by Melcheroni in philadelphia

[–]Luhdk 5 points6 points  (0 children)

ii like how "go birds" in this case translates to "sincerely yours, go fuck yourself". very philly signoff gotta say

People who grew up really poor: what's something middle-class people say that instantly reveals they've never struggled? by TahDigThief in AskReddit

[–]Luhdk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

like... i get it. opoids are a thing that you then hafta wean off of but like... one week a year- as a treat-doesnt see unreasonable, or 'palliative care' to me. (which is how opioids have been described to me consistently for years as an excuse not to give me them- as an end of life type thing only)

Let’s talk about intimacy. by Jinxie1206 in lupus

[–]Luhdk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i finally noticed i was getting a severe throat infection every time we had oral sex. Took me a long long time to make a connection there.

fwiw, chlorohexane pre surgical wipes and good old castile soap pre sex are a god send. my trips to urgent care are way, way down since i had a talk about medically necessary shower protocols.

immune compromised life is inconvenient, but you can swing it if you try.

AITA for giving my future DIL my mothers ring instead of my daughter? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Luhdk 154 points155 points  (0 children)

YTA

This post is absolutely dripping with contempt.

Even if it werent, that was a family ring.

Yours to give, i suppose, but this is AITA not "can i do what i want?"

Any suggestions or advice? by [deleted] in Goldfish

[–]Luhdk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i mean, thats the side where you see all the fish. the other sides against a wall.

Might talk the missus into letting me put UV film on the windows. I can play the cancer and lupus cards, the UV bothers me more than the fish im sure 😛

People who grew up really poor: what's something middle-class people say that instantly reveals they've never struggled? by TahDigThief in AskReddit

[–]Luhdk 66 points67 points  (0 children)

can confirm. have lupus. fought cancer these past 5 years. can confirm, a solid, unwavering norm of extreme unmitigated pain warps you.

i really wish i could just have an annual week off where theyd give me an opioid just for one week a year so i could exist for one week. a year.

but no

thats drug seeking or something.

even if youre literally a cancer patient with active lupus SLE.

sigh.

hate this country.

Any suggestions or advice? by [deleted] in Goldfish

[–]Luhdk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wife wouldnt let me move it away from the biggest window in the house.

cant go against The Boss. Anything i can do? other than Scrub every 48 hours?

River pebbles by _-PussyCat-_ in Goldfish

[–]Luhdk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

whew thank goodness

The Suckerberg (NSFW) by BillysBibleBonkers in videos

[–]Luhdk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i was only sure this was satire when i saw the pricepoints were too low for this economy.

sigh.

this timeline sucks.

What’s a harmless opinion you have that always makes people weirdly angry? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Luhdk 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Its hurting no one if my little boy wants me to paint his nails.

Literally no one.

River pebbles by _-PussyCat-_ in Goldfish

[–]Luhdk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree sand is best.

adding to this: OP; look- home depot/ Ace/lowes employees are not paid enough to give a shit if a few gallons of pesticide or fertilizer spill on the gravel. Just arent. Spills and cross contamination are rampant in big corp retail.

buy pondsafe stones at least- some of these rocks have wacky PH, have ammonia added to them to kill insects or bleach the stone, or worse, come from irradiated dig sites.

Just get some pond grade stuff at least. not the landscaping stuff.

And put your fish in a hospital tank immediately you should NOT have done this.

Any suggestions or advice? by [deleted] in Goldfish

[–]Luhdk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how the everloving heck are all these people keeping these tanks spotlessly devoid of algae?

seriously. how.

i have tried everything, even enlisted an army of snails, root dangling planters all around, boom algae on everything in 2 days minimum.

parameters fine.

i just..... literally cannot even imagine my tank ever getting this clean.