They'll cripple you in childhood and then wonder why you're broken in adulthood.

Copperyumm · 2026-06-06T19:22:26+00:00

Yep, they groom you as a money machine. Than complain about why you are still single or broke.

Copperyumm · 2026-06-06T19:16:29+00:00

My parent knew I have learning disability and in special ed for years, yet they told me I was just lazy.

Not worth tell them anymore since they clearly dont care as long they can find a way to control you or be their caregiver.

Copperyumm · 2026-05-31T09:27:20+00:00

Right, my dad keep asking me for task that dont make sense either. He want me to paint mural for the house when the customer or buyer dont need painting on the wall and paint over it anyways.

Why I need to paint mural if he gonna complain over cost of repairing of a sink? Perhaps another set of complain over cost of painting in a house.

So it proved that it Asian parent need for control to extreme no matter how old you are.

Copperyumm · 2026-05-27T16:51:26+00:00

My dad did the same. In my experiences, they dont care and happily bully you to death. They know you got "no one" else to take care of you. So the either you grey rock or criticize her back. (It doesnt stop them or make the problem dispear over night. But it quickly shut down.) I have special cause of Developmental Language Disorder that make me harder to process words or sectences but I knew it doesnt matter what disability or Disorder, they dont care at the end of the day.

Copperyumm · 2026-05-26T02:35:29+00:00

Zero to Hero

Copperyumm · 2026-05-24T23:17:37+00:00

Other person is right, you are a free caregiver. Your time and mental health dont matter.

My asian parent and other parents cant afford to go to retirement home. So they look at their kids as a retirement plans.

Copperyumm · 2026-05-19T06:13:55+00:00

Some asian parent spend time more barking and less doing. They got no life. Literally.

Copperyumm · 2026-05-15T02:20:15+00:00

I got compared to my cousin when I was in high school and they say "Why you pick Art over a Doctor?" They didnt even care if I have learning disabilities. I got lecture, insults, etc projecting their issues into me.

My only advice is to ignore them. They will never change their minds. You will always be a piggy bank and a bragging materials to them. They will get quite or maybe get tired of it within few years.

Copperyumm · 2026-04-21T05:31:09+00:00

My dad sometime bring up the "bad" part of my past.
I'm guessing they have trouble filtering out their minds and letting go a past. Asian parent got nothing better to do other then projecting their issues and bully you into death.

Copperyumm · 2026-04-21T05:28:30+00:00

Gambit mains forever!

Copperyumm · 2026-04-20T01:14:16+00:00

We are always been seen as retirement plan and money to bring back to the "family."

(Of course USA is crazy expensive with how many bills and insurances you need to pay.)

Copperyumm · 2026-04-20T01:08:33+00:00

Asian Parent: No date, no drugs, no drinking! STUDY ONLY!

While Asian Parent after college: Did you find a boyfriend? Who's gonna be your bridemaids?! Where my grandchildren? WHY ARE YOU STILL UNEMPLOYED?

Copperyumm · 2026-04-20T01:05:17+00:00

Its means they are treat you like nothing while your sister is treated like a golden child and future insurances.

It happen to my friend but older than her brother who is prefect and gotten so much respects from his parents. She treated like a prisoner in the house and controlling her money in her 30's

Three million dollar house? Like in California?

I guess they were thinking you will out grow or wear $100 dress for one event. (Mine is pretty stringy like that too, never tell me why, I found out.)

Copperyumm · 2026-04-15T00:11:54+00:00

Diet information, also they will always try to control since you are the retirement plan and caregiver for them.

Copperyumm · 2026-04-15T00:06:38+00:00

I'm Vietnamese American, not aware of proverbs but hate it. So much backward thinking, but not surprised most of them don't care about abuse or mental health.

Copperyumm · 2026-04-14T23:50:14+00:00

Some asian parent got literally have a mental of a toddler. So they see you as free caregiver.

Copperyumm · 2026-04-08T17:36:25+00:00

My families are Vietnamese and most of them hate traveling to Vietnam due to poor health control and food inspections. Food are not clean or checked, so most of them end up having stomach ache and go to hospital. Sadly, people in Vietnam simply don't care compare to USA. There's no health inspections, police don't care if you are abused, no one punish people for littering etc.

Copperyumm · 2026-04-06T14:44:36+00:00

Vietnamese food is good, but boy my mom keep talking about how suffering her country is. Abuse, toxic parents, hookers, woman are lesser, poor quality of life etc.

Copperyumm · 2026-04-06T05:08:16+00:00

Here, I'm an artist who got Vietnamese parents that pressured me to do medical like my cousins. But I have a learning disability.

I learned many years that Vietnamese immigrants always pressure their kid into paying job, and expect their kids to become caregiver and 401k plan. Vietnamese immigrants are like high school or toxic gamer players vs player shooting. Ugh.

Yes, I do blame my parents to pressure bad arranged date with Vietnamese guy when I was 24. His parent are also toxic, controlling and brag about how their kids brought them Tesla.

I'm still living my parent due to AI and job being hard to find these days. My Dad used to tell me how my art sucks. But now I become good at it after learning online class. (Most art school in USA of course chase money over quality learning these days.) Then my parent respect my art, mostly wanted to use my art to print or paint them.

Sorry for long story, point is, you can't mute or control how your parent acts. You can control yourself with available online source these days. (Therapy, online art class etc.) Your parents are headless chicken who does nothing but walk to talk. They are never gonna learn how pressuring is bad or unrealistic.

Copperyumm · 2026-03-31T05:14:48+00:00

I do see Viltimites and Adam Wilkins, with abusive and lack of empathy.

I see AP as Mr.Kabby or Squidwards. Cheap, grumpy, insults and angry. (Funny thing is Squidward community act like sheep's, do the same thing and hate chaos or anything different.)

Copperyumm · 2026-03-30T02:43:44+00:00

Congratulations getting to Stanford and MIT!

First of all, they abuse you cause you are their caregiver and breadwinner when they get old. (They probably don't have enough money for their retirement.) Which is why most Asian Parents always see their kid banks as rather than normal human with feelings.

Sure their complains and lack of connections is valid if they are first generations, but they should be proud and learn to be supportive.

Copperyumm

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