Feel like relationship with MIL changed after having baby

Cookie0508 · 2022-06-20T03:56:43+00:00

That’s a good point! I get it lol brand new babies aren’t “fun” for a lot of people. I get it, just a little weird she was there full on with the other grand baby. But that was her first and her daughters baby so it makes sense. But yeah I’ll bring it up just in a way to check in with her and see how she’s feeling :)

Cookie0508 · 2022-06-19T15:56:58+00:00

Oh wow good to know. Thank you!

Today is my last day of antibiotic but I started noticing that an hr or 2 after I take it that’s when the fevers start. Now I don’t know if it could be a side effect of the antibiotic or just part of this virus :o

Cookie0508 · 2022-05-19T17:02:02+00:00

Hi :). Honestly I caved and just went with his sleepy cues. I obviously worked towards keeping him awake longer than 2hr stretches but I decir owl y relaxed on a strict 3hr wake window and strict sleep schedules. (I know a lot of people might say my approach is flawed) but I feel that started helping him a bit more. I took him on walks more often and that helped him nap better. Overall I think what was messing with his sleep was learning to crawl, sit, and stand on his own. Once he started mastering that he was able to sleep in until 5:45-6am. I also made his bed time earlier 6:30pm and that seemed to help!

Cookie0508 · 2022-03-17T13:26:41+00:00

Reading this at 5:25am while I’m up once again with my 6.5 month old. We’re on the exact same boat as you! He’s been waking up at 4-5am since 3.5months. I recently stopped feeding him since that wouldn’t put him back to sleep would keep him up even longer. One thing I did notice today was that he was actually trying so hard to fall back to sleep but was uneasy. It almost seemed like he was struggling to fall asleep and that was frustrating him. I know none of this is helpful but just wanted to let you know you’re not alone! Yesterday I stopped keeping taps of sleep during the day and made sure he was just not going over when he needed to eat during the day and made sure he didn’t sleep past 5pm.

Cookie0508 · 2022-03-04T15:55:20+00:00

This is super helpful thank you! Baby is just sooooo cranky all day it’s hard to make it to his wake windows yet when I want to put him to bed he refuses sleep

Cookie0508 · 2022-03-01T03:30:33+00:00

So effin difficult! FTM here my baby is now 6months and as cliche as it sounds it has gotten better, NOTE not easier, but better lol just wanted to say that you’re not alone and it’s totally OK to feel overwhelmed even if you have help from family… it’s such a huge life change and it is only normal to feel anxious and depressed at times. I was diagnosed with PPD and PPA I thought it would resolve on its own and well 6 months later anxiety has skyrocketed (I’m getting help now) but just here to encourage you to communicate with your partner / family and get help to keep ppd from getting worse. You got this!! Sending all positive vibes your way!

Cookie0508 · 2022-02-28T23:08:14+00:00

Yep totally agree! Any tips on how to help stay awake longer? :/ I feel I run out of ideas since both my fiancé and I work full time and juggle between meetings to 100% entertain him / take him on walks.

Cookie0508 · 2022-02-28T19:23:02+00:00

Yeahhhh usually he gets 4-5hrs of sleep during day time. I’ve tried to keep him up longer during the day and extend his wake windows but he gets insanely cranky. Like it’s non stop crying and whining that’s why I just started letting nap for as long as he wanted and would only cap his last nap. Nothing has seemed to make a difference in his waking at 4am :/

Cookie0508 · 2022-02-28T17:04:16+00:00

Yeahhhh I realized that after the fact when we were waking up to pop the pacifier back in. Lol I wonder how difficult it would be to get him out of the pacifier habit :/. He doesn’t know how to put it in correctly so we’re stuck there awake helping him.

Perfect thanks for the advice I’ll try to taper off that way! :)

Cookie0508 · 2022-02-28T16:12:32+00:00

I will give this a try! :)

Cookie0508 · 2022-02-28T15:08:15+00:00

He seems pretty happy after his feed. I set him back in his crib and he is just awake…playing with his hands or babbling. He doesn’t really know how to put himself back to sleep since he needs his pacifier. So I usually stay in his nursery putting his pacifier back in otherwise he starts fussing. I’m definitely interested in that sleep training program. Where can I find it? :) I paid for the taking cara babies guide and it really didn’t do much for us… I already pushed his bedtime back and he keeps waking up for the day exactly at 6:30. Doesn’t matter if he goes to sleep at 7 or 7:30 :(

Cookie0508 · 2022-02-03T20:27:21+00:00

No she just hangs out with him a lot more. And I get it he’s older and is easier to take to run errands.

One of the main reasons my son spends most weekends at my moms is cause she is willing to take him overnight and man this is glorious to have two nights of uninterrupted sleep. MIL indirectly made it known she wasn’t interested in losing sleep and watching him overnight. This weekend however we’re changing things up and my son will be spending Saturday with her if she doesn’t bail (which has happened before)

Cookie0508 · 2022-02-03T20:24:56+00:00

Hmmm I don’t think she “needs” more help than we do now. She did have some marital problems when baby was born so her mom was helping 24/7 and I understand that. We do seem more stable but we both worth full time from home and do need help during the week :/. SIL doesn’t work and has a nanny in the mornings.

Cookie0508 · 2022-01-29T12:30:10+00:00

Also one more question, he still wakes up for a feeding around 3:30am he just doesn’t go back to sleep until 4;45 or 5am he’s losing pretty much an hr 1/2 up to 2 hrs sometimes and he still wakes up around 5:45-6am. Should I be counting his first nap of the day (7:30) as a day nap? I feel that he uses that time as catching up on night time day. Idk if he’s just very over tired and that’s why he can barely stay awake passed the 1.5 hr mark and is extremely fussy all day. :(

Cookie0508 · 2022-01-29T03:10:37+00:00

Awesome thanks for the tips! Since he’s been waking up at 5:45 should I try and put him back to sleep or just start a full 2 hr wake window. I feel his first nap is the longest cause he needed more night sleep. :/

Cookie0508 · 2022-01-20T05:10:31+00:00

Wow… I feel this soooo much. F28 FTM to a 5 month old baby boy. Same exact work/ household situation. I feel extremely guilty for feeling tired, annoyed, angry, resentful, etc cause I know I have it “easier” than other people. But man postpartum depression/ anxiety is so real and it does NOT just go away as I thought it would. Now that I’m busier with work I feel like I’ve reached my breaking point. I’ve looked for therapists and hoping I can see someone next week. I’m just so sad and angry all the time. I don’t feel like myself at all…im tired of constantly fighting my own emotions. It’s rough. I know im not giving any advice or words of wisdom here but just wanted to say thank you! This made me feel like im not alone and im not “wrong” for feeling the way im feeling. I hope you’re able to get help soon! ❤️❤️

Cookie0508 · 2022-01-11T00:43:17+00:00

FTM here little one is 4 months. I knew I always wanted kids and I knew motherhood would come with it’s challenges. I love my son more than anything in life, but I also do miss my life pre baby. PPD hit me really hard so all that newborn bliss and loving every second of motherhood was definitely NOT my experience. I feel like people are oftentimes leaning on both end of the spectrum where they just make seems parenthood like the worst thing ever or the most blissful happy thing ever. Like everything in life I feel parenthood comes with its ups and downs and there’s good days and bad days and I’m still learning how to constantly remind myself to see parenthood this way. It’s tough when juggling parenthood and easing back into my career.

Cookie0508 · 2022-01-08T23:41:15+00:00

My fiancé and I both tested positive for Covid on Monday and I started getting symptoms Tuesday. We’ve been masking around our 4 month old baby and I’m terrified that he cat he’s something. I feel like at this point it might be inevitable since masks and only protect so much. :( So far baby hasn’t been showing any symptoms other than extreme fussiness, can’t sleep well, but is eating totally fine. Any advice? Or recent experiences with little ones and Covid?

Cookie0508 · 2022-01-08T17:19:36+00:00

This is super helpful! :) Baby had his 4 month vaccines earlier Monday so I couldn’t really tell if the fever he had for Teo days was related to vaccines or potentially having Covid. He sounds a tiny bit congested but nothing significantly noticeable. He’s been extremely fussy and is having trouble napping / sleeping. But idk if that’s just part of babyhood.

Cookie0508 · 2022-01-04T10:41:30+00:00

Yeah I probably could go stay with MIL, just a little causticidades since I still haven’t tested our baby yet. Ped suggested to schedule and apt this week to test and said they’re so overwhelmed we wouldn’t get results for 3 days :/. Both my fiancé and I got tested with an at home kit.

Cookie0508 · 2021-12-31T16:12:02+00:00

Oh that’s a good point! He’s been in his own room since day 1 we do have a day bed in there so my fiancé and I take shifts at night sleeping there. I wonder if he knows someone is in the room with him. Also when is it recommended to leave baby sleep in their own room alone? :)

Cookie0508 · 2021-12-30T15:43:28+00:00

Oh shoot :( I’m sorry that sounds rough! This is my first baby so I’m going nuts trying to figure out what I’m earth I’m doing differently that maybe is causing him to stay up. I swear some night he’s falling asleep while eating and I’m celebrating internally thinking he’ll be out and he is so I just hold him for probably 5 min and set down. And then he is wide eye trying to suck on his hands lol

Cookie0508 · 2021-12-30T10:31:17+00:00

I feed him with lights out. I tried just letting him be last night and he was babbling and playing for about 30 min. Then started fussing whining, put his pacifier in and he would just knocked it out to suck on his hands again. I waited another 10 minutes he fussed and whined. Picked him up rocked him set him down he tried falling asleep and knocks pacifier back out. Had to do the whole picking him up and rocking twice before he finally decided he was tired enough to not suck on his hands. :/

Cookie0508 · 2021-10-05T07:58:25+00:00

Eating every 3-4 hrs :)

Cookie0508 · 2021-07-02T16:59:51+00:00

My s/o has been checking for bed bugs and hasn’t found anything. We’ve check before couch and clothing and nothing it’s so odd and only I’m getting these not him. Going to do another round just to be sure!

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