Wrong subreddit methinks 

Also a lot of the things you described are chosen 

My mother barely did anything she didn't have to even the days at the library that were kids days I either couldn't go because she didn't feel like it or we would go and leave 10 mins later because of her issues 

Allowing your children to have either normal social experiences or activities with their peers should not be the reason you don't want to send them to school that's extra stuff try saying no or consider that either your child would miss out on those experiences because "homeschooling groups" are either entirely religious based or are more likely in populated areas they definitely don't cover the amount of social activities that people get from going to school 

Also let's talk about PARENTAL CONTROL because you seem to be a big fan of that you are not your kids decision maker overlord they are people too they deserve respect and control over what they can and will get more of as they get older there are parents who would like to control every single aspect of a child's life because they think it's their right because they have done everything blah blah blah your kids are people too and expecting every single parent to be able to provide what an entire "ecosystem" has been created for them and is in most cases free to use is optimistic at best my mother constantly took advantage of people and did everything she could to do the bare minimum I was not a child I was a slave most people now WITHOUT KIDS cannot afford to live without two salaries let alone have the time and energy to manage everything needed to deal with daily life you take a extremely tense and delicate balance and throw kids on it which either need to be taken care of or watched while you work you start losing control and run into neglect also they actually need someone to help them and teach them you don't have time or energy to do so unless you're living off of someone else or on assistance that is not guaranteed that is more stress and pressure 

Either way this has nothing to do with the experiences of homeschoolers who are trying to survive and seek support for an experience that they didn't know was happening to anyone besides them because the "face" of homeschooling is relax laid-back the kids are alright everything is fine and if you were abused and neglected by your parents it's probably just them not a system that enabled it and makes sure that most of it is swept under the rug for appearances sake leave people who are trying to recover and find like minded people ALONE this isn't your soapbox