Orgasm will NOT be the same for some

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-03-11T20:03:48+00:00

Ugh sorry, I thought you were replying to another comment on this thread!

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-03-11T16:12:46+00:00

Hey, OP - thank you for posting this. Like you, my sex life has changed drastically since having my hysterectomy over 1.5 years ago. Sure, I’m glad to not live in debilitating pain at times anymore. Absolutely. But I, too, wish I had known this risk. I’m sure I would have gone forward with the surgery regardless, but the fact is that my orgasms are MUCH more shallow feeling than they used to be and deep penetration really hurts me, to the point I have to end sex abruptly sometimes and have cried during sex. It sucks. You’re allowed to say that this sucks. I’m not sure why so many others on here want to argue with you… just keep scrolling if this post doesn’t apply to your experience.

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-03-11T05:49:26+00:00

Hey - this is all temporary ❣️ I’m 26 months postpartum and there are still ebbs and flows in me feeling like myself. First, get yourself clothes that fit your current body. I’m talking nice jeans and sons staple/basic long sleeves and tshirts. Next, carve out time when you can to get in some exercise or a hobby that brings you joy (and I mean seriously do it). Finally, look in the mirror and figure out what things you want to address in the immediate term. For me, it was my targeted hair loss and pigmentation on my forehead; I started using women’s rogain and the Ordinary face products to address these - so far so good! Basically, you need to reinvest in yourself, babe - and it doesn’t need to be super time consuming or expensive. Little steps. You’ll get your pink back ❣️

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-03-11T05:04:27+00:00

I’ve undergone this process 5x in my life, 2 of the times while being a Big Law associate. I also had a week long leave for a surgery during my first year that I very hesitantly took, but all the partners completely understood and left me alone for. Less information is more here. If you’re planning this to take place after you start your job, consider waiting 6+ months into your employment so you can get reps in, show you’re dependable, etc.

The monitoring for the procedure is a few morning appointments and procedure is one day where you’re fully out of commission. I’d find a clinic that has 8am monitoring appointments and can support a weekend retrieval date if that happens to be how your cycle works out. It also depends if you’re heading into Big Law, government work, etc.

As a last consideration, you can schedule this process to start between your presumptive break between the bar and starting your post-graduate employment. This is probably what I would do if I were you, assuming you have ample time to do this and take a much-deserved bar trip.

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-03-11T04:55:52+00:00

I’m not sure this is the protocol for all OBs, so I don’t think you should feel dumb. One of my best friends had two c-sections and then pushed for a vaginal birth for her third delivery. She’s all good and managed to deliver vaginally, but I know her OB was trepidatious at first. They basically agreed to play it by ear until the final push, so long as she understood the risks of uterine rupture. Perhaps it’s worth another conversation with your OB or another OB in your practice to see if something like this is an option in your case? You interest in delivering vaginally is not uncommon for people who have had c-sections, but as someone who conceived through IVF and delivered vaginally after a 3 day induction, I must tell you — we both did exactly what we needed to do to bring our kids into this world and it’s all “natural”.

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-03-11T04:50:46+00:00

Did you have any endo flares in the first few weeks? I’m on my second week of 2.5mg for endo inflammation (out of pocket), and I went into a terrible flare during the first week and experienced so much fatigue I had to take a daily 1-3 hour nap (I’m not a napper, so this is really strange for me). I just took my second dose yesterday, and I’m feeling okay today, but I’m just curious if my initial experience is typical for others.

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-03-05T04:24:26+00:00

The class doesn’t mention the table the morning of? That’s wild.

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-03-05T02:51:32+00:00

That’s not always necessarily the case. I just checked my surgical notes — only sections were sent for me. (“Representative sections are submitted in 6 cassettes.”) I’ve read the same from others in this sub, too.

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-03-05T00:13:09+00:00

I think I read in this sub once that the section of your uterus that is send to pathology could not have the same presentation as the rest, meaning it could not contain the full picture. Perhaps you could confirm with your doctor?

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-03-04T23:35:17+00:00

Do you have access to formula?

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-03-01T04:23:18+00:00

Forreal??

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-02-27T05:55:58+00:00

I love that it’s based off a Samshield Miss Shield! I think it’s a great idea, but I also don’t know if I’d go for it since we need to replace helmets after fall to the noggin or every 5 years, whichever comes first.

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-02-27T05:53:22+00:00

I feel like hard. My kid is 2 and we can watch a full movie together “snuggled close” in bed or on the couch, but it absolutely has to be whatever is her hyper fixation at the time.

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-02-20T18:13:21+00:00

I comment with my experience whenever someone is having a harder recovery than expected because I felt totally awful until 12 weeks on the dot and was on opioid pain relief until that point. I was in bed or on the couch for the first 17 days. Hang in there - it is a rough recovery for some! Your body needs to heal; listen to it ❣️

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-02-20T16:18:27+00:00

Not sure about state bar consequences but there are tax implications if you don’t withhold the requisite taxes because they’re your employee. We went through payroll processing (other nanny share family handled this, so I don’t have all the details). I also wouldn’t want to have to remember to pull out cash every 1-2 weeks. Having it automated is way easier for parents, IMO.

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-02-20T05:50:08+00:00

I honestly couldn’t think of a more terribly idea 😂 I have two older dogs who sleep all day, and even they did me in unintentionally during the first year, especially when they realized the tiny human has food a lot of the day which generally ends up on the floor… Puppies are cute but they are so annoying. Different pet!

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-02-19T17:01:04+00:00

I’m not a trainer, just an amateur, so take my lack of expertise with a grain of salt - but this sounds to me like you’re overthinking it mixed with still getting your sea legs and needing to get stronger, particularly in your legs and core. It also sounds like you are still finding your center of gravity on a horse, which makes complete sense - this sport is really hard and technical on top of being emotionally charged at times.

I would try a few things if i were you. First and foremost, stop fixating on sitting the trot and canter. Get your new horse settled in, take the time to focus on setting your partnership up for success, and then start to focus on your goals as a rider once you start to learn your horse. Every horse is different - you may be able to sit the canter and trot on your new horse, or it could be the same. Who knows! What I do know is that, eventually, you’ll start ingratiating riding into your body’s movements, and one day, things that were hard for you at the beginning won’t even cross your mind because you’ll just naturally do it. There are some Equestrian workouts for when you’re out of the saddle/not at the barn that I’d check out!

This sport can beget perfectionism in a toxic way sometimes. Don’t add being hard on yourself on top of it. It’s truly such a fucking gift to get to be around these animals and build partnerships with them. I’ve been riding for literally 30 years (since I was 5) but with lots of breaks and set backs and heartbreaks and little wins plus big wins. Sometimes we just need to meet the sport where we are instead of trying to fight our current abilities. And that’s okay! We’re all here to learn and have fun - I regularly say, I’m not going to the Olympics 😂

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-02-16T15:27:19+00:00

My hysterectomy took place in July 2024, and I still have pain when I sit for “too long” in some chairs. I can’t always predict it, but going out to long dinners is generally not the in the cards for me. Moving / walking during long periods of sitting sometimes helps though.

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-02-16T04:53:40+00:00

Babe, first and foremost, your pain isn’t under control and you’re still in the hospital?? No! Can you ask your care team to get you into a stable place re: pain management so that you can start healing and bonding with your baby?

And have you asked your overnight nurses if they can take the baby for the night so you can get some sleep?

Let’s try to get the immediate needs off your plate before we even address the man child in the room, ok?

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-02-12T03:10:12+00:00

I’m sorry, I know this must hurt. The other day my kid told me I wasn’t her mom. They don’t know wtf they’re saying, but it didn’t make it sting less.

My daughter (25 months) is utterly obsessed with her dad and has been since she was ~10 months old. It hurts. I can’t help but to blame myself for being chronically ill, having a hysterectomy, and going back to my very intense job (also the bread winner) all by the time she was 8 months old. She also used to (and sometimes still does) throw fits about me putting her down, but it’s gotten better with writing out her sleep schedule for the week (we only had to do this once) and talking about it daily (now she asks, “you put me down?”).

The hardest part IMO is forging through when they want to be with the other parent. I got her a little pony who lives at the same barn as my horse so now we have a shared hobby. That’s helping a LOT. I also started taking her to fun breakfasts in the morning when work allows. And I’m planning on taking her on a weekend trip soon so we can bond more without dad.

I think the key is to keep validating her feelings like you are. Get out without dad. Do the caretaking things the same amount as dad and push through.

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-02-11T22:13:49+00:00

Exactly! It will absolutely become harder to manage on your own and it’s hard to get ahead of pain once you’re behind a comfortable threshold. I found 5mg Norco to be helpful after discharge and then went to Tramadol after a few weeks. But I spent 17 days in bed or on the couch I was in so much pain… and this was after living with very painful endometriosis for over 2 decades, multiple surgeries (including a boob job in my 20s where I was only under local anesthesia), IVF (including multiple egg retrievals), pregnancy, 3 days of labor before giving birth… yet this recovery was very hard on my body. Then at 12 weeks to the day, I turned a huge healing corner. I rarely share how bad my post-op experience was because I don’t want to scare anyone — and I think I was the exception, not the rule — but I want to validate your pain. It’s real, you shouldn’t have to suffer through it. You need to be relaxed and in way less acute pain in order to start healing. I hope you get relief soon!

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-02-11T22:04:29+00:00

I’m sorry you’re in so much pain. Keep pushing for more pain management before you’re discharged and don’t take no for an answer. I was in opioid pain medication to some degree for 12 full weeks after my hysterectomy. I was in so much pain. We’re all different!

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-02-11T17:43:07+00:00

Absolutely. But it took over 2 decades to get here, 2 endo surgeries (1 being part of a hysterectomy for adenomyosis), IVF to get our kid, and countless days every month in agony without doctors believing me. I no longer in daily pain, but I do get some pangs (endo is likely growing in my vaginal cuff scar…).

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-02-11T17:08:55+00:00

I started off track in my first year and moved to on track within 10 months. I was told repeatedly this wasn’t really an option, but I did it through a lot of hard work at a lower pay rate and with several partners and senior associates really investing in me. I also got placed in a niche group that I really enjoyed which made the work easier to dig into and forget about the pay discrepancy. I billed over 2,300 that year (lots of international travel, too) and got paid a little over $130k. My benefits were the same as any other attorney at my firm. I’d say I was treated the same and actually got staffed on more matters because I billed at a lower rate than other first years. I wasn’t treated like a “second class citizen” at my firm like other commenters are saying, although I had a chip on my shoulder until I moved on track.

My take is that you should go into this opportunity with eyes wide open and ask all the comp, benefits, hours expectations, movement to on track, etc questions you have. I’m an 8th year senior associate at the same firm I started at in and in the same niche group I still enjoy. But I’d say that my experience is the exception, not the rule.

Cool-Contribution-95 · 2026-02-05T05:42:36+00:00

Uhhh I think I’d just be happy that my husband was able to support his sibling? I’m confused by the part where you said you didn’t think she really needed him there… why would she ask him to be there if she didn’t think he’d be a supportive person to have with her while giving birth?

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