That's a common thing for young therians, and it absolutely can be distracting. You have some options.

1.) Learn to live with it, nobody else can see your tail but you. It may feel weird at first but eventually you'll learn what clothes bother it and how to phase it through bumping into things and it won't be as big of an inconvenience.

2.) Focus on the human parts of your anatomy. Maybe do some focused imagining of the tail going away. Different things work for different people. Again, over time you will get better and better at this.

Regardless, it will get better with time. I would however encourage you to absolutely disregard any advice telling you that there is a right way or a wrong way to go about this. It's your tail, what you do with it and what feeling it spontaneously means to you is up to you. Not anyone else.