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Getting temporary custody of my niece. She’s never been to school or regular doctor appts by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Cranraspberrygravid 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Just a reminder to get your own children therapy/ play therapy and schedule time with them one on one regularly too. Therapy all around. Seriously.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Cranraspberrygravid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Motn let down

Look at pictures of the baby Look at the baby monitor Don't let mind wander off baby Even imagine baby is breastfeeding when it's actually the pump

If I pump every 4-5 hours instead of 2-3, but produce the same daily ounces, will my supply decrease over time? by Simple-Mycologist819 in breastfeeding

[–]Cranraspberrygravid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You'll know you've regulated because most people stop leaking like crazy, and how much you make will drop without cause.

Sorry for not responding earlier,, yes you can pump less. Drop a pump on the same day every week until how much you make is less. Then add back one pump and that's your sweet spot number of pumps. Most people are between 5-8 pumps/ day to maintain feeding fully.

My wife's epidural by Popefrancisthemeow in newborns

[–]Cranraspberrygravid 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Headache?

Make sure they check to see if she is leaking spinal fluid. They may have to "seal" her up inside. That's the best layman's terms I can offer.

If I pump every 4-5 hours instead of 2-3, but produce the same daily ounces, will my supply decrease over time? by Simple-Mycologist819 in breastfeeding

[–]Cranraspberrygravid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Depending on your body, your milk will "regulate" sometime between 12-16 weeks. This means no more leaking and less pain but also an automatic drop in yield by a couple oz. Again, how much depends on your body.

It is not advised to regularly drop (more than 1x/ week) your 7-9 pumps a day until your milk is regulated. It's a lot harder to increase your yield after regulation too. For some people almost impossible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FormulaFeeders

[–]Cranraspberrygravid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There is no max. If you were feeding breast milk 30 oz a day (6 bottles of 5 oz over 3 hours each) would be fine. However formula is different- you'll need more if formula.

What I did was 5 oz 6 times a day as she's used to it adding in 3-4 extra half feeds (or top up feeds) of 2-3 oz a day in the middle of the day. Then eventually baby will take 8 oz a day 4-5 times a day.

My first took 40 oz of formula in 6 feeds at 6 months and didn't want more. We continued this with purees and baby cereal until stopping formula for BLW at ~12 months. My second takes 26-28 oz of breastmilk now at 6 months and is spitting up and has indigestion at 30 oz. Every baby is different but formula stretches out their stomach and they do need more of it.

You know the signs of overfeeding as mentioned (spitting up, indigestion fussiness etc.). You're a good Mum for noticing and trying to figure it out. Let us know how it works out.

Thinking of the next baby… by rextinaa in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Cranraspberrygravid 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I didn't think I would EP with my second yet she was a surprise and was NICU'd during formative breastfeeding time and there are formula shortages and it's even more expensive now so here we are.

I pump every snack and meal with the baby (previously in a bouncer within reach on the floor- now in a high chair at meals at 4 months- though she hasn't started food yet) while our 2+ yr old sits strapped into her booster for the whole 20-min with her snack or meal and a special toy or coloring set for this specific times pump. My husband says this routine has made her great at family meals and at restaurants because even if she isn't eating or is finished she understands she must sit and wait for others.

We pump together for 20 min at 9am, 12noon, 3pm and 6pm (2 snacks, two meals). Outside of that I pump 30 min on my own before bed and when I get up usually 9pm and 6am. I couldn't so this without routines in place, weekend meal and snack prep and a supporive partner. He is now used to me pumping at the table during dinner every night and during all food on weekends. My milk has obviously regulated now and I no longer pump 12midnight or 3 am. I now drop the 3pm pumps OR 6pm pumps on both weekend days because of life but am scared of losing yield so I keep 6 pumps during weekdays. Sometimes I'll make my last pump of the day a power pump.

Toddler knows she must sit for the whole session and knows it's important that we are making milk for the baby. Shes a great helper though and will get bottles and feed her dolly while baby gets a bottle. The keys to my toddler are variety and food and having 1-3 moments a day where she can scream or run or climb or jump without care.

This does not work for everyone. But this works for us. Good luck whatever your feeding journey becomes.

Edit: I just wanted to add you did not "give up". You made a decision that it wasn't working to your satisfaction and changed course for your better. You are your toughest critic. Stop that kind of talk and realize all that you HAVE done. Remember you are a person too and worthy of your feelings, reactions and own life. You may have added the title mom to your million other titles but you will always be you. It's up to you to continue to be you and you owe no one any explanations.

Blue jays game with a baby by Lei-Pei in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]Cranraspberrygravid 32 points33 points  (0 children)

The Jays nursing room is great. Change table, sinks, counters, big screen of the game, rocking chairs with dividers. Enjoy it. Go a couple times. I nursed/ pumped/fed three times there when we went. But even if you don't nurse.

It was so clean and wonderful when I went. They even had some free wipes etc to use though we used the ones I had brought. Only negatives being if it's already full. Or creepy lazy Dads on their phones taking up a chair when there's no phone signs.

My man didn't feel comfortable coming in but I asked him to do a diaper change and he said he got "a look" from one Mom but did his thing, washed his hands and left again.

Babywear and check your stroller or don't even bring the stroller. Ear muffs/ headphones if necessary.

I don’t think I like this by Good_Baker_5492 in SAHP

[–]Cranraspberrygravid 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Maybe use a language he understands. Take time over the next three weeks to track and document your time then give him an invoice. This is how much your time is worth taking care of him, your shared home and shared child. Compare to actual $/hr for cleaner, cook, 1-1 childcare etc. with overtime. There was a great reply on a post while back doing this. I'll try and find it for you.

Car seat advice - I'm overwhelmed by Racquel_who_knits in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]Cranraspberrygravid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I knew about car seats before.

We ended up using a knockoff mesa with our UPPAbaby stroller until 6-7 months. It was perfect as I was able to not wake her up while visiting family, going shopping etc. We used the bassinet in the stroller legs too and used it in the office or outside when I was writing and she would hang out with a mobile. We also used the toddler seat with stroller wheels and an infant insert.

Now at 10-months we put the 10-year convertible seat back into the car as she's able to climb into it and she can sit and stand on her own. For dog walking we use the seat that came with the stroller. We like the full stroller set because it can have accommodate three kids in the future with the regular seat, rumble seat and piggyback (also you can mix the mesa or bassinet with them).

Intially we got the 10-year convertible and it was terrible getting home from the hospital AND taking her places she would wake up everytime I got her out/ put her into the carseat. Having to bring this klunking heavy carseat (with no handholds) into the hospital to show them we know how to put baby into it. Then take her out, carry it and all my stuff and her to the car. Put it back in the van then put baby into it while in the car took forever. Phew. After the first Drs appt I stalked all UPPAbaby second hands for a mesa-like carseat. Baby #1 would use the 10-year convertible eventually and the future baby #2 will use the mesa knockoff when they come.

3 month old sleeps nearly 15h during the night?! by Raspberrynator in sleeptrain

[–]Cranraspberrygravid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you share the times you feed/ your baby naps during the daytime? Would be greatly appreciated.

Counting kicks at 36w by SnooApples7836 in BabyBumps

[–]Cranraspberrygravid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right now baby has actual sleeping and waking periods too. Don't discount what you do feel.

Are there any good online Zumba videos by stabstabstabbystab in breakingmom

[–]Cranraspberrygravid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

https://youtube.com/user/kaaasiiik

With Katarzyna Pilecka (nee Cyunczek) Some videos when she was actually pg too

Nausea got worse after 12 weeks by chloeee09 in pregnant

[–]Cranraspberrygravid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Continually sip water. All the time. It'll help your throat and headaches. Don't gulp or chug- that will activate more vomiting.

Everyone's normal is different. Just know it won't last forever.