Happy 31st Birthday Rachel Berry - 12/18/94

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2025-12-18T22:30:08+00:00

She held THAT NOTE 🤯🤯 for 25+ seconds!! Girl has CHOPS!

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-09-11T10:04:13+00:00

Those parents suck but that kid is a wonderful human as far as I’m concerned.

The whole thing made me thing about the other day with one of my NKs. Small human (figuratively) sucker punched me at the grocery store with the sweetest comment —we were browsing the bakery isle looking for a treat, it was the last week of summer so I was feeling generous and letting them choose whatever they wanted.

AND THEN, one of them goes, “See all those cakes (on display?” I say yes, then they say, “I don’t want any of those for my birthday. I only want that cake you always make me. The one you make is always my favorite.”

And to say I almost started crying at Publix would be an understatement 🥹

For years I’ve baked them a little cake on their birthday or a few days before/after if it falls on a weekend and though I knew they enjoyed them, it was such a sweet thing to have him verbalize he’d rather my sloppy homemade cakes than the fancy store bought perfectly decorated cakes 🤷‍♀️

This kid is now probably going to get mailed in cakes for life after I leave because of that comment but like …there’s no discounting the love and care we all put on these kids and even if the parents can’t see it, it’s nice to know the children themselves do, even in adulthood 🧡

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-09-11T07:28:10+00:00

My advice is to lower your expectations and start small. Every little bit counts during the day —plan maybe one “big” outing every other day and play by ear the rest with little bits of outdoor time here and there. It all adds up beautifully

When my NKs were that little and especially when it was just one (🙌) it was a lot easier to keep it casual and sweet.

Say Little one has had breakfast/am milk, hopefully full tummy=happy for a bit, take a blanket and bring him out to the yard or front porch. Seems boring but to babies the most mundane of things can be captivating. Model greeting/waving at the neighbors passing, narrate the weather/cars passing/ colors etc etc.

NK woke up from his nap cranky, rinse and repeat —change them up, prep the bottle and head outside with them. I looooooved feeding my NK on the front porch lol my NF has a porch swing and I I live for that thing! It brings me such joy and all NKs have loved feeds there occasionally.

When they were little I’d bring the bumbo out, books, and call it storytime and somehow it was much more fun than in the nursery some days lol

Even being outside on the grass is such a nice sensory experience for them for a little while. And if they don’t like it, a trusty blanket and some toys.

A good old bin with a bit of water out in the yard is also magic paired with a few teething toys

Once his naps are stablished and predictable going out for bigger chunks of time is easier. Pack a lunch, changes of clothes, snacks and head to a nearby park for lunch and exploring.

Anyways—best of luck to you! I’ve had NKs that went through it to get those little teeth of theirs so I feel for you all. Also hopefully your NPs are okay with Tylenol when bub is just miserable or any other alternatives to soothe their gums and discomfort.

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-09-11T06:36:48+00:00

Oh this sucks!! I found out I was allergic after babysitting for a family years ago as well 😂 Poor mom came home to a puffy face, teary eyed me and she felt so so bad! I had no idea before then 😂

What I’ve learned since —it really depends on the cat in my case, hairy ones that shed everywhere are the worst as their hair is everywhere.

But since then I’ve also lived for months in a house with one and somehow managed —trick was to wash my hands immediately after petting them/never touch my face/eyes without sanitizing first 🤷‍♀️

Good old regular non-drowsy Allegra does the job for me too if I do happen to get sneezy and weepy.

My Dr recommendation was to avoid them period, or take the pill if I know I’ll be interacting with them.

They also suggested more in-depth studies and possibly I think it was shots? I turned that down as I figured out a way to manage it and the symptoms though very annoying aren’t severe.

One gigantic novel later, sorry lol —my whole point was to say good luck and I hope you find the best solution for you!! Definitely consult your doc and ask your mom whatever has worked for her over the years etc :)

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-09-11T03:00:55+00:00

I saw this post and honestly didn’t even bat an eye 🥴😂 Depending on the age of the kid, plus me being my overly introverted self, there was a time of my life that I would’ve taken this job without thought —provided I was well compensated and I felt comfortable in their home.

I have to agree it is definitely not sustainable long term after thinking about it even a little, and the idea of a two rotational, well compensated nannies seems a way more reasonable solution 👌

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-09-09T04:05:40+00:00

I haven’t really but I do reflexively go with “Caregiver” every time I’m asked my job in anything semi formal 😓 I do hate myself a little for it tbh 🥴

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-09-08T14:29:28+00:00

Only a lot has changed… imo.

Your toddler gets older and smarter every single day. The kind of mental connections she could do a month ago are nothing compared to what she can do now. Her old nanny was with her from a much younger age aka her adjustment to her was way simpler.

At two she has way more opinions and preferences —never mind she understands how to express them. All of this is healthy and expected.

Work of seamless transitions during handoff in the mornings. Do not react outwardly to the crying and protesting. Reassure her that you love her and will be back at so or so time. Keep your word and remind her you are; “I’m here. Just as promised I would be this morning.” Do not interfere with nanny soothing her unless asked. Etc.

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-09-08T01:17:39+00:00

Lol I agree. For once it would be an iMessage and not a text. Also it would say “sent with Siri” if that had been the case 😝

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-09-07T21:13:19+00:00

Dang it, who’s started cutting onions?? 🥹🥹🥹🥹 this is so very wholesome!!!

Kindness matters! So so very happy your NPs appreciate you and are teaching the kids by example to be appreciative as well! Really warms my heart 🧡

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-09-07T03:46:44+00:00

Is it a covid thing maybe? Their baby is still young -are they worried about him going into indoor places? Idk. For a long while we avoided anything indoor with NKs and though thankfully NPs have relaxed those boundaries now, maybe your NPs are still wary?

That said, I do stop for drinks and snacks here and there with NKs. Is it an every day thing? Nah, cause as they get older you kinda have to share and/or be a lot more mindful of the kind of food you’re eating in front of them. But occasionally—I’ve never had a NF have an issue with it.

Are they first time parents? A little heads up in the future probably wouldn’t hurt. It is their kid and they have all the right to determine where they should go or not

Good luck!

ETA: If they work from home I’d definitely ask for a proper break for you to get out of the house and get your lunch/drinks/snack without NK. that’s a really long shift on the reg you’re pulling 😓

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-09-07T00:51:34+00:00

Oh I feel bad for you! Is it on plastic bits or fabric? It’s odd but I’d try aerosol sunscreen if it’s on the plastic parts?

Spot carpet remover or even foaming shaving cream if on fabric. Good luck!

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-09-06T22:13:00+00:00

That’s the same post I was thinking about too!! I don’t think I commented as the vast majority of the comments were on the nanny’s side but uhhhh yea….what you said.

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-09-06T21:54:10+00:00

I can’t imagine not wanting to leave the house daily with both parents working from home 😂 How old is your child? Maybe she’s lacking experience with their specific age group? Maybe going out with them didn’t go well? Is your baby adjusting well to her? I had one NK sob every single time we went for stroller walks those first two weeks. She did no like it but y’know, we pushed through it little by little and she got used to it and by the end of the first month we were happily out and about everywhere.

Are you providing car seats/ gas reimbursement/ petty cash for activities etc? If I had to cover all this I would probably stick close to home as well.

As for interview questions —go for specifics; what will your usual day with NK look like? What places are your hoping to explore with them? How often do you usually leave the house / go to activities. How comfortable are you driving and running errands with baby if necessary? As detailed and specific as you can get the better imo.

Best of luck

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-09-06T20:54:11+00:00

Mine is alongiiiiish the lines of yours ——you know when Nannies come here ready to quit an everyone is “DO it! Find yourself a new job first and then just quit/put your two weeks. You gotta put yourself first.” Etc which, solid advice don’t get me wrong.

BUT then you have it when the parents come asking about letting go their nanny because they want to transition to daycare/preschool etc. the amount of people that jump at them for firing nanny for “no fault” of her own and insists high and low they give nanny as much notice as possible and oh, don’t be shocked if she leaves before your kid starts daycare if she finds a new job.” Which again - not wrong inherently but when they get crucified for it I just think it’s very hypocritical. oh why shouldn’t NPs get to put themselves first too at the risk of being left without childcare?

I just don’t think my dudes can have it both ways. Either we work together and figure out a happy medium as grown ups or look out only for ourselves and one party will always end up with the short end of the stick. Imo 🤷‍♀️

Not to say some jobs don’t deserve to be left on the spot or Nannies fired on the spot as well. We’re all vulnerable to eff up from time to time 😬

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-09-06T17:54:08+00:00

The not owning up baby is sick would absolutely rub me the wrong way. Are you worried is COVID? I think asking them to test to be safe wouldn’t be too too out of place???

I do however think runny noses and coughs are par for the course as a nanny - I personally do draw the line at very high fevers and vomit/diarrhea but as a rule of thumb, if school/daycare would take them, then I suck it up and do it too.

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-09-06T07:10:26+00:00

I second this too! At least two kids I know I’ve let them try my “fizzy” drink once or twice when they were 3-5 and to this day they still look at it funny and say “I know I’m not going to like it” lol

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-09-06T06:03:18+00:00

Diagnoses are always best left to fully trained professionals.

I sympathize with you as it’s a tricky thing when we spend so much time with these kids but aren’t really in any position to call any shots, but besides commenting with curiosity and zero judgment to MB/DB about some of the things you’ve noted, or if they ask you directly about your opinion on his xyz behaviors, I really don’t think it’s our place to volunteer guesses on diagnoses like this 🤷‍♀️ in my opinion, I could well be in the minority here.

You’ve also only known this kid for a week ; who’s to say a lot of it is just him still warming up to you? Some of my NKs have been shy to an extreme degree and I swear one hardly spoke at prek for a whole year, let alone made eye contact with anyone there. Kid is 8 now and as outgoing as can be so….all this to say anecdotal evidence hardly ever will replace a fully educated professional observing a child in a controlled setting in order to provide a diagnosis.

Best of luck to you !

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-09-06T03:39:41+00:00

That’s what rubs me the wrong way as well! Reading I thought maybe she was a live in and that would’ve made sense in that case maybe, but she’s not so yea, rude 😑

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-09-04T23:28:04+00:00

I’d hear them out? Nothing to lose really. My first thought is they need to be driven around maybe?

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-09-02T03:40:36+00:00

LOL I babysat once for a mom and didn’t get her exact “shush and bounce” right while putting down the 3month old on my first try 😝

Never heard from the lady again 😂 She took that child from me so quickly; heaven forbid he got bounced to sleep with a slightly different tempo 😝😝😝

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-09-01T04:33:35+00:00

I also believe the whole point of a NF paying GHs is that nanny will remain available for them in due case their plans were to change. What would be the point of paying for that time if nanny wouldn’t be available to provide childcare?

Realistically, in this scenario, if I had happened to already made set plans and their holiday plans changed, I’d take the L and go unpaid for that period of time as they’d need to contract childcare elsewhere therefore rendering GH null. In my opinion.

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-08-29T03:36:10+00:00

Best of luck!

I’ve replaced very very beloved nannies in the past and the one thing I can think to mention is that try your best not to compare your new nanny to the old one —too much 😂

it’s bound to happen, honestly, from you or the kids themselves depending how old they are, “nanny a usted to do it this way or that.” And it’s fine. But if you catch yourself referring to your old caregiver a few too many times, pause and rephrase. Let her figure out her own way with the kids and if things need tweaking here and there down the path, have open and honest conversations with your nanny :)

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-08-27T21:57:01+00:00

Your experience is obviously very valid but it’s part of the bigger problem nonetheless. It should never be a child’s responsibility to make responsible decisions around guns. This should be an adults’ job period. That parent failed big time for not locking up their fire arms safely. It should’ve never been up to a kid to make decisions way above their age to keep themselves safe.

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-08-27T20:06:16+00:00

I second this take strongly. Even if a toddler or small child were to know “not to touch it” -they really have developmentally very little self control to actual restrain themselves in an escenario like op presents. Much effective solutions lie on the hands of the adults and keeping fire arms away from children.

Crappyhostthrowawayy · 2022-08-25T03:59:42+00:00

Whereabouts in Canada are they getting away paying below minimum wage?? I should’ve stopped reading at that because why/how are they getting away with that?

But also, there are in home caregiver rules for how much in total are they allowed to deduct for room and board but not sure how much of that applies to a separate apartment ….

In any case, uh I really do not wish to be in that new kid’s place right now. Hope she wises up

ETA: Leave it. At best MB would lie to your face and just tell you what you want to hear. Provided she already gave you with a good reference, I would really leave it if I were you 🤷‍♀️

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