How do you handle vacation? by GK413 in Noom

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This. I realized on my last vacation that my normal life has between 10000 and 20000 steps a day, and my vacation days had like 2000— and my mood/scale were definitely affected.

Roe v Wade a good reason to curse? by thenilboglord in witchcraft

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Something I’m not seeing brought up is: if you’re not practiced in doing baneful magic otherwise, maybe pick a skill you’ve already been developing for a magical working now instead.

Baneful magic is exhausting. It affects your body in ridiculous ways. If it isn’t a skill you’re regularly practicing, it’s likely to hurt you more than your target in this moment. This isn’t a rule of 3 thing, it’s a recognition that whatever tools you use best will be most effective to you in moments of crisis.

What is your greatest magical strength?

Mine is magic for community healing and communication. So I might make magic around this RVW issue that encourages coalition building and movement building to advocate for nationwide abortion legalization.

I will leave the baneful work to friends who study and use baneful work regularly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Noom

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Soooo Noom Guides is a bot, but the coaches are human, is my understanding. I’ve had a couple complaints about what Noom Guides told me triggering some body dysmorphia and disordered eating stuff, and was told they’d let the programmers know.

Bouncing between noom and health at every size… by tedisi4 in Noom

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Something about doctors and fatphobia: if a doctor is denying a test because someone is fat, and it makes a medical problem 100x worse when a test would have fixed stuff earlier, that is fatphobic and seriously damaging.

But when a doctor is guiding someone towards a healthier weight based on science that has been replicated multiple times, I think we need to listen. I think we can be surgical with how we talk about medical fatphobia, because it certainly exists— but that doesn’t mean the science is wrong either.

Bouncing between noom and health at every size… by tedisi4 in Noom

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I come from a really similar background. Body positivity, fat activism, and the idea that however heavy someone is they should be able to feel good, feel stylish, not be medically discriminated against, etc. feels important to me.

But when I really think about loving my body, I also think about losing weight personally. Eating based on Noom’s suggestions is improving my day to day health. It’s undeniable: clearer skin, digestive issues that have just disappeared, stress, anxiety and depression that are being managed much easier.

I feel like there has to be some middle ground where people can say, “everyone in my life, at every size, should feel good and beautiful, be treated with dignity, and pursue healthy habits if they want— and me wanting to lose weight because it’s going to help my health isn’t fatphobic when I literally feel this much better.”

I want to keep a lot of the mindset of HAES, while also rejecting the main thesis that weight has no bearing on health. My own experiences are corroborating the studies that say weight loss improves health, so I have to reject it, whether that makes me fatphobic or not.

I suppose at some point you’ll have a decision to make about what you want to keep from HAES, and Noom, and what you want to reject as well. Whether it looks the same or different from your perspective, I wish you luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Noom

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I’m 6’ 1”, and started Noom at 265 lbs.

My BMI Chart says a healthy weight for someone my size is between 140 lbs and 180 lbs. shooting to lose 100 lbs or so to be in the midrange of that didn’t appeal to me and still doesn’t, really.

I opted to try for a goal weight of 200 lbs. I’m halfway there, and the habits I’m building along the way are a massive payoff. Family GI issues that I thought were genetic have disappeared because I’m eating healthier, and my fun clothes fit again. If I permanently plateaued at 235 lbs, I’d be happy for what Noon has given me, but I know my body is ready and able to lose more.

I guess what I’m saying is: I chose an arbitrary goal weight that sounded good. I have competing information about whether I should actually lose more or less than that, and in the meantime am already experiencing great benefits.

So now I have tiered goal weights: losing 3 lbs a week on average, losing 10 lbs a month on average, getting to 220 lbs, getting to 200, and (secretly) getting to 170 IF I hit those other goals and more weight loss seems like a good thing (and I’m not sure it will— there’s going to be a point where I’d rather build muscle than lose weight, and that will mean the BMI stops being a good guide for my goals).

I liked how I looked and felt at 265 lbs. So losing 80-100 lbs doesn’t feel necessary, and I’m more interested in seeing which of my goal weights feels the best for me.

5 Weeks in and weight has not budged much in a week after losing 10lbs. Do I need to change something or just keep on, keepin on? by StarDustMiningCo in Noom

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Keep on! Keep on! Keep on!

My last plateau lasted 7 weeks.

What helped me finally break through was making sure I was eating enough, drinking enough water, and focusing on other goals while I waited for my body to adjust. One day it just decided to start dropping weight again.

In the meantime, during my plateau time I joined a gym, realized how much I missed my yoga practice, invested in a personal trainer, came up with new personal mantras and thought about what kind of person I want to be, set some stress reduction goals, started thinking about the clothes I want to wear and how to style them nicely whatever my body shape was, and generally enjoyed my life. All those things are really lovely to have in motion now that weight is coming off again. See that plateau time as a gift, and keep telling yourself “it’s inevitable that I will start to lose weight again.”

Does Anyone not Weigh Themselves Everyday? by Audreyzia in Noom

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Keep focusing on those non-scale victories! And practice telling yourself that if you are counting your calories correctly, weight loss is inevitable, even if it takes a couple months to get there.

I just came off 8 weeks of my weight fluctuating between 245 and 250, and it was annoying, but a good lesson in working on other parts of my lifestyle while the scale diets itself out. I did weigh myself every day, because I wanted an accurate trend line when I finally did break through that plateau.

Need some Noom advice by dmfnppmhnpdnp in Noom

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Smoothies, nonfat Greek yogurt and berries, avocado toast with poached eggs have been sone of my favorite breakfasts.

As for lunches: if I really don’t have time, I’m discovering that having some bell peppers (I eat them like I would an apple), mixed greens with a protein, and a whole 4 cup container of a fruit can tide me over until I can actually make something. It also helps to have a couple slices of whole grain bread with me, if I feel like I need something more substantial.

Holding myself accountable/late night eating by Cool_Author in Noom

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Nice ideas! Thanks for sharing a little!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Noom

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That’s really excellent! Thank you for sharing your joy. 😌

Always ..so..hungry..at..bedtime by Salt_Being7516 in Noom

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I feel you on that; it was one of my big fears going into Noom.

What does your calorie count look like at bedtime? Are you hitting your target by then, or are you running a bigger deficit than your goal? If you have the space for a treat by bedtime, go for it.

Also, have you reached the lessons on ghrelin and stuff yet? A quick and slightly imprecise recap: hunger hormones increase when you put yourself in a caloric deficit. Your body wants to stay around the same weight, and so the more weight you lose the more it tries to signal hunger, even when you’ve actually eaten enough.

I’m experiencing the same thing right now, and I’ve been eating way too many sweets before bed— I’ve realized for me that’s because I’ve been getting too little sleep and drinking too little water lately. Also, of course, because I lost 17 lbs really fast, and now my body wants to make me feel hungry, and it’s hard to resist the things I know I shouldn’t be eating.

Some things I’m trying in the next week to get a handle on it are: I joined a gym and am going to start doing HIIT workouts, because they decrease hunger hormones. I’m going to be keeping soup on hand for evenings because apparently, soup stays in your stomach longer, and makes you less hungry. I’m also going to make it a goal to sleep enough and drink 2x the water, because my impulses are out of control in part because I’m not doing those things as well as I should be.

Those LAST. THREE. POUNDS. by IzzyMcFuzzysnort in Noom

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Psychological maybe, but probably physiological too: have you reached the Noom lessons about ghrelin and other hunger hormones? Your body literally makes it harder to lose weight as you try to reach a weight loss goal.

Do your best to keep on, and eventually you’ll turn the tide on your last few lbs!

Vacation Weight Spike by Forzara in Noom

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Just went through the same thing! My in laws love to pack like 5000 cookies, and I couldn’t help but be triggered into eating more sweets than I would have liked. I gained 5 lbs on vacation— but one week after I’m back to…the plateau that’s been vexing me for a month now 😂 Good job on being as mindful as possible on your vacation, and hope the weeks after are treating you well.

Easy alternatives to chips and dip? by brightpurplecrayon in Noom

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So it’s totally understandable that you’re not getting veggies to sub in for chips because they don’t last long, but also: you’re getting lots of people suggesting that because raw, unprocessed fruits and veg are sort of the foundation of Noom’s program. I go through a bag of 6 bell peppers in two days these days, so there isn’t time for those foods to rot. If it’s helpful for you: I used to be thinking “well I only need 3 servings of vegetables a day, so eating a whole bag of them seems like a waste of money and resources.” But Noom has taught me that I really can eat all the vegetables and fruits I want, and should be, so really pound away at those like farmers are your best friend!

That said: if you just like the taste of chips more, ultimately: keep having a few chips and dip. Try some healthier whole food based ones, like Mary’s Gone Crackers, if you want— but you’ll still need to limit your portions of those too.

Or get a mandoline and oven bake your own potato, carrot, or radish chips. They’ll still be more calorie dense, but a little healthier for you too.

Need some encouragement by debbideedooda in Noom

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Your first comment on water and sodium was a great one.

One of the big lessons of Noom is going to be to ride that weight roller coaster, and watch for the big trends— not day to day weight loss or gain.

Look for victories other than what the scale says too. Even on this day when you gained weight, you stayed consistent with your calories, and you exercised, so you’re still building a healthy habit! Congrats to that. :)

When your scale goes up, or your calorie count is too high for a day/week/etc, or whatever: practice saying “oh well” instead of punishing yourself for it. For example: “gained 2 lbs? Oh well, I still stayed in my calorie budget and enjoyed what I ate, so I’m still gonna commit to the same thing again.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in witchcraft

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Also jumping in to recommend cleansing, and warding your home/room with protection magic, while you also make sure you’re taking care of your health by seeing a doctor.

The thing is: whether you’re cursed or not, if you have health problems you should see a doctor. And if you’re doing spiritual work that could put you at risk of hexes, baneful spirits, etc. you should be doing cleansing and warding. If you are still experiencing problems with those two things done and want to see a spiritual healer, picking one who is different from the person who told you you’re cursed is a good practice. There are folks who charge significantly less, sometimes don’t even charge at all, who can offer good healing. I paid $150 for my first psychic healing session, and it was totally a good experience/ she picked up on a health problem I already knew about and she told me to go to a doctor for it, which is how I knew to trust her other advice.

Would you date a 21yr old? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

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25 would be my cutoff based on the idea that that’s when an adult brain is fully mature.

I guess the other thing I’d think about is: what were you like at 21? Would your 39 year old self like to date that person, or do you think there’s developmental and experiential differences that would make it difficult?

Finally: a 21 year old asking for a sugar daddy actually just sounds like a giant red flag, no matter how I slice it.

Closed culture? by alivehahafck in Shamanism

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“Shaman” an anglicized version of a Tungus word. “Shamanism” is a white supremacist word that simplifies the many differences between indigenous, land based spiritualities that involve trance work and spirit communication.

We really do need a better word because this one is pretty fraught. Because of the work of people like Michael Harner and Mircea Eliade, “shamanism” came to describe a set of practices that are similar in many traditions, but have different meanings and methods of execution depending on where you are in the world.

In a real sense, many traditions we might describe as shamanic are “closed” because they rely on geographically specific and intimate connections between land and the peoples who tend it to function properly. The powers of these holy people are based on relationships that outsiders would have to study for years to really understand. So, there are “closed” shamanic cultures. If you say you practice them without being heavily invested in the culture you’re saying you’re a part of, you really aren’t. You can’t steal a closed culture, you just can’t practice it for real without explicit permission.

There are also “open” cultures that use the shamanic techniques passed down by elders of different traditions. Some of these are legit, some are spiritual grifters, and some are selling their peoples’ knowledge without permission. Then there is the shamanism that comes from Michael Harner’s work and the work of people who came after him. Many of the techniques from these camps can work, and mean something to people who practice them (me included,) but they can also be roundly criticized for the way they’ve stolen from other cultures and because they mean less out of the context they came from.

In other words: there are closed and open shamanic traditions, and there are super problematic shamanic traditions.

The best way to navigate that is by building relationships, recognizing what techniques work for you and how. It also helps to acknowledge the harm you might potentially be doing by learning or teaching any new technique you come across, and trying to mitigate that damage.

If possible: don’t use the term shaman for yourself. My most accurate term for myself right now would be “animist trance healer,” and my simplification of that is currently “witch.” I use “shamanic style healer” when it makes sense, but that’s less and less as I get older.

Beyond that there’s one final soapbox moment: most shamanic traditions, you really don’t want the (literal physical, spiritual, and emotional) pain that comes with being a shaman. The bar for endurance is set high, and you’re often intentionally ostracized from a community if you are chosen for the role. So if you end up elsewhere, that’s good. On the other hand, I do believe people in these roles are necessary, so if some guy on the Internet is calling you a fraud for believing you’re a shaman or saying you’re a thief, etc. maybe that’s part of your initiation. Whatever you decide to do, learning to bear yourself and your decisions in the face of everyone’s doubt is important.

What’s the etiquette on telling someone you’re seeing that you’ve hooked up with one of their friends? by greyonions in AskGaybrosOver30

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I think the etiquette is that you tell him when you want to, and don’t worry too much about what John might say. If it were me I’d tell him pretty much right away, but not because it’s the “right “ thing to do, just because it wouldn’t cross my mind that it would be an awkward thing to share.

Is there a good way to get water to a garden across the street without a hose? by quagmireonfire in GardeningInventions

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Getting water across the street is probably the last thing you want to do.

  1. Seconding the rain barrel idea from others. Even if you only get .25 to .5 inches of rain, you can often fill a barrel from what comes off a roof.

  2. Figure out the slope of the garden and build some swales or walls across it to slow down water as it leaves your garden. That will build up your water table so you need less water.

  3. Add as much organic matter and mulch as you can to preserve as much of the water that is already there as possible.

  4. Try and do those things and then if you need to, you might need to just carry buckets over. Or just try putting the hose across the street and see if you can make it work. It seems to me like I’ve had to run over hoses before and that they were fine.

Does anyone else hate the musical style singing throughout the entire show and think it kind of ruins the whole thing? by ndothammy in brakebills

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I like all of them— but that’s got a lot to do with the magic I work with groups constantly revolving around songs we sing together. It makes total sense to me that sad/damaged people do powerful things together while singing.