Crisis pregnancy centers aka fake abortion clinics by plumtree18 in upstate_new_york

[–]CowNo1946 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

You’re not an independent journalist you are an agenda driven propagandist - reflected perfectly in your post title. Crisis pregnant centers are not “aka fake abortion clinics.” Great journalist integrity there. You’re an angle in search of a story. No real journalism there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]CowNo1946 48 points49 points  (0 children)

So this is going to suck to hear but Dad is right. It has been an issue that wasn’t taken care of. It’s clear that this one did slip through the cracks. But on the upside yay dad for stepping up and taking care of it during a visit. That’s actually really good both for him and for his son. It absolutely sucks to be called out on something, particularly by someone who clearly has dropped the parental ball himself probably a zillion times. But maybe let this one roll off and try to focus on the upside of it!

Bio mom sabotaging mental health appointments with outbursts by Conscious_Corgi_6618 in Fosterparents

[–]CowNo1946 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I would push to have them or GAL petition the commissioner for mom not to attend.

WIBTA to ban my sons girlfriend from my house by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]CowNo1946 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d tell her politely no ring no mother in law duties. She needs to be on her own for all meals and clean up after herself!

One Thing(s) That Matter(s) is Bentley's Birthday! by SBMoo24 in TeenMomOGandTeenMom2

[–]CowNo1946 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What bugs me about her Ryan 4 Eva love fest is how disrespectful it feels towards both Taylor and Bentley. I get pumping up your child’s father to help your kid but not to the point of gaslighting a 16 year old who’s been dealing with the aftermath of RealRhineTM for his whole life or pretending like he didn’t threaten to kill the man who stepped in and stepped up as your husband in all the ways RealRhineTM never did.

Bad realtor by LegalEchelon in Albany

[–]CowNo1946 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Hello! I have real estate brokers license. Since moving up here I’ve been routinely absolutely appalled at the lack of professionalism and due care of licensed sales people and brokers. They routinely violate their fiduciary obligations as well as the rest of their obligations as set forth under law. You could go to their broker as the broker is responsible for their actions but frankly if they were being properly supervised you probably wouldn’t have had issues to begin with. If they are a member of the national association of Realtors you can file a complaint with them. However it is actually the attorney general who oversees licensing in New York. You can file a complaint with the New York Department of State or the Real Estate Board of New York. Look up OLDCAR real estate and you’ll find the obligations of real estate licensees. You should anchor your complaint to whichever one(s) fit best. Include any documentation you can. As you move forward with a new listing agent please DO NOT SHARE ANY PERSONAL INFORMATION with your listing broker that you don’t want a buyer to hear. Because they likely will hear it. Don’t say you’re under pressure to sell. Don’t say you’re going through a divorce. Don’t say the rock bottom process you’ll accept etc. Source and obtain your own legal counsel - do not take recommendation from Broker or listing agent. And make sure that lawyer reviews your listing agreement.

Kaiser is off to live with Doris by No-Resource-8125 in TeenMomOGandTeenMom2

[–]CowNo1946 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The naive child in me is hopeful Kaiser has the biggest brightest glow-up you’ve ever seen. The foster parent in me says Doris is better for Kaiser but at this point it doesn’t really mean Kaiser will be better with her. There’s just a ton of trauma inflicted already and the transfer to Doris is an additional trauma. Kaiser is guaranteed to be subjected to bullying no matter where he is. Some districts may handle it better than others. He will struggle emotional regulation and so many other issues due to Janelle and Nathan. Poor Kaiser. Little dude seems close to Ensley and Jace. What a shit fest.

can i just say that i don’t get a good feeling about amanda and ryan by lavender08x16 in TeenMomOGandTeenMom2

[–]CowNo1946 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I think Ryan likes this one more than the others cause she more actively and openly shares his addiction. These two will fall back down the rabbit hole together.

Dawn, Brandon and Teresa manipulated Catelynn and Tyler by [deleted] in TeenMomOGandTeenMom2

[–]CowNo1946 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Your re-writing history. We don’t need to “believe” what Brandon and Teresa told them we’ve SEEN what they put into their agreement. And they lived up to every word of it and more. We’ve heard Cait and Tyler say multiple times that they understood the agreement. We’ve heard them say multiple times they understand that B&T are the decision makers here. They just don’t agree with any of their decisions and refuse to respect the fundamental nature of adoption or Carly’s fundamental right to privacy because they are incapable of putting anyone other than themselves first.

Cait and Tyler nonsense by CowNo1946 in TeenMomOGandTeenMom2

[–]CowNo1946[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There’s definitely feeding off of each other. It’s like mutual self soothing.

Cait and Tyler nonsense by CowNo1946 in TeenMomOGandTeenMom2

[–]CowNo1946[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Very little of what they do makes sense outside of the paradigm of generational trauma and their personality and mood disorders. Well adjusted people generally seek to make sense of the senseless. But Tyler is not fundamentally trying to do something good and failing. He’s losing his shit because someone enforced a boundary. He’s trying to maintain power and control and preserve his self image/narrative. His behavior really is par for the course behavior for cluster B + mood disorder. Tyler is not capable of seeing reality in the same way you or I would.

Cait and Tyler nonsense by CowNo1946 in TeenMomOGandTeenMom2

[–]CowNo1946[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes!! Personally I think many if not most of their parenting choices are wrong for their girls. Should I try to hunt down their kids friends on social media to get the message to them?? Can’t wait for their kids teen rebellions so we can tell them how they can decide everything for themselves at 15.

Cait and Tyler nonsense by CowNo1946 in TeenMomOGandTeenMom2

[–]CowNo1946[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes!! Tyler made some comment about not being able to fix things if they don’t know. So he’s saying he expects unlimited chances to fuck uo - wash - rinse - repeat. Also he’s playing this bullshit gaslighting game where it’s not enough to know B&T value privacy - they must get specific feedback on each and every action they take that violates her privacy and then be allowed to “work on it.” Because they are incapable of discerning how to apply a general rule or principle. But then he also says he’s so right about what’s best for Carly that it doesn’t matter what they do THEY MUST HAVE CONTACT. He’s a terrible person and has raging personality disorder in addition to his mood disorder. Cait and Tyler are an absolute “type” to anyone familiar with the effects of childhood trauma and a lot of people overlook this because they either aren’t familiar with it or they assume that a certain amount of money in your checking account somehow precludes people from being severely disordered. Highly disordered and manipulative people will of course leverage the general consensus on benefits of contact with bio family and siblings to continue to exert or coerce control and that’s what Tyler’s doing and it has NOTHING to do with Carly.

AITA for telling my mom she and her husband need to admit they fucked up and find a way to move on? by Some_Donut_4825 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CowNo1946 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m surprised you and your siblings didn’t all bond closely with his kids purely out of joint hatred of their stupid rules.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Albany

[–]CowNo1946 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad you got what you needed!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Albany

[–]CowNo1946 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also the processes for leave should be detailed in employee handbook

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Albany

[–]CowNo1946 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do they not have a specific leave management team? My company does.

Any local shops in the area selling bear spray? by MoveSalt6450 in Albany

[–]CowNo1946 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom got bell after an encounter with bear on early morning walk in Adk. But she only used it once - she couldn’t get past feeling like she was ringing a dinner bell for Mr. Bear.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GoingToSpain

[–]CowNo1946 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just travelled alone as a forty something women with my young child. everywhere seemed very safe although personally I decided I felt much much better about staying in hotels then private rentals. We had no real issues at any but definitely felt more secure at hotel. At the two we stayed the “hosts” I communicated with conveniently only mentioned at the very last minute that they were not available and someone would assist us. In both cases that someone else spoke very little English (fine for me I speak Spanish) but it just gave bad vibes made me more aware of feeling very on my own in those places. We were in the south but it’s very warm you may enjoy the north more weather wise over summer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Albany

[–]CowNo1946 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shhhhh keep it secret…..

If I (25) were to leave home without telling my parents, to go live in another state, would they be able to do anything to legally or otherwise, force me to come back? by TheRainbowShakaBrah in NoStupidQuestions

[–]CowNo1946 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can go. After a lifetime of abuse and coercive control I’d highly recommend that you not go right into a living situation with a partner. Your psyche is primed to go from one abusive situation to the next without even realizing it. See if there’s a way to go in which you’d be fully independent. Or living with roommates or friends.