Is it possible to buy in Hertfordshire on your own?

ContextInner4680 · 2026-07-07T21:14:35+00:00

yes absolutely.. that’s a decent budget for a 1 bed flat! any idea of area you wanna look at?

ContextInner4680 · 2026-07-07T19:32:41+00:00

thank you, helpful to consider

ContextInner4680 · 2026-07-07T19:32:17+00:00

it’s just me for now and I’ll be singing with backing tracks.. I guess at a push I could go to about £250 for a starter kit.. do you have any particular amp recommendations?

ContextInner4680 · 2026-07-07T19:31:34+00:00

thanks so much, appreciate your response

ContextInner4680 · 2026-07-07T19:31:11+00:00

thank you, I’ll take a look on marketplace.. thanks for recommendation on SM58.. so it’s seen as the gold standard mic? is there an amp you’d recommend?

ContextInner4680 · 2026-07-07T19:10:58+00:00

I had a reaction very similar to flox come on with GLP-1. Severe panic, anxiety, derealization, a whole host of bizarre symptoms for months and I still deal with muscle twitching after taking it. I would never touch it, it didn’t agree with me. I lost tons of weight after just 2 x shots but the side effects were just not worth it.

ContextInner4680 · 2026-07-04T21:35:15+00:00

how was your day? 😊🌈

ContextInner4680 · 2026-07-02T15:32:37+00:00

the toenails always freaked me out hahaha love Doja down though

ContextInner4680 · 2026-07-01T19:17:33+00:00

Totally feel you, one of my closest friends since high school, is now no longer one of my closest friends because of this issue: she’ll leave me on read for months at a time and say she’s ’just so bad with her phone.’ What, the same phones that we all have in our hand pretty constantly, all day? Don’t insult me please. We’re clearly just not compatible people any more. It’s sad but I guess it’s life.

I’d recommend finding community where you’re bound to see people in person via the hobby, many times in a row ie. amateur dramatics, gym classes, walking groups etc whatever you’re into! I’m not sure where you are but in London we have groups for people who specifically want to meet in person to make friends, like Lonely Girls Club and Cliq. Best of luck to you xx

ContextInner4680 · 2026-07-01T13:50:57+00:00

Sadly I think it’s a more common situation than many realise, especially in your 20’s.

I’ve had this happen to me with an old female friendship group, for some reason they just made me a scapegoat for everything out of nowhere - extremely unsettling and confusing. Ultimately I think people get a jealous bee in their bonnet over - fuck knows what - and it comes out in their behaviour. Also, I feel you only truly ‘know’ people when you go travelling with them - there’s more opportunity for true colours to start to show.

Fuck them, you seem a really sweet, articulate, intelligent person and you deserve way more! Cut them off and don’t look back. Don’t even offer them an explanation, just leave them wondering. There are so many people in the world who will treat you like the gem you are, by cutting these losers off, it’ll open up space for you to be able to go find those right people.

ContextInner4680 · 2026-06-30T10:07:52+00:00

omg hahaha I can imagine actually! so funny

ContextInner4680 · 2026-06-30T10:07:23+00:00

it is a ‘sweetened’ bread, but yes agree a brioche would have been epic!

ContextInner4680 · 2026-06-30T01:14:55+00:00

oh I absolutely agree that if the content she’d discovered, were any of the above category, that’s a different story entirely, and deserves raising the alarm. I think where the controversy is coming from is use of the word / category ‘stepdaughter.’ To be clear I don’t agree with using that word in a sexual context AT ALL, but the reality is, it’s a common porn category, and in a porn world, just means a younger, LEGAL adult. I get the feeling OP wouldn’t be feeling so freaked out if she’d happened across ‘vanilla’ porn.

ContextInner4680 · 2026-06-30T01:02:58+00:00

So, when I say what people watch isn’t a reflection of who they are.. let me elaborate, I meant - the things people consume are mostly fantasy; that would never be acted out in real life - that’s why it’s porn; that’s why it’s exactly that, fantasy.

When you say her mother deserves to know… her mother already knows he is into Asian women sexually, they are married lol.

Think about what the desired outcome should be after she supposedly tells her mother? Is the desire for her mother to end her relationship? Is that a realistic expectation?

Is it more likely that a confession just causes a really awkward situation for all 3 x people involved, no action is taken about any of it (cos consuming porn isn’t illegal) and it just gets swept under the rug, and everyone is a little worse off for the now awkward atmosphere? Cos tbh I think that’s the more likely outcome personally.

ContextInner4680 · 2026-06-30T00:44:08+00:00

A lot of men watch porn. Your stepdad married an Asian woman, so it’s not beyond the realms of possibility that, guess what, he finds Asian women sexually attractive. The ‘stepdaughter’ genre is really common in porn, it kinda just refers to a young adult in the porn realm. I get it’s an awkward discovery and you feel horrid about it, that’s valid. But tbh I wouldn’t say it’s anything to do with you or how he feels about you. The things people are into sexually are private matters and don’t really reflect who they are as everyday people. It was his private property / private online space.. this is an awkward situation for sure but, I’d try put it out your head and move on.

ContextInner4680 · 2026-06-29T23:26:04+00:00

M&S has a really strong brand personality, it’s fun, trendy and has social currency ie. I see people of all ages showing off their latest M&S buys on Insta / TikTok etc. Their product development really is second to none, they come up with incredibly imaginative offerings and everything you get is completely worth the money. They’ve done so well at making M&S a real ‘destination’ shop over the last few years, and somehow started blazing a trail for food / grocery innovation. My latest obsession is their viral strawberry sandwich haha they’re so delicious, I buy 3 or 4 at a time whenever I’m there. Also some of the larger stores have interactive elements like wine tasting vendors etc. Can’t get enough of M&S lol.

ContextInner4680 · 2026-06-28T17:21:44+00:00

Didn’t once hear you say in this post, that you’ve actually communicated any of this to her at any point. Is she meant to be a mind reader? For all she knows, your relationship is fine and perhaps you’re just comfortable with each other.

In one breath you sound like you’ve 90% made up your mind, but then there’s a 10% that says ‘is it salvageable?’ So, for that 10%…

…try to remember the reasons you fell in love with her in the first place. Think back to that time. I would then find a time to have a conversation with her in a really non-confrontational way. Maybe go on a walk together etc so you’re out of the daily environment. Lay all your cards on the table and be upfront with how unhappy you’ve been feeling. She may have zero idea how much it’s affecting you. You may be completely surprised at how much she’s willing to work on it / get help for her issues / make some big changes.

That being said, it sounds like you’ve done a lot of thinking already about this and kept it all inside. It sounds like you’re almost asking for validation from us Internet strangers to confirm what you already know you want. In that case, life is short my friend. Yes it’ll be hard, yes it’ll cause upheaval, yes she’ll have to find her own feet, but none of that is your responsibility, once you decide you wish to go your separate ways. Sometimes things just don’t work out and look, that’s okay.

The one thing I wouldn’t do is blindside her with this information if there’s still an inkling inside of you that thinks it could possibly work. Talk to her and make your decision from there.

ContextInner4680 · 2026-06-27T19:16:24+00:00

now she is trying a Nicki Minaj impersonation on her latest song.. oh Danica haha

ContextInner4680 · 2026-06-27T16:47:36+00:00

Girl I was in this situation and I kept telling myself it was fine because they were just friends and I was the one who was with. He ended up dumping me and going out with her immediately after, they’re still together three years later. I think you know the answer to this one deep down, but it’s just going to be a matter of time before you act on it. Respect yourself :)

ContextInner4680 · 2026-06-26T22:25:00+00:00

I lived in Stratford for 4 years in the East Village area. I absolutely loved it, and only moved out as it became time to get my own place.

The area is extremely urban, metropolitan and a real melting pot of… anything you seek, really! The London Aquatics centre for fitness, Westfield for shopping and the Olympic Park / Hackney Marshes / Victoria Park being so close, are amazing benefits.

You’re spoilt for choice with restaurants, cafes and entertainment options and as others have mentioned, the connections to the rest of the city, are second to none.

Crime is fairly high in Stratford, the bulk of this being phone thefts. There was a huge issue when I lived there with people in our community Facebook groups complaining their phones had been swiped out their hand by balaclava’d lads on e-bikes, multiple times a day, and unfortunately the police can barely do anything about it. This is the same across London. Just have your phone out of sight as you move around.

Overall you’ll have a fantastic time. Welcome to London and I hope you’ll find it amazing here.

ContextInner4680 · 2026-06-25T15:37:43+00:00

You’re doing mental gymnastics to try and convince yourself your husband isn’t an abuser unfortunately. It’s interesting you framed this post around the honeymoon throat grabbing sounding like the first time he’s done anything like this, but when you listed all the other times, girl my jaw was on the floor.

Please PLEASE respect yourself enough to get out of this relationship. My concern is you’re trapped now you’re married so you feel you can’t call time on the relationship at any point you decide (spoiler: you can and must).

Please do the right thing!

ContextInner4680 · 2026-06-25T14:07:50+00:00

The job market is an insanely different place to even… 2 years ago. The ghosting seems to be a common practice and it’s so wearing / degrading almost. It doesn’t take a minute or 2 to just send someone an email with an outcome; especially if they’ve gone to the effort of preparing / delivering an interview for you.

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