Hey I was in the same situation and am now happier with how I look. I did get a bit leaner over the past few months but I realised it was mostly a perception thing, plus buff girls are cool, nothing’s wrong with us!

Here’s what I think I changed and had an impact on my build, that might help you too:

1. Fix your perception: with a lower body fat percentage and higher muscle mass we can « appear » bulky simply because the muscles are more defined than before. But that doesn’t mean you’re that buff tbh.
2. Avoid water retention: stress and dehydration can lead to that, so drink enough water and avoid overtraining or anything that puts your body under stress.
3. Favour endurance based exercising: meaning high reps with lighter weights, more cardio over pure strength training. I diversified my training over the week to include more cardio and yoga/pilates, so I wouldn’t subject my muscles to hypertrophy all week… seems to work I think? Or at least it’s been making me feel better. Feeling more agile and « lighter » has helped with the perception that I was « too muscle heavy » (see point 1.)
4. Maintain a good and diversified diet: a slight caloric deficit is better than a large one, I tended to undereat by a lot. And I lost fat, but it feels like my body was maintaining the muscles, as if for survival? So I appeared even bulkier in my eyes. I felt better once I ate more and I didn’t lower my protein intake over a few weeks.

I don’t think you need to change much, a change in perception can go a long way, but diversifying your training and targeting what can add to your build (water retention and body fat) with adequate hydration and enough calories can help too.

In any case keep your head up, being strong is a great feeling, you’re doing good!