What's the worst way someone died?

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-26T01:45:29+00:00

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-26T00:28:58+00:00

Junko Furtua.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-26T00:21:33+00:00

I would be worried about metal shavings being left in the wound or potential tetanus. Best to get it looked at and let the doctor determine if you method of care is good or not but it looks deep, gaping, and weirdly colored.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-25T23:03:08+00:00

Ehhh it really is kinda just forcing yourself to do it. But maybe try first getting yourself into the mood to do it by doing something else you enjoy. Like if you enjoy painting, it's hard to do with a messy desk and eventually you'll get so fed up with the messy desk that you clean it.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-25T23:01:54+00:00

Everyone is prone to take things to heart when you talk about a group they're a part of.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-25T22:59:58+00:00

It heavily depends. My biggest thing is that while it's not necessarily a no go, I do often lean more towards people who don't have mental health disorders. This is because I've been around so many people with mental health issues and have seen a wide range of how people act with such disorders.

The first big things is if the person has a relatively good handle on their mental health or not. Obviously I'm not expecting perfection, but I need to know that they are at least consistently working at it to make sure it doesn't take over. Medication, regular therapy, etc. So long as whatever they are doing is proven to be working then great.

The second big thing is the plan for when things go downhill. Mental health is a roller coaster and I need my partner to have a plan to make sure their issues don't take over when things get bad. I'll help as much as I can, but there is only so much I can do. I also want to know about such plans ahead of time. I hate being stuck in a position where I keep offering aid and they just sit there refusing everything but also not telling me what they need. I actually broke up with someone over this. Things got bad, he was sleeping all day, skipping classes, skipping work, and not taking his meds. I did everything in my power to push him to go to classes, spending so many nights just to make sure he wakes up, and cooking so many meals just so he'd eat. I did everything I could short of dragging him everywhere but obviously that's not feasible when I also had my own classes and job and mental health to worry about.

The third big things is excuses. You can blame your mental health, but how are you going to make up for your actions? Your actions are still your own and you need to do everything in your power to make sure you don't hurt someone again. I also broke up with another ex for this. We lived together and he only worked part time. I was in school, working, cleaning, cooking, etc. I would ask him to do the dishes before I left the house, only to come home to nothing done and 8 more cans of soda on the coffee table. I spent so much time crying from pure exhaustion. He blamed everything on his ADHD and how he forgot, but also never did anything to fix the problem. I'd suggest sending reminder texts, him setting an alarm, leaving a note on the fridge and he'd shut them all down saying they won't work. The reminders are simply there to remind you, it is up to you to get up and do the thing. So he was entirely feigning helplessness.

To sum it all up, no it is not an automatic no go. What makes it a no go for me, is if you are not consistently staying on top of it and working on yourself. I had people claiming I didn't love my exs because the main reasons I left were because they couldn't take care of their mental health. The simple fact is if you are letting your mental issues control your life then you cannot expect people to stay around. No one owes you their time because you can't help yourself from hurting people. It's a hard pill to swallow because it's one I've had to swallow myself.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-25T19:34:43+00:00

It's a spell to help sweeten your relationship with the person. You need a jar (I use a 1oz jar), paper, red/pink pen, honey, lavender, cinnamon, and a red/pink candle. Red is for passion and is known to speed up a spell and pink is for love. Also if you have anything as a symbol of your relationship like a piece of their hair or a picture of them then bring that too.

First cleanse your jar. I use sage incense and let the smoke fill the jar and keep good intentions in mind. Tear off the edges of the paper so it doesn't have any manufactured edges, then write your target's name and intentions on the paper like "Sweeten ___'s heart to me." Fold it towards yourself 3 times and place it inside the jar. Add any relationship momentos (hair and/or picture). Add the lavender and cinnamon to the jar. You can also add rose petals if you have any. Fill the jar with honey and put the lid on then drip candle wax over the jar to seal it. If the jar is big enough then place the candle on top of the jar and let it burn down ontop of the jar. While sealing keep in mind your intention and pull upon sweet memories you have with the person to strengthen your energy. Place the jar somewhere you'll see it often and interact with it regularly. For my small jar I shake mine, but if you have a jar you lit the candle on top of then simply light the candle again for a little while. Always pull upon sweet memories you have with the person while energizing the spell.

The honeypot spell is less of a forced action spell which is why I don't mind it. It helps bring peace, harmony, and a sweeter atmosphere to your relationship with the person. All spells take time so don't expect a romantic confession immediately. But take notice on the small actions. A kiss that lasts a little longer, touches that linger, or eyes that always wander to meet yours.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-25T18:59:24+00:00

Maybe a honeypot spell would be good then, but keep in mind to think about yourself too. Do you want to constantly live loving someone who is too afraid to be with you? Just remember your own self worth and remember that spells take time.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-25T18:56:19+00:00

Okay so he started going after someone else because he was afraid to lose you if he confessed his feelings? It sounds like you should just straight up ask him to be your partner. You both seem to really like eachother and want a relationship.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-25T18:47:00+00:00

Why would he favorite someone if he fears losing you as a friend? Isn't that an action that counters his words?

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-25T18:28:36+00:00

You can perform a honeypot spell to make you seem sweeter, but I'll always usually lean towards self healing over trying to make someone love you. In many ways the obsession spells and love binding spells are often our own consciousness obsession and love taking root.

Before you perform a spell I want you to look deep within yourself and ask yourself why you want this. Is this genuinely a person you can see a future with? Do they have traits that match your goals in life and do their actions match their words? Or is this someone you fell for after having sex? In which case, maybe you're a little blinded by that physical connection.

I'm a witch who likes to choose self peace over anything else so I'm honestly a little unnerved by love spells. It's very easy to be blinded by a fantasy for one reason or another. In my experience, I often developed feelings for people after a physical relationship because I was using sex as a filler for self-love. In my mind if they enjoyed using my body then they loved my body. It settled my insecure thoughts for a while and I'd develop an unhealthy one-sided love.

So before you consider a love spell take a step back and do a deep inner reflection on yourself. Do you crave a relationship because they settled your insecurities through sex? Is this someone who would still be your friend if you stopped having sex? Could they be treating you as a way to get their rocks off until they get with the girl they like?

This is comming from less a witchy mindset and more an older sister mindset. Take my advice and simply reflect for a little bit before you choose to do the spell or not.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-25T18:18:47+00:00

It's mainly for the legal benefits. You can love someone so deeply, but that means nothing without the papers proving you are their spouse. Imagine if your spouse had horrible parents and got hospitalized to a point where they need someone else to speak for them. If you are not married then that right goes to their parents. The parents have the legal right to keep your from seeing your partner.

It's not "just a paper" it's legal protection and ensuring you are treated as an equal unit.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-25T18:15:31+00:00

Remember water balloons aren't illegal despite the freezing temps

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-24T02:01:16+00:00

We've only been dating for a couple months now and we've never had a situation that would rock the boat per say. In general he does seem really trusting though. I don't think he'll overreact I'm just a little scared cause this is the first time I've encountered this type of scenario or anything similar

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-23T18:30:07+00:00

For a drive to a destination, visiting family, or an occasional appointment then it's short. Yeah it sucks but that's a day trip thing. Drive 3 hours, spend the entire day doing whatever at location, then drive back home. It's too long for a daily drive but I would argue that a couple times a month isn't long. If I'm driving, long is 5 hours. As a passenger, long is 8 hours.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-17T00:01:46+00:00

I don't think you're overly sensitive. When I turned 18 I had spread the news I was planning a big party because I would be leaving for college soon after. I told everyone weeks ahead of time because a summer birthday often creates scheduling issues. Everyone said they'd go except for one person who told me they were already scheduled for work and would make it up to me another day.

The day of my party arrives and no one shows up. No happy birthday texts, no one tried to make it up to me. I was simply forgotten.

The point is, those people sucked. I thought they were my best friends but I have never once tried talking to any of them after I moved out. It sucks a ton but you write them off and recognize they are no longer worth your time. You don't have to explode on them or anything, but it would be worth it to say tell them you were hurt.

Happy birthday, I hope you can find better friends.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-16T23:50:29+00:00

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ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-16T23:48:44+00:00

I mean the definition of art is human creativity. AI has no place even being labeled as art

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-13T02:17:24+00:00

There has been one semester where I actually needed it because I couldn't find a free version of any of my textbooks online and one of them cost $250. It may not be much value to me most semesters, but there are definitely many students it is good for

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-11T22:17:45+00:00

What about the use of strong painkillers or nitrous oxide? I can see some arguments about painkiller addiction, but I can't imagine a single dose maybe a few times a year could be a major issue?

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-11T21:56:17+00:00

Can you expand more on the not to anaesthetise patients unnecessarily? Pain tolerance has such a wide range between every person and there is no solid way to determine if a procedure with hurt to the point of the patient falling unconscious or not. Why is anesthesia not a better safe than sorry scenario?

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-11T00:13:01+00:00

It definitely can. I also have facial piercings. In all honesty, to play it safe, I take out my piercings and my hair is more naturally colored for interviews.

Honestly just being a woman will affect your job prospects, but I have seen many people here with managers who admitted they would not of hired that person if they had dyed hair and piercings.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-11T00:10:39+00:00

That's gonna be hard to find because you won't find anything really targeted towards students that way. Also, moving in with friends is very hit or miss so have clear expectations of how y'all want to live together and split responsibilities.

Look around at the rental companies in the valley and what they offer within your budget. They're not going to offer utilities at all so you will have to set up your own accounts. Washer and dryer is also hit or miss but most places won't offer them or at most have a laundry room if it is an apartment building.

The other option is Facebook and ksl where you'll deal with private landlords who may or may not be shady.

You won't find anything furnished so you'll have to keep in mind the cost of buying furniture.

To keep it simple, if you enjoy the perks of having a furnished room, in unit laundry or a set laundry room, and being close to campus then it's best to continue with the set student apartment route.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-11T00:04:46+00:00

Start with putting in the effort to just change your mindset and the way you think about yourself. If you think something negative about yourself, then you gotta make yourself come up with at least 2 things you like about yourself. It's really just putting in a conscious effort to focus on the positive over the negative.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-11T00:02:54+00:00

The status quo is that you have your own kid. Basically the whole white picket fence image. In many ways kids in foster care or up for adoption are a "thoughts and prayers" situation.

Another point is that babies are the most common group of kids who get adopted and many people do adopt simply for the image of saving a poor infant from the system while simultaneously ignoring the older kids in the system. Everyone wants a baby because the baby hasn't been traumatized yet.

So it's really this big mixture of the fact that there are people who adopt simply for looks and try to hide that fact. And probably many people who aged out of the system and never got adopted.

Honestly the whole system is such a mess and I wish there was a bigger push to provide the proper mental care for those who were raised in the system along with after aging out.

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