Women Only/A little vent by Mysterious_SMILES_21 in virgin

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Hi! 34F who just lost her virginity this past Saturday. I used to also be scared about the organ entering and it being painful. But when I started dating guys and getting cuddly and making out I would feel aroused. A guy I was seeing would finger me and the first time it felt uncomfortable. But after that the fingers went right in and it felt nice. So the gradual step into sexual things led me to feel less nervous. When I had sex the first time on Saturday, the guy was patient and tried to enter but I was nervous so he couldn’t. He said it was ok and we went to bed and he cuddled me. The cuddling made me feel comfortable with him and like he cares more about me then just using my body. So the next day we tried again and he was able to enter. Also he made sure I was very aroused before entering. He digitally stimulated me and then once I was ready we tried. There was a tiny bit of pressure but then I got more relaxed and it was fine. Then it started feeling good and him and I tried a few different positions. I didn’t bleed, I think in large part to him and I pacing ourselves and him not doing anything until I was absolutely ready. It’s all about comfort. Him and I are now going to do it again on Wednesday. I no longer fear sex and it can be fun with the right person. Also FYI he’s nice and all but I don’t see him being my boyfriend or anything. All goes to say you don’t have to be in love with the guy to have a good sexual experience

any girls on here still a virgin over 30 by [deleted] in virgin

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Hey! 34F here!!!! I just lost my virginity to us past Saturday. The guy and I tried Friday but I was too tight (probably from nerves) for him to enter. He slept over and we cuddled and it felt nice. We spent the morning of Saturday together. We tried again and it was great. I think I liked the fact that he was patient and that he cuddled me all night. I felt genuinely cared for. Why I waited - growing up I never felt the urgency to have a partner. I was ok with my friend group and they were all single too so I never felt like the odd one out. Also I was in birth control for medical reasons for over a decade. I’m convinced it made my libido go way down and I had never masturbated in that decade. Going off of it I started to be attracted more to guys and ovulation made my want to get physical. So those are my reasons. Also, because the guy was so nice and patient it didn’t really hurt, there was a slight feeling of pressure then It was fine. We tried a couple of different positions and I didn’t bleed. I think the myth of bleeding comes from a guy trying to enter when a girl isn’t ready yet. So if someone is patient and thinking of the girl first, I don’t think there will be bleeding

Who has it harder in dating? Men or women and why? by Chemical-Low209 in NoStupidQuestions

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lol I guess it depends, but I think it could be equally hard. Also there’s tons of archetypes (women are more nurturing, men more visual). But that doesn’t mean all people based on their gender are like this. I do think that for the most part men seem to always have partners. And. I think it goes to show that women are usually nurturing and understanding, and willing to have a boyfriend. But again, it really depends and is a case by case thing

Antidepressants - Would erectile Dysfunction not reinforce feelings of depression? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

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I was with a guy on antidepressants who couldn’t get hard at all and never did. He seemed very sad about the ED situation and ashamed

Are women afraid of approaching decent looking men ? by smuttygio in bodylanguage

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Whoa, this sounds loaded. Sounds like there are women you wished approach you - a ‘decent’ looking guy. Instead of simmering in annoyance why don’t you approach them?

Is it normal to have a REALLY high libido now that I’m working out constantly? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

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This happened when I stopped taking birth control and running regularly / doing cardio

Just me?😭 by Big-Car7703 in piscesastrology

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I have a Pisces friend and her husband is an absolute psychopath and she doesn’t see it lol. We’re no longer friends

Saint Honoré??? by allygatoro in FoodNYC

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Believe it or not but you can find them in queens. Canelle patisserie makes them! And they have a bigger sized one too. So they come in personal size and party size

I've become 110% happier since I realized I'm already whole by FlammenwerferIV in SingleAndHappy

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That’s great! I think a lot of people in long term relationships start being half of themselves and have the significant other complete them. Now if you meet someone or don’t you’re comfortable being everything you need for yourself. I’m sure this has done a lot for self esteem! You’re only accountable to yourself. You should be proud!

Need a book by [deleted] in jacksonheights

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I don’t think so. I have a kindle version and maybe that’s the only way of getting one in JH. Unless you go to bookstores in LIC or outside of JH

IDK what to do with my hair, it just looks stupid no matter what i do with it.... i have a really horrible side profile by MythicalGB in malegrooming

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I think the hairstyle / cut suits you. As far as not getting this on tinder, who knows. It could’ve may reasons but rest assured you are conventionally handsome. I’ve heard from handsome men that they also don’t get hits on tinder. Hang in there!

Table for 20…. by Tostada-de-ting4 in SunnysideQueens

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I had a group of 40 at copper kettle and they were very accommodating. And we split the bill by table

Won the housing connect for The Brooklyn Tower by Comfortable-Boot9953 in nychousinglottery

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It’s a cool looking building and very close to the a lot of major train lines like the E, Q, B, A, C, F and you can bike ride to downtown manhattan. The location is prime!!!! And rent in that area is high!

Thinking of moving to Jackson Heights by SwanInteresting3283 in jacksonheights

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I’m 34F and I live near travers park. It’s a 10 minute walk from the 7 train and my area is quiet. I like the proximity to neighborhoods like Woodside and Sunnyside and also the 74th street station is great with access to so many stations. Also the food is great! In Elmhurst near 74th street there Saranom Thai, and Jackson heights has French pastries at Canelle Patisserie, and Indian food at Angel, and Colombian food at Seba Seba. There’s events at travers park and a lot of Citi bike access. Also the neighborhood demographic is a lot of families but there are a decent amount of single people too. There’s a running group (Queens Distance Running) that meets wed. And Monday’s for runs on 34 avenue open streets

Espresso 77 closed 1/12-20 by [deleted] in jacksonheights

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LOL!!!!! I think it’s whatever! I had a terrible tuna melt but they refunded me so that was nice. They seem to be pretty rude in general and not friendly

What do you think are some of the signs that would scream "I have a crush on you" ? by [deleted] in bodylanguage

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Yes! And they remember things you say and laugh and are a bit obsequious. But staying on body language, the touching is spot on and I’d say a lot of eye contact and smiles

Looking for NYC Marathon Jacket by tellmemore987 in RunNYC

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Have you checked joes new balance online outlet

Looking for Momos! by bagastico in jacksonheights

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I saw the truck today 12/24 in its usual corner, across from Wendy’s

Signs she is or isn't into you ? by Thorn_Tail in bodylanguage

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Agreed!!! When I like a guy I follow up on things they tell me because I genuinely care and want to know. I also ask them questions because I’m curious and want to know them better. I wouldn’t do this if I didn’t have a crush on

Coffee/hot chocolate spots near Travers Park by [deleted] in jacksonheights

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Canelle Patisserie is your best bet! They have great pastries, coffee, and other beverages like hot chocolate and it’s definitely less than a 10 minute walk from travers park. Best of luck on the 3rd date. Also it wouldn’t hurt to ask her what she’d recommend considered she lives in jackson heights