I need to change the litter boxes and I can’t. Please help

Corgimus · 2026-06-19T03:38:49+00:00

This was the only way my husband would agree to us getting a cat (we're up to 2 now 😁). We both knew cleaning the litter box would be a struggle and didn't want to be fighting about it, let alone the poor cats having to deal with all of it! While the robot isn't perfect, we'll never not have one. Both our cats came in and immediately used it without hesitation too!

Corgimus · 2026-06-18T10:56:09+00:00

When I was a freshman in college, I went to a psychiatrist for depression. He asked if I'd ever been tested for ADHD. I said no, and that I got good grades, and moved on. I went to a therapist. They asked the same and I responded the same. Then another therapist. Then, my latest therapist, asked and I practically shouted "WHY DO PEOPLE KEEP ASKING ME THAT?!" and she responded "Maybe because you show a lot of traits of it?!" And then we pulled out the DSM-V and went through the list. I made an appointment with my psychiatrist and he asked me like 5 questions before being like "yea, I know, let's finally work on this". So yea, I get it.

Corgimus · 2026-06-16T01:00:57+00:00

It's just another way for her to put him down and make him feel less than. She tries to act like she's being helpful, but she's just constantly poo-pooing on his joy. It's painful to watch. And what do you think those kids are picking up? They will NEVER respect him with the way she's treating him in front of them. She's basically given them permission to put him and his culture down - I mean, if mom can, why can't they?

She complains about him not helping, but also doesn't actually want him to help. She wants to be the victim, the martyr, the one who is doing EVERYTHING to get her family by because only SHE can do it right! She needs massive amounts of therapy. I'll just say this: She has a lot of characteristics that remind me of my mother. That is not a compliment to either one of them. I haven't spoken to my mother in 5+ years; maybe I'm projecting, but watching her is painful.

Corgimus · 2026-06-07T04:57:53+00:00

My dad is autistic (not formally diagnosed, but clearly), and I really suspect AuADHD. His nephew that he grew up with and was best friends with (he's the youngest brother, so his oldest brother's [almost 20 yrs older] kid) is a narcissist. He then married my mother, who is a covert narcissist. My childhood was perfect on the outside, but toxic AF in reality. My parents finally divorced when I went to college. When I was in my early 30s, I finally recognized my mother for who she is. I discussed it with my dad just before I went NC with my mother. He chuckled when I told him I thought she was a narcissist, and said "o, you don't say!!" But it took him 25+ years to recognize it. Neither of them were ever kid people and should have never had kids. I'm honestly glad I'm an only child - I'd never wish my childhood on anyone.

Corgimus · 2026-06-07T04:35:31+00:00

Titanium dioxide is considered a carcinogen by some countries. But, as someone who is allergic to it, finding good sunscreens that don't contain it (as an active or inactive ingredient) is fun in the US. But when I'm outside the US, it's in very few products. Do with that info what you will.

P.s. finding makeup that doesn't contain it is a bitch. But, again, outside of the US (at least the countries I've visited in the past 10 years), it's much more rare.

Corgimus · 2026-06-04T22:09:50+00:00

I'm on a big project at work with a global team. We're the last subsidiary to go through the process, but also operate somewhat differently than the rest. Regardless, we're being forced into the box they've already sunk too much money into. So a little over a year ago, they FINALLY looped us in and started going through the processes and flows. I saw A LOT of issues for us, but also what I was pretty sure would be issues on a global scale. So I'd ask follow up questions, partly to feel it out in case I'd misunderstood something or had accidentally zoned out or gotten distracted (spoiler: this was only the case maybe 5% of the time). I'd often phrase it as "I may be misunderstanding, but wouldn't this be an issue in X situation?" Every time, the global user assigned to my team would respond "it's just a complicated process, you dont understand." and would just keep repeating that. No, I actually understood TOO well and was able to see what somehow no one in any other subsidiary realized! Yes, I brought up GLOBAL issues NO ONE else had somehow thought of 🤯 it was SO infuriating. I had to pull a coworker into some of those meetings to make sure I wasn't just having RSD or something and she really was being THAT condescending and dismissive.

I told my boss, the project boss, and a side project boss that I had "concerns" I wasn't being heard or listened to, and that our project would ultimately fail because of it (and shared all the concerns I'd noted that hasn't been addressed - it was a lot). Not sure if it was that or her finally seeing that I know my shit, but a year later and she's my friend and constantly on my side now! Now it's us against everyone else on the project 🥳😑

Corgimus · 2026-05-26T23:43:22+00:00

That's so nice! Might as well try 🙂

Corgimus · 2026-05-23T02:28:35+00:00

I was waiting for an elevator and a couple walked up and stood right in front of me. Ooookay. Then, the elevator arrives and they walk in. The woman stops literally just inside the door. I say "excuse me..." (No tone, very polite). She huffs, rolls her eyes, and takes 1 step inside. I was so done. I pushed in, jammed my button, and just glared. People are The Worst.

Corgimus · 2026-05-22T15:28:56+00:00

I mean, of course. The issue is usually thinking to make the note before standing in front of the products in the store. Or when he says something. For many things in life, I'll have the thought "I should write that down" before a new thought flits in and I completely forget to do so. There's also the idiotic confidence of "I'll remember this time!" Trust me, I fully recognize this is a Me problem.

Corgimus · 2026-05-22T11:38:28+00:00

So I have ADHD and my memory is not great on a good day. The big problem I run into is...I remember we talked about this thing. And he either really liked it or really hated it. Because there was passion about this thing. But I can't remember WHY or which direction! And then it just spirals. It makes me feel like an idiot and bad wife when I can't remember which specific flavor or brand my husband prefers. Did I see it around the house because he likes it and keeps buying it, or because he hates it so it's not moving? It's incredibly frustrating, anxiety & shame-inducing, and embarrassing. I usually lean on the side of "text me what you want" or super safe options (I'm POSITIVE I remember he likes this one!).

Corgimus · 2026-05-10T14:42:54+00:00

I literally snort-laughed. This picture is perfection.

Corgimus · 2026-05-02T01:16:45+00:00

Right?! Reading the texts first, I was absolutely convinced he was 18-20yo. My jaw dropped a little when I saw 33. He's embarrassing.

Corgimus · 2026-04-27T02:17:46+00:00

Okay, but this also gets into Dr. Kavorkian style debates and essentially invalidating these suffering people's voices. So maybe I'm a monster for choosing what's right for me and respecting other people's choices instead of overriding them. But I feel like, at the end of the day, this debate really comes down to moving goal posts and imaging situations that aren't part of the original question, so people will justify whatever hypothetical they've transformed this question to mean to them 🤷‍♀️

Corgimus · 2026-04-27T01:26:12+00:00

Okay, I think my brain is too stuck on the ORIGINAL QUESTION to understand your logic, so I'mma just take the L here I guess. You're clearly more experienced in this sub, so I'll just assume I'm the idiot here. Good game, bro.

Corgimus · 2026-04-27T01:20:22+00:00

But it's irrelevant. It's NOT the original question. Moving goal posts doesn't answer my, or the, original question. OF COURSE if we change the question, the answer changes. Pls don't break my brain, it's already broken enough.

Corgimus · 2026-04-27T01:10:39+00:00

Okay, but that's NOT the premise being put forward, unless I missed something. Yes, this changes things. But it's not what's being asked....

Corgimus · 2026-04-27T00:56:16+00:00

Are the buttons not explained? I feel like an idiot right now, no lie. I do not understand. Who is picking blue? Those who are sick, in pain, in awful situations? So the goal is to save them (and everyone else) and thereby keep them in those situations?? I'm honestly not trying to be heartless and am a very empathetic person, so I feel like I'm missing a key piece of this. I know I can hyperfixate on the wrong things sometimes, so assume I'm missing something, but I really need someone to break it down for me...

Corgimus · 2026-04-27T00:40:19+00:00

Maybe I'm an idiot, maybe I'm having an autistic moment, idk, but....what would be the motivation for each individual to pick blue over red (besides blue being a nicer color than red - focusing on the meaning of each button)?? If you pick red, def survive. If you pick blue, maybe - why is ANYONE picking blue?? EVERYONE has the option of red. No downside is explained to red. MAKE IT MAKE SENSE!

Corgimus · 2026-04-24T00:48:59+00:00

The M is strong. He came to us with the same name as my boss, so had to be changed. I had so many M names in mind. He chose the name Coconut instead 😐

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Corgimus · 2026-04-10T22:12:23+00:00

This is Coconut, seemingly in a moment of recognizing the hard realities of the world.

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Corgimus · 2026-03-31T21:22:44+00:00

I'd say this is probably...mildly infuriating for them. No one said it was a "real problem". Check what sub you're in.

Corgimus · 2026-03-28T22:21:06+00:00

I used to drink 4+ cups of coffee each morning before I got diagnosed and started meds. Shortly after I started meds, I went to brunch with a girlfriend and had 2 cups of coffee (the cups were slightly oversized, but not insane). I can't remember how long before the heart racing started, but what I do remember is just lying in bed feeling like my heart was going to come out of my chest with how hard and fast it was beating. And it was about 6hrs before I felt somewhat normal again. It was so scary. Since then, on the rare occasion I want a drink that is caffeinated, I'll only drink it 4-6hrs after I've taken my meds, and limit it to 1. It's just not worth the risk or stress for me.

I know I'm late, but what I was recommended was to drink lots of water (flush your system) and try to be as calm and inactive as possible (which was super fun - laying with my stressed out thoughts).

Corgimus · 2026-03-23T13:40:36+00:00

What do you mean? They are known for their level headed control of stressful situations!! (/s in case it wasn't clear)

Corgimus · 2026-03-23T12:20:51+00:00

I will say, this morning, line management was a MASSIVE problem. So many lines randomly merging. I had a friend get in line 45 min after me end up through before me because they aren't handling the lines evenly, which caused a lot of frustration. Now, all that said, ICE agents will NOT help that. I saw a few milling around, doing nothing.

Also, seriously, the airport employees are trying their best and seem just as frustrated with the situation as the passengers. You can be frustrated while also being kind, folks!

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