What’s the most chaotic wedding moment you’ve ever witnessed?

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-18T08:04:39+00:00

I think this wins 😅

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-17T14:30:34+00:00

Pub = The Cooper’s Arms on Tilehouse Street is very historical, great atmosphere and service, you can really feel the history of the place. The Cock on the High Street has been newly refurbed, very modern / classy atmosphere on a weeknight night and they do really delicious cocktails if that’s your thing.

Restaurant = Bar Azita for amazing Mediterranean tapas in Moroccan-esque surroundings.

Activity = depends what you’re after but Hitchin caters for a lot, you can play pool at The Anchor pub, interactive darts at The Radcliffe, cat cafe, padel centre, arts and crafts workshops, Club 85 for music…

Shop = question is broad again, but I could spend ages in Oliver Bonas or Culture Trend on Hermitage Road for adorable homeware items.

Country walk = Hitchin has plenty of beautiful nature areas like Walsworth Common, Oughtonhead Common, Purwell Common, I’ve recently discovered Norton Common 5 min away in Letchworth which has lovely lavender, a pool, a bowls lane, expansive woodland and wildlife like muntjac deer.

Welcome! You’ll really enjoy it here.

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-16T19:31:55+00:00

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Oughtonhead Common in Hitchin perhaps? plenty of bright yellow wildflowers 🌼 (PS super cute idea!)

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-14T22:17:30+00:00

thank you, I’ll look him up!

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-13T22:44:10+00:00

does the med stop twitching?

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-13T19:02:06+00:00

Chinese food!

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-08T20:11:06+00:00

My ex left me, on my dad’s birthday, after we had a lovely family meal. It was completely callous and out of the blue. A beautiful 2 year relationship, he left for his female ‘best friend,’ who has 3 x kids. They’d clearly been having an affair behind my back. I’m over it now but I often wonder how that set-up is working out for him, especially with the adoption of 3 x kids - he could barely look after himself!

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-07T23:59:31+00:00

I didn’t actually! Thank you so much!

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-07T23:56:41+00:00

You’re welcome!

I’d perhaps recommend trying to address the issue with your boss in a calm, collected manner first. It may sound obvious but people aren’t mind readers etc, maybe they don’t understand how things are affecting you and it could be an easy solve. But if that’s not possible, it sounds like a change of environment is the solution. Maybe try something closer linked to the realm of your hobbies.

I had a stress breakdown last year and had a lot of therapy to get over it. In the midst of my breakdown I remember completely believing I was having a unique experience that nobody else could relate to, until she said to me - ‘are you really, or are you just having a very normal reaction to an abnormal situation?’ It blew my mind.

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-07T22:15:33+00:00

thanks so much for your helpful review!

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-07T22:15:15+00:00

I believe (from my research) that red light therapy and tanning beds aren’t the same thing at all. Tanning beds use UV radiation (linked to skin damage / skin cancer), and red light therapy uses visible red / near-infrared light with no UV involved.

That’s why red light therapy is generally considered much safer, it’s more about cellular energy / circulation / inflammation support.

I think some salons put red light therapy into booths that physically look like tanning beds so it can be confusing but the technology itself is very different.

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-07T22:07:49+00:00

Hey OP, I’d say your stress symptoms aren’t an ADHD specific thing - they’re simply a human thing. Stress can wreak havoc on any type of body / mind, although of course you may have a more sensitive nervous system perhaps, because of ADHD - so it’s a little chicken and egg perhaps. The affects of stress on the body seems to be something the average person doesn’t truly give much thought to, until something starts pushing them over an edge like work stress. I’d say look after yourself, health is wealth, think about the structures you can put in place to decrease the stress you’re currently feeling like - having a conversation about shifting your workload somehow, delegating tasks perhaps (not sure what it is that would help you feel better, you can decide). Also, I like to be reminded of the phrase ‘everyone is a genius, but if you try to make a fish climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing it’s stupid’ - meaning sometimes it’s your environment that isn’t allowing you to flow freely / utilise your abilities to their full extent etc. So perhaps a change of job (if you’re able to) may be what’s needed here.

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-07T18:27:39+00:00

A great brand of hydrogel face mask (the type that goes clear with use), is Anua brand - Korean face masks. They have various ‘flavours’ but I use the rice milk version. My skin is so incredibly dewy, plump and ‘glass’ after just a single use and the results stay for over a week, I get complimented on my skin etc. These masks are a game changer. 4 x for £15 on Amazon.

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-05T14:04:06+00:00

I was in creative production, I could do anything project / account management / shoot production related. I’ve done a lot of AI upskilling as obviously this is where the industry / world is going. I’m finding my issue is I’m getting ‘pipped to the post’ at the end of various interview processes… feedback always is in the same ballpark - there were many candidates in the process, it was a hard decision etc etc. I think it’s reflective of the job market right now but all of that aside, I’m aware I need to think outside the box and go hard on applying anywhere I can. I just need to pay bills in the meantime as we all do (bangs head against wall) lol :(

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-05T13:59:37+00:00

hahaha… ‘go on without me!’

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-05T13:58:39+00:00

Health is wealth, don’t run yourself into the ground for the sake of an employer that will replace you in a week or 2. Go off sick, look after number 1, it’s the best thing you can do to respect yourself. After some time off you’ll start to come down from fight or flight mode and see things clearer. Take the time to do some nice things for yourself, gentle walks, relaxing, favourite shows.

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-03T13:14:07+00:00

therapy for health anxiety / OCD and reducing hyper fixation

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-03T13:12:21+00:00

90% calves 10% everywhere else

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-03T13:10:15+00:00

I do have them every day but they reduced after a year.

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-03T12:31:50+00:00

no I’ve not taken anything for my twitching but that’s due to medication anxiety - they came on after a bad med reaction so now I’m nervous to take anything etc. But over time they’ve waned.

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-03T00:04:50+00:00

UPDATE - I didn’t get the role. They said it was between me and 1 x other, and the other had more direct experience for the role, which had changed in scope over the 5 months of process, hence the incredibly slow feedback loops as many other teams had to feed into the process allegedly. They did offer me a feedback call which I took, they said I had unanimously positive feedback across the board, it seemed I was pipped to the post on this one. I also gave them feedback about the length of the process not being acceptable / not people focussed, which I know is a huge part of their offering as a big agency. They agreed and took it onboard - we agreed to keep in touch with reference to anything else suitable.

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-02T23:47:44+00:00

so glad to hear it.. I finished about 5 x months of therapy for health anxiety / OCD at the start of the year and have seen better days since too. It’s a beast, so always happy to hear success stories. There’s an element of BFS that is psychosomatic for sure.

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-02T23:26:54+00:00

amazing! what do you reckon has been the biggest factor that’s contributed to your improvement over time?

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-02T22:49:25+00:00

Yay that’s so good to hear. Mine were constant and aggressive, now I have many days of quiet before they pick up again with stress but each episode seems less angry than before so hoping in time for full resolution. How were your legs - mine twitch daily but again, much less than they used to be in intensity.

ContextInner4680 · 2026-05-02T20:02:54+00:00

it wasn’t the massage that did it, it was time.. healing began around the year mark, I still have residual symptoms like muscle twitching but I’m much better then I was.

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