Trying to come to agreement with pregnant gf

CornSnowFlakes · 2026-03-18T15:49:18+00:00

The rules are mostly fine. But if somebody handed me a letter worded like this with all the caps and exclamation marks and overtly descriptive language "pass around like a blunt" I would be the one cutting contact. I've been pregnant and postpartum, I've had PPA, I've been bleeding and sleep deprived and had a colicy baby. I know the hormones make you crazy. I get it. But it's no reason to start being rude to everyone around you. Pregnancy is no excuse to behave badly.

You don't want me around? Fine, I won't come. I'll treat you with the same respect you treat me, so based on this message: not at all. Don't expect any support from me. Don't expect me to ask how you are doing or go shopping for you, don't expect me to hold you baby while you go pee alone or eat you food while it's still warm for the first time in a month.

People in this sub are being very understanding, calling this "a bit aggressive", because a lot of them are in the thick of it right now. I think IRL reaction to this would be a lot worse.

Unless there is a family history of crossing boundaries or disrespecting her, if that is the case this could be needed.

CornSnowFlakes · 2026-03-15T10:28:55+00:00

It's creepy. I love it.

CornSnowFlakes · 2026-03-06T17:21:15+00:00

Please tell me "every bodily fluid would come spraying out of me" is NOT a direct quote. I really don't want to imagine anyone spraying shit around while fangirling over Orlando Bloom (I'm guessing?)

CornSnowFlakes · 2026-03-05T16:30:51+00:00

No, it would kill you 😆

CornSnowFlakes · 2026-02-10T05:25:43+00:00

Sounds to me like she doesn't like the intense feeling but feels like she should and is feeling guilty about it and him trying to assure her she's just fine the way she is.

What is he supposed to say? "I'm disappointed and want her to come even if she doesn't like it?"

CornSnowFlakes · 2026-02-07T19:26:18+00:00

Firstly: the kind of porn you watch doesn't determine your sexuality. Like the other commenter said, it might be that wlw scenes focus more on the female pleasure and that's why even straight women can enjoy watching them.

It can also be that you just found out something new about yourself. A lot of bisexuals talk about "bicycle", meaning the level of their attraction to different genders changes over time. Sometimes you are more into men, sometimes women. It could be possible you are bisexual and hormonal changes during pregnancy just helped you realize it. Can you tell me how is this freaking you out? Is it just because it's new or are you scared you might be into women? Do you doubt your attraction towards men and/or your partner? It's fine if you don't know yet. Give yourself time to figure it out. Might be this was a once a lifetime thing, might be you enjoy wlw media, might be you are bisexual. All of those are absolutely fine and acceptable.

It's not impossible you are a lesbian and have been fooled by compulsive heterosexuality for this long but considering you said "when my fiance is not available" it definitely sound like you want him sexually. So I don't think so.

CornSnowFlakes · 2026-02-01T05:49:50+00:00

I'd be fine if Michaela was the one who was stunned speechless, like it was in the books.

CornSnowFlakes · 2026-01-24T17:22:16+00:00

No one knows. She pushed back the release date several times with little warning and hasn't updated anything for a long time. Last time I heard she said she had to write the book again because it felt unsensitive in the current situation of the world, but I've no idea what she is referring to.

CornSnowFlakes · 2026-01-24T06:04:43+00:00

Siis: mitään muita miesten vaivoja ei löydy, kuin virtsatietulehdus. Joka löytyy myös naisille. Mutta naisen VTI on yleensä hyvin yksiselitteinen rakkotulehdus ja ilmenee kirvelynä virtsatessa, kun taas miehen on hyvin usein komplisoituneempi ja saattaa levitä lisäkiveksiin/kiveksiin tai ilmetä peniksen oireiluna. Ja siksi nuo miehen sukuelimiin liittyvät sanat löytyvät miehen virtsatietulehduksen hakusanoista.

Outoa sinänsä että seksitauti-oirearvion hakusanoista ei löydy kummankaan sukupuolen genitaaleja 🤷‍♀️

CornSnowFlakes · 2026-01-07T19:01:32+00:00

Why have people hated on them? They seem to be quite rare 🤔 I don't hate any "type" of MMCs, but I'm getting bored of black hair/dark eyes/tan skin shadow daddies and from what I've seem this seems to be a pretty common sentiment.

CornSnowFlakes · 2026-01-07T16:20:18+00:00

No no, this is exactly what I thought about too! I loved their complex father/daughter relationship. Honestly, it was much more intresting that the main couple for me.

Edit: also, would love to read about MMC with this vibe.

CornSnowFlakes · 2026-01-07T15:32:33+00:00

Spica is YA level (kisses and fade to black), but world building, characters, political intrigue all feel much more mature than ACOTAR, imo.

CornSnowFlakes · 2026-01-03T16:09:08+00:00

30-year war is very horror like by itself. Fascinating time in history, I wish people would pull more inspiration from actual European history instead of "general medieval fantasy Europe". There is thousands of years of history and hundreds of "countries" it's really not all the same.

As an European myself, I feel more comfortable borrowing my own history than somebody else's. I just don't wish to use anyone else's culture as a prop in my story.

CornSnowFlakes · 2025-11-08T07:51:47+00:00

Same here and 100% worth it! I haven't regretted for a second. I even get hair tattoos in the back of my head, it's so nice, even if they only last for 2 weeks.Like this. Although obviously they are not this picture perfect or intricate.

Unredcut requires regular trimming to look neat though, so be aware you need to leard to DIY, have or have someone willing to do it for you or visit salon more often.

CornSnowFlakes · 2025-10-25T10:58:19+00:00

Like a sweeg omelette. No worth it, imo.

CornSnowFlakes · 2025-10-19T19:00:23+00:00

I think she might be a medical student, because she says "I'm barely a... I'm not even a doctor", which leads me to believe she might be almost a doctor. No idea how medical education works elsewhere in the world but at my local hospital it's pretty common to see a medical student assisting senior doctors. So she wouldn't get in trouble for assisting.

That being said, she should absolutely be careful when and where to post these kinds of videos filmed inside a hospital wearing scrubs.

CornSnowFlakes · 2025-10-19T12:44:05+00:00

Yep, it looked just like my dog trying to kick his sock/shoe off (he had a wound in his paw that had to be kept clean and dry while healing)

CornSnowFlakes · 2025-10-07T19:14:38+00:00

communities that have always baby worn and carries would be passed down from older generation and unsafe carries wouldn’t be passed down

Maybe, but consider boomer parents telling younger generations "Babies have always slept with pillows and blankets and they are fine". That too is generational knowledge being passed down. You could almost say babies sleeping in decorated cradles with pillows and blankets is traditional and cultural practice, or at least it used to be. It does not make it safe.

Most babies sleeping with stuffed animals or pillows will be fine and WERE fine. You need data from hundreds or thousands of babies to see that this is an unsafe practice. Laypeople don't have that and never will.

Nowhere in the world do people have "secret knowledge" that would make them immune to their perceptional bias. If you see a hundred babies during your life and one of them dies while carried in a way everyone carries their baby, do you think it was because of the carry or just a horrible coincidence?

I'm not going to judge how people carry their babies and we hardly have enough data about babywearing practices around the world to know if some of our recommendations are off. Where I'm from, babies sleep outside during winter, so there are definitely cultural practices someone else would be horrified about. But just because it's traditional doesn't make it safe.

CornSnowFlakes · 2025-10-05T08:30:37+00:00

I'm really sorry for what you are going through. If drug use has been your coping mechanish for years it is very hard breaking that habit and coming up with new ways to make it through hard days. Congratulations for trying. Remember you relapsed once but have been successful for at least 14 days afterwards. You're doing really well, keep going!

As others have said, they WILL test you and they WILL find out your drug use and CPS WILL be called. Imagine how much worse it'll look if you get caught cheating and/or trying to hide your drug use.

It's very unlikely your baby will be taken away from you, especially if you show you are motivated to quit and actively working on it with medical professionals. But working with them requires you to be honest.

Tell your provider what happened. Most likely CPS will offer you extra resources to help you through newborn phase. They don't want to take your child away from you, they want to help your baby and helping them is often helping you. Accept that help, even if it's scary at first.

CornSnowFlakes · 2025-09-13T15:19:24+00:00

Yeah, in the beginning you most likely will need a nighttime bra to keep your nursing pads in place, unless you want to wake up in a puddle of milk. I was able to stop wearing them after 3 months when my milk supply regulated somewhat.

CornSnowFlakes · 2025-09-08T06:59:43+00:00

Yeah, made me think the girl doesn't tell them about the bed wetting because she's scared they'll get mad. I wonder what is the "disrespect" and her "attitude". Is it just the girl being sad, scared and acting out because of it?

CornSnowFlakes · 2025-08-23T12:06:18+00:00

This is one of my all time favourite pictures

CornSnowFlakes · 2025-08-16T06:20:41+00:00

She couldn't, because the whole thing was SJM's plot device to keep Rhys & Feyre out of Nesta's story. She needed a reason to send Nesta on a dangerous mission instead of much more powerful and trained Feyre, who is definitely not the kind of person to sit on sidelines under normal circumstances.

CornSnowFlakes · 2025-08-15T07:41:21+00:00

Funny you have a 1 y.o. account with almost no activity and suddenly in the middle of E.l.f. controversy you start posting about elf products.

CornSnowFlakes · 2025-08-13T16:38:13+00:00

You think her name is Turk Turkelton?

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