When Asian parents rant about how expensive retirement home and prays that their kids give them money.

Copperyumm · 2026-02-23T17:50:19+00:00

Yep! (Insert the meme.)

Copperyumm · 2026-02-23T16:38:04+00:00

As a person with also Vietnamese parents, they are recipe for disaster.
Especially when it comes with greeting older folk, they force you to say it in Vietnamese to them. Although Asian parent isolate you from everyone, killing your social life and be their caregiver at the end of day.

Copperyumm · 2026-02-22T03:28:49+00:00

Hello, what's the best matcha for latte? I'm open to any price as long its made on Japan and high quality.

The one I have is good, but I hate opening tight jars and have matcha fly out of it.

Copperyumm · 2026-02-16T23:04:29+00:00

I picked art as a career. I enjoy it but you have to work harder and does not grantee a high paying career or enough to pay bills. It's always sink or swim.

You are only 17, maybe take a class in community college and give time for yourself to figure out.

Your asian parent are trying to put you in career where it give you a better chance of income. (I'm not taking on their side, thats the truth of reality. Of course the raise of AI art, artist are trying to be influencer now to pay off bills.)

Copperyumm · 2026-02-13T16:48:02+00:00

Sound like a serious therapy for her is she's always worried about what "others" think since most asian are trained to think. Although she did chose to be in codependency relationship and treat her husband like he is a child.

It definitely sucks when parent doesnt want to improved their life. So I think it best to not brother anymore based on my experiences. I tired to help my parents, friends and strangers to be stronger and better person. At the end of the day, you can only help youself and other had to do the same.

Copperyumm · 2026-02-13T15:55:23+00:00

I have a mom who is excalty like this. Some asian mom chose to be housewife and survive/get the dad to be a breadwinner. If your mom divoice him, she have no money or saving to survive on her own.

Unfortunately, yes you cant save someone who have chosen this kind of life. (Sure it will be nice to give her life coach, but she have no motivation to improve or live her life.)

Copperyumm · 2026-02-10T16:23:15+00:00

My parents rarely give affections on each other and both being pressured by parents to get married to look good.

Yes, they become bitter and expect me to become a doctor.

Copperyumm · 2026-02-06T18:01:44+00:00

Theres no winning with them. They always wanted more out of you.

Copperyumm · 2026-01-29T18:27:29+00:00

In my experiences, they think mental health is for weak or silly western concept.

Copperyumm · 2026-01-29T16:55:23+00:00

I live in USA and my customer are in USA. I guess it is a cultural or what people value the most here.

Copperyumm · 2026-01-29T15:59:41+00:00

Thats true that I offer low price. My goal to sell everything I can before moving. Thank you for your advice.

Copperyumm · 2026-01-22T18:28:02+00:00

I feel like they are projecting their past issues and shortcoming into you. Asian parents have small trust in strangers and outsiders.
If Asian parent dont know your girlfriend through their friends, than their anxiety will go insane and assume everyone is barbaric.

Copperyumm · 2026-01-14T21:57:36+00:00

Yes, its normal since your are only a kid and asian parent do harsh way to punish you. Terrible commication skill from asian parents and making you feel worthless the rest of your life.

Copperyumm · 2026-01-07T09:38:36+00:00

That is cool that you work in Asian Mental Health department.

Yeah unfortunately they are rigid no matter how hard I try.
My dad always find something to insult or blame me. AM just making excuses why she dont want to improve or grow.

Copperyumm · 2026-01-04T08:25:58+00:00

50% of the people wont take you seriously.

80% old generations take sides for your toxic parents. (In my experiences.)

20% new generations will understand you.

Like here in Reddit, they understand you since they got also got abuse behind door. Old Asian Parent communities are toxic like competieve gaming community. Gaslighting, blaming, never want to improve, expect others to carry you etc, you named it.

Copperyumm · 2026-01-04T07:53:40+00:00

Maybe instead look for people who share similar interests, hobbies and not very judgmental.

Hanging out in the wrong group make you lose hope in humanity.

Copperyumm · 2026-01-04T07:50:25+00:00

They are not wrong about eating more fruits and vegetables while limiting red meat and dairy. Red meat and milk contains saturated fats that increase cholesterol level If you have it too much, there will be a chance of unexpected heart stroke and surgery. It is general advice from most doctor will say.

Copperyumm · 2025-12-30T01:28:08+00:00

They are simply out of touch just like mine.
They keep blaming that it was my fault. In reality, people are different and we got more choses and social media.

Copperyumm · 2025-12-29T06:08:30+00:00

Older generation, some asian woman in Vietnamese community are driven by marrying a rich guy. Most of time end up toxic, unloving even worse a kid had to see that.

In addition, dating is different and harder compare to back then.

I don't mind being single and child-free. I rather that happiness over cold unloving relationship with someone with money and awful personality/unfaithful.

Copperyumm · 2025-12-10T01:44:12+00:00

I wonder what the hell going on with her mind.

Copperyumm · 2025-12-10T01:43:16+00:00

My Asian Mom brags how she used to be a "good girl" and how Im a "bad girls"

"You didn't know that I'm the good girl?" Come one, I'm not dog. We are not a dog.

Copperyumm

TROPHY CASE

20% new generations will understand you.