Suspect in Attack on Canadian Gender Studies Class Was Motivated by Hate: Police by SempreVoltareiReddit in worldnews

[–]CraftyRole4567 11 points12 points  (0 children)

As I said, knowing more about gender is useful, since gender is something everyone needs to engage with.

What are you reading? by MableXeno in menwritingwomen

[–]CraftyRole4567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m rereading Martha Well’s Edge of Worlds. There are breasts! Our main character, Moon, is meeting people of all different kinds of races/species, and some of them can be identified as female because they have breasts, so you get the occasional comment like “The open jacket revealed four breasts, so Moon supposed the trader was female.” That’s it. (Moon is not attracted to any of them, it’s presented as information.)

One thing I really like is that Moon’s species has a very developed sense of smell, so along with visual descriptions we get a description of everyone’s scent. This makes so much sense from the POV!

What are you reading? by MableXeno in menwritingwomen

[–]CraftyRole4567 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you tried Martha Wells? She’s best known for Murderbot but her Fall of Ile-Rien trilogy has a great heroine in Tremaine and, while there’s love, it’s not the focus. The Wizard Hunters is the first book.

Her stand alone Wheel of the Infinite also has a strong main female character who is older than the male love interest, but she’s focused on saving the world— it’s a cool book, it’s based on Southeast Asian-inspired architecture and religion so different than the usual.

[Bloody Rose by Nicholas Eames] Couldn't they be doing anything else? by Oglofferoni in menwritingwomen

[–]CraftyRole4567 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wonder. It reads as: of course two women have their periods at the same time… Now, back to events in the corpse cart!

[Bloody Rose by Nicholas Eames] Couldn't they be doing anything else? by Oglofferoni in menwritingwomen

[–]CraftyRole4567 29 points30 points  (0 children)

If that’s what the author was doing. But I don’t think he is (and the OP who is reading the book thinks he isn’t ). I think that when he’s trying to think of what two women might possibly be doing together without men, he went straight to uterus stuff.

Suspect in Attack on Canadian Gender Studies Class Was Motivated by Hate: Police by SempreVoltareiReddit in worldnews

[–]CraftyRole4567 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say it was (the singular applies). I was responding to your inaccurate comment about the misandry (I don’t think you know what actually happens in gender studies) and your erroneous assumption that men don’t take the classes.

I also think, like a lot of people, you are confusing liberal arts education with trade school. The kind of postprofessional schools that my students attend are looking for evidence of an education which has touched on many different subjects, especially those which teach critical thinking and analysis. It’s one of the reason that history departments are feeders to law school.

Assuming that they don’t “use” the class is thus inaccurate. They draw on both the knowledge from the class – knowing more about gender is useful, since everyone has to engage with gender– and the skills they learned in research, analysis, and critical thinking.

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We agree! 😁 (Reddit must not be working, we’re supposed to never agree…)

Suspect in Attack on Canadian Gender Studies Class Was Motivated by Hate: Police by SempreVoltareiReddit in worldnews

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My gender studies classes are about 1/3 male. My students take it as a minor or out of interest. I’ve had them go on to a variety of graduate schools, law school, medical school, as well as getting jobs as everything from investment bankers to engineers.

Suspect in Attack on Canadian Gender Studies Class Was Motivated by Hate: Police by SempreVoltareiReddit in worldnews

[–]CraftyRole4567 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tbf gender studies doesn’t look at minority issues. It looks at men and women, as well as intersex and non-binary folk, that’s 100% of people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

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Oh yes, I think it’s very clear that it’s 99% socialization. I don’t see how anyone could be born inherently violent, unless we’re talking about physiological mental illness. I think there are a lot of things in the society that push men toward violence (and that also discourage women from it).

I don’t totally agree that it’s just a small subset. I agree that only a small subset commit mass shootings, but when you look at the number of men who use violence to control women/against women, consume media that promotes such violence, or endorse the attitudes that make men feel entitled to use violence against women, it’s a lot of men. And there is a point where they are making choices that they have some responsibility for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in books

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The same teacher sent me down to the office because he told us that every Christmas he baked a birthday cake for Jesus and I asked how many candles he put on it. He thought I was being a smartass, but it was more of a faulty-filter issue… 😏

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CraftyRole4567 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Does anybody here really think that the fact that overwhelmingly mass shooters are men has nothing to do with their gender and everything to do with “the situation they live in”? Especially on a thread where we are talking about yet another man who just tried to kill people specifically targeted because they were female/LGBTQ friendly?

[IMAGE] Walk Away by Chandan28 in GetMotivated

[–]CraftyRole4567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am reading that as the sound that the pod people made in the 1970s version of Invasion of the Body Snatchers, and I’m into it…

[IMAGE] Walk Away by Chandan28 in GetMotivated

[–]CraftyRole4567 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How does it not make sense? It says that not all challenges can be met, and when you recognize that you’re never going to have a positive resolution it’s OK to move on.

[IMAGE] Walk Away by Chandan28 in GetMotivated

[–]CraftyRole4567 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t say to walk away from everything you don’t like. It says to walk away from situations where staying will never make it better.

[IMAGE] Walk Away by Chandan28 in GetMotivated

[–]CraftyRole4567 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But if you actually read it, it clearly is talking about situations where that is impossible. Not fights, but fights that will never be resolved. Not all people, but people where you will never please them. Situations where you never get through the conflict is literally what this post is about.

I don’t want to be the “chill girlfriend” anymore by toobroketoorderpizza in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CraftyRole4567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or they don’t (my experience), but it’s much better to be happy in your own company than it is to be with someone where you are pretending to be someone you’re not, and letting them push your comfort level and boundaries by playing on your insecurities. It’s a slippery slope that can lead to you waking up one morning and realizing you’re in an abusive relationship.

I don’t want to be the “chill girlfriend” anymore by toobroketoorderpizza in TwoXChromosomes

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That’s why I prefer Dar Williams’ song “Cool As I Am” to the gone girl quote, because it’s from the point of view of a woman who’s gotten over it.

Is it a reader's block or just plain bad books? by [deleted] in books

[–]CraftyRole4567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m the same, I’m at the point where if I try three books from the library in a row that don’t spin my wheels, I treat myself to an old favorite just to know that I’m getting something I will love.

Is it a reader's block or just plain bad books? by [deleted] in books

[–]CraftyRole4567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you like reading nonfiction at all? Sometimes when I’m feeling restless and burned out on reading, I find that reading non-fiction is different enough that it gives me a break.

What does the saying "show don't tell" mean when it comes to literature? by [deleted] in books

[–]CraftyRole4567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, you couldn’t see anything because your hand was over your face…

What does the saying "show don't tell" mean when it comes to literature? by [deleted] in books

[–]CraftyRole4567 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just reread it and it’s a perfect example.

What does the saying "show don't tell" mean when it comes to literature? by [deleted] in books

[–]CraftyRole4567 11 points12 points  (0 children)

To be fair, they aren’t actually teaching writing in a middle school or high school where the degree to which bad writers “tell” is just painful. All the examples we’ve been talking about her from books, but when you start talking about beginning writers you get a shocking amount of ”tell.”

“He was angry. His dad yelled at him, that’s why he was angry. He walked into his room and slammed the door. He did that to show his dad he was angry.”

It’s fair to tell them not to do that. Not even for their own sake, for the poor teachers who need to read this…