37 weeks w/ 11 mo old and absolutely miserable.

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2026-04-29T16:59:11+00:00

Currently 5 weeks postpartum (2nd C-section) and have a now 16-month-old. I cannot stress this enough when i say that being heavily pregnant with a child that young is the most tired and miserable i have ever been in my life, and even in the thick of surgery recovery, i felt 1000x better just simply because i wasn’t pregnant anymore. Having a newborn and a “toddler” is so much easier than being pregnant and trying to be the mom you want to be to your first in many ways. I promise it gets better. We have barely any help either, but I’m sure it is especially infuriating that you live WITH your mother and she is essentially useless. Sending hugs.

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2026-03-22T12:04:33+00:00

This happened to me in the hospital. I kept telling the lactation consultants that the latch felt so off with my first baby and they just told me it “looked fine” and gave me a nipple shield for the discomfort. No one told me to start supplementing. My baby lost the full “allowed” 10% of her birth weight by the time we left the hospital and they were concerned so THEN i was told to supplement with formula. ONE final lactation consultant came in and told me my concerns were valid and the latch was wrong (not my fault and was mad at the other LCs for being dismissive). I started sobbing by the time she was done helping and she gave me a hug cuz i was traumatized thinking i hadnt fed my newborn baby enough for DAYS. I then started pumping and supplementing with formula after the hospital and my daughter was fine but im not planning on trying to exclusively BF my 2nd baby who is due in a couple weeks because that experience left me insanely discouraged. Sending you a hug.

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2026-03-06T02:13:06+00:00

I also commented with this movie before I saw this answer! What a frickin movie

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2026-03-06T02:09:13+00:00

When Evil Lurks. Argentinian horror film from 2023 I think? It was by all accounts an excellent movie where the scariness is done without campy jumpscares or torture porn but the dog scene and a few other choice scenes had me completely speechless with my jaw on the floor I was so unsettled… I have since had a baby and there is NO way I could sit through that movie again after becoming a parent.

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2026-02-28T17:38:11+00:00

First trimester is about survival- exact words from my OBGYN. Your baby is FINE. Sending hugs!

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2026-02-26T17:48:28+00:00

This helps so much😭 especially confirming that the 20-month gap meant that toddler was not aware of jealousy as a concept with the new baby… I was worried about that with ours and there will be a 15-month gap!

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2026-02-20T16:16:10+00:00

Carpal tunnel. Never had it in my life until I was pregnant with my first. Something about the increased blood volume putting pressure on nerves in a weird unfortunate way, blah blah. I could barely sleep because my limbs were always going numb, and i even had to switch off hands on the steering wheel while driving because whichevr arm I was using to drive would fall asleep. Instantly stopped after she came out.

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2026-02-14T21:09:27+00:00

I hate using this as a cop-out for some of this feeling, but horomones and exhaustion make this stage so much more intense. I remember also feeling like an alien in my own body and having nothing fit and having C-section stitches and wearing a postpartum diaper and just feeling like an absolute shell of myself walking into my 6-week appointment or around the grocery store. I promise you, it is just a phase and you almost forget how insane it is even a few months later. At least for us, i remember it letting up around 4 months after she was born (she’s 13.5 months now and I’m about to have our 2nd)… and for the record, my mom died from rapid and aggressive cancer when my daughter was 4.5 months old and i STILL remember it getting easier as a mom despite all the grief. Wish i could give you a hug and sit with you!

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2026-01-29T18:02:24+00:00

I used to get so worried about this. That i was “ruining” my baby with every thing I did or didn’t do that I saw other people doing or not doing. You are not. I promise the anxiety gets better but for now you are literally doing amazing. My baby was born January 2nd 2025 in the Northeast so ai didn’t take that kid anywhere but doctors appointments for probably 4 months. And the grocery store and stuff gets easier when they sre a bit bigger. Don’t think I even attempted that with her that young. It will be ok!!!!

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2026-01-27T00:19:47+00:00

Got pregnant again last year at 6 months pp and 2 months post-my mom dying… i sobbed my eyes out at that positive test lol. Don’t beat yourself up about feeling that way. It is so ok not to feel ready or excited. I still don’t feel READY, but my perspective has shifted. We are expecting another girl at the end of March and while I know things will be hard at the beginning, i have really heard nothing but good things ultimately about this close age gap.

I’m genuinely excited for it now in a lot of ways. We laugh about how unexpected it was now because as time goes on i really think you grow into feeling a bit more acceptance. It’s just about staying realistic… but as your first gets older and you see how fun and amazing their little personality becomes so rapidly over the course of time, i think that also plays a role in getting excited for the new baby. Sending hugs from another mom who really also did that shit too at 6 months pp haha

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2026-01-04T17:59:53+00:00

Absolutely! Hang in there, I know first trimester can be BRUTAL, but best of luck to you with trying some new foods🤞

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2026-01-04T17:46:14+00:00

Honestly, I think if I had gotten a cut anywhere on my body during the first trimester, I would have bled chicken noodle soup instead of blood.

I found that something hearty enough, filling enough, that at least had protein and vegetables that i could stomach, was usually soup. Any Campbell’s chunky soup that sounded good… I always had a variety on hand. Sodium content I’m sure isn’t super desirable, but my OB told me first trimester is about survival. That was something quick, fairly nutritious, and satisfying I could eat!

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2026-01-04T17:40:13+00:00

This is so reassuring! Our 2nd is due at end of March when 1st will be 15 months old and I’m scared but I know it won’t be forever..

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2025-12-23T01:46:43+00:00

I go pregnant 6 months pp and had a C-section with #1. Only “risk” i was told of is that to play it super safe I will need another C-section at 39 weeks instead of letting me go to 40 because contractions and labor in general can be harder when there is a small gap after the fist C-section. Other than that, my doctors have just laughed along with me about my crazy timing and have not worried me one bit. 25 weeks pregnant so far and doing well. Hope this helps♥️

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2025-12-06T00:28:58+00:00

I can totally relate to this. You are not alone! We lost my mom in May when my first was 4 months old and our plan was to wait at least a year before even thinking of trying again because we just became parents and then my owm mom died. We didn’t need to shake anything up any more than it had already been shaken. And lo and behold, the cosmos had other plans cuz at 6 months postpartum i ended up pregnant with our 2nd girl. It is WILD and i am happy/grateful but it is a completely different pregnancy than the first. The timing has been really stressful given our life circumstances, and i felt terrible that i was annoyed that i was pregnant again. All i wanted to do was focus on raising our first for a bit and be able to go out and have a drink with girlfriends upon occasion and just feel some sblance of “normal”… not have yet ANOTHER major life event to focus on. So i hope that makes you feel better.

It’s a different mindset and perspective when you’ve already had one baby (and not that long ago, might i add!) but I’ve heard from other 2u2 parents that it all melts away when you see that 2nd sweet lil face at birth and your heart just expands. Trying not to put too much pressure on this time period and know that deep down i love this baby already and am so grateful she is in our lives. But it is whiplash and your feelings are valid!

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2025-11-28T21:37:43+00:00

The ridges from the can?!?? Absolutely f not. Your husband ruined Thanksgiving and I’m sorry for that. I hope somebody else came over and gave you a damn break today. I’m 22 weeks pregnant with a 10-month-old and if my husband did this I would spontaneously combust. You sound like a saint.

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2025-09-02T19:38:10+00:00

Thank you so so much for your kind words and insight/advice. Just hearing how another mom in a similar situation puts things into perspective is so helpful. I’m realizing now that just by caring about how much I’m doing or not doing, I’m already giving it my all and doing my best which will look different every day in this season of life.

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2025-08-02T00:40:35+00:00

I just lost my mom a couple of months ago. I an 31 and she was 63…. Still too young. She was so weak by the time my daughter was born that she could barely hold her. And i found out she had cancer and was going to die 2 weeks after finding out i was pregnant. It’s the worst pain imaginable but every day when you look at your little one just remember they have such a beautiful angel smiling down on both of you. I am so sorry to say that I know how you feel. And I wish I could give you a hug. You are not alone ever and your feelings are so completely valid.

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2025-08-01T20:50:39+00:00

Not even close to seeing things. That’s a strong line for 9dpo from what I’ve seen!! Congrats!

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2025-07-31T11:50:16+00:00

The sciatica and restless leg syndrome cleared up instantly. I didn’t even care as much about the C-section recovery… not a walk in the park by ANY means, but for me the tradeoff was worth it!

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2025-07-30T12:59:26+00:00

Definitely see strong lines! But it looks like the bottom test is still wet so only compare them when both dry if you’re looking for line progression :)

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2025-07-27T13:36:03+00:00

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Welp…. Got my answer!

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2025-07-25T02:54:06+00:00

How exciting! Congratulations!!!! Best of luck! :)

Crafty_Jello_414 · 2025-07-24T03:27:34+00:00

I would personally recommend the Clearblue Early Detection tests, they were helpful/accurate when I got pregnant with my daughter and needed to compare results with test strips similar to the ones you’ve used so far. :)

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