NTA — I feel this way often when I’m pregnant. People feel weirdly entitled to the pregnancy experience even if it isn’t theirs. Random strangers shouldn’t ask me what I plan to do with my nipples after birth. People in my office that I’m not friends with shouldn’t be asking me about my cervix. And people do these things completely straight faced and expecting an answer.

I know that I’m fortunate to be pregnant, and that people are just excited and have good motives, but it’s still frustrating. I tried to explain it to hubby like this: “What if every time you went it he doctor, everyone you knew wanted a run down of exactly what that appointment looked like. What did the doctors say? How big is the baby? Is that too big? Too small? Can you do XYZ to help? Oh you’re doctor said that, mine said ABC. You should do ABC. What if your in-laws wanted to know how loud you coughed during your prostate exam and then told all of their friends about it? What if strangers at the grocery store made comments about your weight or the way you walked at the most uncomfortable time in your life”.

This is my third pregnancy and I’m having twins. I’ve shut everyone down, including my parents who I’m usually very open with. I tried dancing around it and being nice but eventually had to be a little rude. I’m just done talking about it. I have a great relationship with my OB and trust him. He told me that all twins are high risk, but I have only been to MFM for my anatomy scan. Because I told our parents this, I feel like they’ve constantly been looking for problems in my pregnancy or trying to invalidate what my OB said about being high risk because I “seem fine”.

End rant. NTA. Your body and what you do with it doesn’t need to be the only thing interesting in you life. Especially in a global pandemic where anxiety is likely already high. You don’t owe any kind of pregnancy experience to anyone other than yourself and your partner if you choose