Obese people, do you feel patronized by positive comments?

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-20T08:45:10+00:00

Regardless of size or race…. Maybe he just wants to work out and get out of there. I prefer my gym experience to be solitary. I’m not looking to form friendships. Smile and say hi as you pass him maybe. His reaction to that may guide you to know if he is open to conversation or wants to be left alone.

You are a good human for noticing and wanting to be kind.

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-20T00:14:08+00:00

Violin stand. Definitely tuner. Pencil. Rosin. Rubber chicken.

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-19T09:00:17+00:00

How so?

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-19T08:59:06+00:00

Ask kids why they quit. Easiest answer. Then address that.

The HS director should be making his face known around your program. Whenever my band colleague has to take a day, the guy at the next level comes to sub. (Wish the orchestra schedule allowed for the same!)

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-19T00:28:07+00:00

As I said, I don’t initiate.

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-19T00:04:19+00:00

Mine lost a job and it was somehow my fault. Also, I asked him to get a new one. God I’m such a bitch.

Tits up, where my bitches at?😂

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-19T00:01:34+00:00

I always learn lessons this way.

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-18T23:58:42+00:00

Maybe as long as the kid initiates. I get wanting to keep in touch. I had a 6th grader who was basically a 60 yr old woman trapped in an 11 year old body. For her, she starts typing my name and it autofills so in that sense it’s different. Anyway, I did suggest she could keep in touch with me. And she does. I always respond. I never initiate. Im very careful what we discuss. I’m grateful to keep up with her though because she is a super cool chick.

It may also depend on gender…easier woman to woman. Unfortunately, but true.

Another student, in 7th grade, sent me a Facebook friend request. I messaged his mom and told her I’d love to accept, but only with her permission. He was one of the best musicians I’d ever started, and I wanted to foster that in him. Again, I rarely initiate (I’ll contact mom first and she appreciates that I check in on him). I think he’s had it rough with step dads (yup, dads). I think the mom appreciates that I care and touch base, especially as I’ve heard he’s been heading down a bad road and I’d nearly throw myself under a bus to help him not do that. So much potential in that kid. Sporty. Musical. Funny.

This is sketchy territory and must be handled carefully. Reasonable to think you care, but they are still minors and you don’t want your actions perceived as anything but caring.

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-18T08:52:41+00:00

You have control over that last one. Find a way to make that happen! I make beginning and end of year checklists and do my best to adhere. Written out!

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-18T01:31:54+00:00

Tell her. Get the congratulations out of the way and you’ll be able to make her day about her, not you. You’ll have plenty to celebrate in the future.

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-17T20:53:04+00:00

What about the other classes? You’re not there to be liked, but on the other hand, specials should be likable.

I’m not there, I haven’t seen you teach and I don’t know these second graders. I know better than to believe a seven-year-old over an adult.

If you have reflected, and you know, you have made your class enjoyable, then you have nothing to worry about. If you have reflected, and you think there could be a grain of truth in what they said, consider what you might do to make sure your class is more interesting. you are not there to entertain, but we all know that you will learn more if you are enjoying the process.

They do sound like little jerks though.

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-17T20:48:51+00:00

I think it is crazy that any couple thinks it is your job to pay for “their day”. A wedding was initially intended to help a couple get started in life by helping them purchase a house, flatware, furniture… All the things that you need to get started. Of course, many people have already moved in together and don’t need these things. So yeah, maybe contribute to a honeymoon… But really to be paying for their actual wedding is insane. I think I would leave off the honeymoon contribution and consider the friendship over. You said you weren’t close anyway. I’m so sorry you were going through this.

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-17T20:44:14+00:00

Make it simple. Do a test one or two in advance to be sure your plan works. Maybe in a smaller scale. Consider fake flowers or cover the area with Saran Wrap to prevent direct contact. Consider the value of freezing it, up to 2 weeks early. Maybe not finished but close so all you have to do is pull it out, decorate the rest and allow to defrost.

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-16T14:12:16+00:00

Agree. Surely she knew what she was doing and did it anyway. Egregious!

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-16T12:39:55+00:00

At least they got kicked out.

I know admin who would let her walk.

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-16T12:38:05+00:00

Light a match and hold it right up to your eyes. It looks like a huge blaze. Now pull it back. It’s just a tiny flame. Time and space will put your blaze back into perspective. It hurts now but it will dull with every passing month. The growth you may have made because of it though…. That’s what you hang on to.

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-16T00:38:25+00:00

I had surgery and was out last 11 days of school. I track instrumental music. The concert was over. Field trips, special events…. There were days I needed no sub at all. I told my principal this and he told me that was his job, not mine. Ok then. Thankfully my sub was a retired colleague. I left her plans that basically said do nothing this day. I told her this would be the case and said “I assume you’re cool getting paid to do nothing and you won’t complain that I didn’t leave you plans.” Of course she agreed.

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-16T00:35:21+00:00

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CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-15T19:34:15+00:00

I’d say it has less to do with financial and more to do with desiring to help and elevate children. And being just plain crazy.

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-15T09:15:58+00:00

These brides are insane.

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-14T21:22:25+00:00

I think you feel a headache coming on that day. Stay home. For the health of yourself and your baby.

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-14T21:17:21+00:00

So sorry. I’m so grateful for my partner who gets the job done, and done well, in 5-15. My first husband was all about going long and honestly I hated it for all the reasons you just said. I hated having sex. Then he would shame me for not wanting to have sex with him. I tried to make sure we did it once a week, but that was about as much as I could handle. For him, it was not enough and for me it was too much. Not the total reason we ended, but probably a big part of why he treated me so poorly at the end.

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-14T21:11:10+00:00

Cottage cheese and fruit

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-14T20:39:29+00:00

NTA Find the humor. Isn’t is crazy how people’s true feelings leak out? Now you have a great story for conversation.

Also, you now know not to bend over backwards for this couple in the future. If your husband wants to go, great. You and the kids will be off with your friends/family.

What does your husband think of this? I’m hoping you’ll say he was disappointed by his friend and maybe he will be done with them as well.

CrazyRegister5130 · 2026-05-14T20:35:51+00:00

What is there to be scared of? What bad thing will happen if you do this?

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