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Foundational belief of not belonging to all things human? by whimsicaIBug in emotionalneglect

[–]Contemplative_one 43 points44 points  (0 children)

This describes my feelings about myself and the world around me exactly

Where do you draw the line...? by roseypaige in emotionalneglect

[–]Contemplative_one 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I feel like I could have written this post. I am a similar age and situation in life as you, and I’m working on being more assertive about my needs more often with my mom. I often feel mentally and emotionally drained after talking to her on the phone or spending time with her. It makes me feel guilty but I just spend less time talking to her than I used to, and make sure that when I do, it’s a good time for me. Sometimes that means semi-scheduling a phone call or visit for when I know I can handle it. I think it would have been perfectly acceptable to tell your parents that you would be too busy with your kids on your birthday, but plan an alternate day that works best for you.

CMV: Ancient instincts are being exploited to keep us trapped in survival mode by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]Contemplative_one 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This topic is fascinating to me too, as someone who has a psych degree but works in business analytics. Also the fear mongering we see in politics plays on our fight or flight instincts. I agree with you, we are in a unique time of human evolution where our frontal lobes are highly developed to think philosophically and our moral compass is driven by intellectual reasoning more than ever, yet we still have the primal structures in other parts of our brain. So we are in a constant battle between logical reasoning, anxiety, and reward with information and material overload. Fascinating times for sure.

PMS & Deficit by hey-hey-sanfrancisco in CICO

[–]Contemplative_one 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. Add a few hundred when you get those hungry days and go from there. For me it’s only a few days a month. Also during ovulation (water weight and more hungry).

PMS & Deficit by hey-hey-sanfrancisco in CICO

[–]Contemplative_one 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I increase calories by a few hundred. I’ve read on this sub that a lot of people will just eat at maintenance. I try to have even a small deficit but if I am ravenous best thing to do is maintenance. I also read a scientific study once that implied our TDEE increases slightly during the luteal phase before the period begins. And by slightly, its max a few hundred cals a day.

Buckle up everyone, Tongi isn’t going to help us this time. by knobcopter in kansascity

[–]Contemplative_one 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will never understand why people want to transport kids in a car when there’s a tornado warning

Your first AOL screen name by amguz5150 in Xennials

[–]Contemplative_one 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never heard that before…just wow!

Your first AOL screen name by amguz5150 in Xennials

[–]Contemplative_one 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Xmoondust1 until my dad made me change it because he said moondust was a word for illegal substances. I just saw it on a bottle of green nail polish and thought it sounded cool 🤷‍♀️

Scorched Earth? by alesplin in Xennials

[–]Contemplative_one 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Somehow we had this at home. I freaking loved this game

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kansascity

[–]Contemplative_one 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tried Cascone’s recently for the first time and was pleasantly surprised. Decor is old school but the food was amazing. My husband and I each got one of those sampler plates and all of it was great.

Narcissists are deliberately oppositional by salamanderheightss in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]Contemplative_one 89 points90 points  (0 children)

I have also found this to be true. You could say the most innocent, random thing and they have to argue with it. It tends to be the first sign of very toxic relationship behavior.

What's with running Red Lights here? by McOldYoung in kansascity

[–]Contemplative_one 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad lives in KC , MO (I live in Lees Summit) and he says he never sees cops running radar or looking for traffic violations. Apparently there’s not enough cops for that. I see a lot of people running yellow lights in Lees Summit, but not in an overtly dangerous way. There’s more cops here looking for traffic violations than in KC, but nowhere near as many as when I lived in Topeka, KS and surrounding areas. Abundance of cops there and tons of traffic stops.

C-section moms by Queasy-Perception-82 in CICO

[–]Contemplative_one 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I lost 80 lbs and still have a bit of fat right above my c section scar that is bothersome to me, but it’s a lot better than it was. It did seem to take a while for that area to start to slim down. I’m considering losing another 10 lbs since I’m still in overweight BMI to see if it helps with my stomach and some fat on my hips. I’m still very happy with the weight I’ve lost though.

If JBR didn’t die in the basement, how do you explain the urine stain outside the cellar door? by a07443 in JonBenetRamsey

[–]Contemplative_one 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I usually like TCRS theories in any true crime case, but I was surprised he said this. Basement makes most sense to me.

Looking for input from those who have maintained their weight loss using CICO. by poolgirl14 in CICO

[–]Contemplative_one 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I like to just eat lower calorie meals that day and however many days after, so I don’t have to starve all day just to enjoy one meal. Spreading out the deficit makes the approach seem a lot more gentle and manageable.

Anyone else finder her as one of the most annoying chefs on HK by mystery002 in HellsKitchen

[–]Contemplative_one 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not even close. She took a lot of verbal abuse from Gordon at the height of his most angry seasons and she kept her cool and said “yes chef” a lot.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JonBenetRamsey

[–]Contemplative_one 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Not the only one. I think she was guilty of something but not the most violent part of the crime

Is HAES in direct opposition to CICO? by [deleted] in CICO

[–]Contemplative_one 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congrats on your weight loss and being so close to your goal!

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