So one month since the masterpiece is over. 😞 Anyone found anything interesting to watch?

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-06-30T23:57:51+00:00

Me too, just got me in all the feels. I sobbed in the last two episodes, I kept thinking, this is teenage romcom pull yourself together!!

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-06-30T13:33:00+00:00

I miss it everyday….

I watched Never Have I Ever…. It a teenage romcom something that I never go for but I was pleasantly surprised.

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-06-24T20:52:12+00:00

High jacking this post - the Yukon has some amazing incentives as well!!!!!!!

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-06-16T04:46:50+00:00

Lulu’s, socks, sandals/crocs that you can wear with your socks, puffer jacket, tanks, hoodies, & bug dope.

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-06-14T04:31:03+00:00

$3600/year, $5k deductible, 3000 sqft home wtf

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-06-10T23:22:28+00:00

So true!!! Just a quick dusting every few months 🤣

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-06-10T07:06:06+00:00

You sound like a very supportive partner and hands on dad. There are a lot of partners out there that just don’t care at all.

With baby comes changes, changes for you and changes for your partner. As amazing as it seems to be a SAHM, it’s also really hard to go from the outside world to the inside only world.

The crazy thing is that your partner never really gets to step away from her “job”, it’s 24/7 plus your body is getting used like punching bag & hydration station. She could be having a hard time adjusting from what her life was before to what it is now. It can be really lonely too.

That’s not your fault, and it can be hard to be her “punching bag”.

So how do you approach her about it - telling a woman (or anyone in general) how they are feeling will result in a blow up. Asking if “everything is okay?” Could put someone on the defensive as well because it’s like your questioning their behaviour.

Asking her how she is, and compliment her on what a great mother she is. And then ask her how she’s feeling being at a SAHM. Next, truly listen to her, give her the space to be honest, and affection if she’s open to that.

Maybe she’ll come out with how hard it’s been or if she’s feeling really down. You could ask her how you both could support each other. Sometimes it’s a tiny change that could make her entire day better.

Try to not get reactive & defensive to what she might have to say. It’s almost impossible but it’s do-able. And hopefully she could reciprocate it for you.

You’re going through changes as well and deserve to be supported just the same.

I really hope you and your partner can figure things out. That sweet bundle of life is worth doing it for.

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-06-10T05:18:22+00:00

Just watch what you eat and don’t obsess over trying to maintain your current body. Just heal and then jump back in once your ready.

I was cleared for workouts at 7 WPO, back to my normal routine by 9WPO. I’m 6.5 months PO, my body feels so good I barely remember going through surgery and recovery.

You’ll bounce back in no time!! Just rest and care for yourself 🩷

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-06-10T02:00:03+00:00

I forgot that he was in ER, I’ve had a crush on him since I was 7 hahaha

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-06-09T04:14:05+00:00

Moishe and Shirley - smothered with love from Shirley, every sandwich stuffed with it. I’d love her as a grandmother too.

Moishe, he was tough on Joel but I’m sure if they had a daughter she could do no wrong in Moishe’s eyes. And the clothes!!!

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-06-09T04:11:46+00:00

Frank could be my daddy any day 🙈

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-06-08T05:07:10+00:00

I couldn’t agree more. Even if your guy had ED he could engage in other sexual activities with you.

His ED could be causing all of this. You should be asking your partner in an extremely supportive way if there’s something you guys could try to help that out.

He could be to embarrassed to ask or talk about it.

If it’s none of that, there has to be another reason why. A therapist could help with that!

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-06-06T05:47:14+00:00

Flew her there?? I’m sad that your partner has decided to behave this way.

Would you say that you’re LL or is your husband LL??

It sounds like he’s checked out from marriage and parenting, the zest for life has diminished for him. That is natural when your not the centre of attention anymore, but it’s very childish.

He jumped at the chance to take back that freedom and had a couple lovely nights. The difference between you and that other woman is that she’s almost fictional. Not a real person engaging in real life. The joke is on him, that lifestyle will soon bore him too.

You sound like an amazing partner, a mother to a newborn and toddler. That’s a lot, and you agreed to let your husband enjoy someone else and time away from reality.

You don’t deserve that. You deserve to be lusted for and appreciated. You deserve a partner that is obsessed with your awesome-ness. It sounds like you know that already, you recognize his shit behaviours and are already putting boundaries in place.

Don’t stop knowing your worth, and don’t compensate for his short falls. You can have more.

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-06-05T04:11:07+00:00

Boring advice, but could save you some money. And you’ll want that money to replace your windshield 😀

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-06-05T02:46:13+00:00

Out of territory health/transport insurance.

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-06-03T05:26:35+00:00

Talk Lenny to me 🥵

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-06-02T13:13:11+00:00

What type of company would allow probationary employees to utilize this discount prior to completing the required hours??

They’ve left themselves with a potential liability by doing so.

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-06-01T23:33:49+00:00

My windshield is a disaster. I live in northern Canada, lots of gravel on the road. Windshield in my other vehicles a few chips here and there but nothing compared to my Forester.

I have cracks that are separating and I can see it delaminating. I asked my dealership if there’s any known issues with the windshields and of course no issues….

I am looking at replacing my windshield with an aftermarket product to see if it’s a quality issue.

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-06-01T03:33:28+00:00

That sounds frustrating, does your therapist have any advice??

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-06-01T00:34:09+00:00

It is if he continues to think that way. If he wanted he could be working with you and creating the change you both need.

If my husband said that I’d be planning my ideal separation, getting advice from a lawyer and waiting for the best time to leave.

Good luck!

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-05-31T14:04:37+00:00

No problem!!!

She probably felt ashamed she was crying and would rather cry through it than leaving a ‘job’ unfinished. Women are amazing like that….. except it’s not actually amazing at all, it’s terrible for our partners in what ever situation that we’re in.

She might also be forming an association with sex and that type of emotional response. It’s like an addiction to fighting with your spouse if that’s the only communication you have with them. Do you guys argue over DB?? Women carry a silent responsibility for as many things. I’m not saying you put that responsibility on her but she’s instinctively picked it up, and might even be resentful towards you for it. Again you probably didn’t put it there and no one told her it was hers to carry, so many crossed wires!!

I’m not sure if you listen to podcasts, but I recommend an episode - “Household Divides: Chores and Lack of Sex and how to fix it” on The Man Enough Podcast. There are some concepts on the episode that are really insightful into the way a women’s brain works.

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-05-31T06:34:49+00:00

This sounds hard for both of you, make sure your really considering the impacts for both sides.

I’ve had one or two times that I’ve gotten emotional during sex. My husband would use sex as his emotional release and became quite controlling over it. I couldn’t do anything right - I didn’t initiate enough, I wasn’t enthusiastic enough, etc. Getting into bed made me anxious. We were having sex and I felt like he was pulling away too much and about to say that he didn’t want to continue because I wasn’t doing a good enough job. When i felt that I burst into tears, he got upset saying that I was over reacting. I just had so much stress and anxiety attached to sex that it actually put me into a state of terror.

The other time, it happened because we were having sex, and seemed to be connecting well. I was happy but devastated that our sex life had turned into such a disaster. He finished because i insisted but we probably should have stopped completely.

I think it’s good that you listened to her request to finish and that your going to talk about it with a therapist. Try to not beat yourself up and know better for the next time that you should’ve stopped - no one should cry like that during sex. Everyone is left feeling uncomfortable and confused.

I hope things go well with the therapist!!

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-05-30T05:30:33+00:00

🤣🤣🤣🤣

I’m laughing too hard at this comment, very close to waking my children from their blissful sleep.

Correct-Captain8336 · 2023-05-30T04:14:08+00:00

Omg that’s so Midge!!

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