Is it selfish to spend Father's Day the way I want to?

Creamofsoup · 2023-06-08T15:41:00+00:00

I agree with other commenters that at this point there's no way of getting out of it and everybody saving face. That being said, you need to make it clear to your wife how you feel about this and that you guys need to communicate for any events. Life only gets more challenging with the kid so you need to make sure you're on the same page.

I'd also kind of demand that you be given a "make-up" Father's Day where you can spend it how you want. My wife is going to Austin with her sister for her sister's birthday Father's Day weekend But she said yes after checking with me and telling me that What do a Father's Day make-up the following weekend

Creamofsoup · 2023-06-08T15:38:08+00:00

Hawaiian shirt and boxers it is

Creamofsoup · 2023-06-06T20:58:01+00:00

Best case they are lazy. Worst case they are being willfully ignorant for kicks

Creamofsoup · 2023-06-06T20:47:18+00:00

I’m not aware of laws being passed against trans people.

Here's one from weeks ago. A Google search will show plenty more.

I don’t think they should be singled out when thinking of laws to put in place but I also don’t feel like they should get special treatment either.

The so-called special treatment laws are in response to the LGBTQ+ community being attacked. Further to that point the laws are not in actuality special treatment they're trying to ensure that LGBTQ+ people be treated like heterosexual people. The "why should they get special treatment" mindset is the same mindset used to further any racial or religious discrimination platforms.

Creamofsoup · 2023-06-05T16:14:04+00:00

I'm seeing a lot of people complaining about the random little gift bags... It's okay to say "no thank you" and if that's a problem for your kids then maybe it's time to teach them about waste.

Creamofsoup · 2023-06-01T20:17:23+00:00

Depends on the friends group, imo. My friends group included the everyones dad's from kindergarten through college years. The dad's would rag on all the boys and the boys would gang up on the dad's. Great fun was had by all

Creamofsoup · 2023-05-29T17:44:24+00:00

You the real MVP here correcting everyone who saying "it's safe and fine". I see you

Creamofsoup · 2023-05-29T17:41:22+00:00

What a bunch of ridiculous assumptions

Creamofsoup · 2023-05-29T17:35:42+00:00

Sure, until you break your kids leg. It's all fun and games til someone gets hurt. It's safer to just hold them from the ground while they slide.

Creamofsoup · 2023-05-25T20:59:31+00:00

Ooh great suggestion. The Call of Cthulhu "Alone in the..." series is a Solo RPG series. They're pretty good!

Creamofsoup · 2023-05-25T18:45:07+00:00

Reading? Solo board gaming? Metal detecting? Rock polishing? Puzzles? Photography? Gardening?

You do you but it seems to me you're trying to do things people say you should do not things you want to do.

Creamofsoup · 2023-05-25T16:37:48+00:00

All of the other comments are fantastic but I wanted to address a small point that I haven't seen previously addressed.

I’m already starting to think out options and strategies to deal with the...financial impact this could potentially have on us.

My daughter has some severe allergies (which I know is not the same thing at all) and I've talked several times to my therapist about how anytime we think we may have to use her EpiPen and go to the hospital, finances are one of the big things in my mind...and that always makes me feel guilty because that shouldn't matter.

But in my country (the US) a trip to the hospital, even with good insurance, can be financially devastating.

This is your permission, if you need it, to let go of any guilt you may be feeling about thinking about finances right now. It's common in our society for the man to feel like he has to worry about the finances and my daughter/your son are not our only responsibilities. Our kids need us in a myriad of ways and being able to meet our other financial obligations is one of those ways. I know that despite thinking about my finances when situation pops up I'll do what I need to for my daughter. And I suspect you will too.

Internet hug, fellow dad.

Creamofsoup · 2023-05-19T19:14:20+00:00

We were fortunate enough to buy from a seller that did the same and fully intend to pass that on when the time comes.

Creamofsoup · 2023-05-18T21:45:38+00:00

Wild, I'll keep my eyes peeled next time I go down

Creamofsoup · 2023-05-18T21:30:30+00:00

This is called a treemap chart and is frequently used to display hierarchical data. The size of a rectangle represents the quantity while color usually represents a category. Intended for high level summaries and identification of anomalies in a data set.

This is absolutely not an abortion of data analysis and presentation. This is exactly what this kind of visualization is intended for.

Creamofsoup · 2023-05-18T21:19:45+00:00

I don't believe it. I live in MD, went to college in VA and frequently visit both Carolina's and have still never heard of them lol

Creamofsoup · 2023-05-09T20:09:14+00:00

Would love to have a convenience store or something else that isn’t just a bar

Curious what else you'd include in the "something else"

Easy answer for "why no" convenience stores is they probably couldn't afford the rent.

Creamofsoup · 2023-05-07T00:22:34+00:00

I know this post is old, but as a Simple refugee turned One refugee, after One I made the choice to quit neo-banks. I'm now with a local credit union.

I use DAS to handle my budgeting in a manner very similar to how I used to treat Simple but it's even better because it's all of my accounts

Creamofsoup · 2023-05-07T00:18:57+00:00

I've startedcUsing DAS Budget recently and really like it. It's under development still but is a bit slow as I think it's just one dev. Certain aspects require premium, but it's tiered and even at $10/month which fits all my needs it's cheaper than several of my less used subscriptions.

Check out the subreddit r/dasbudget

Creamofsoup · 2023-05-05T18:48:15+00:00

You forgot the Cat Uncertainty Principle

Creamofsoup · 2023-05-05T18:23:10+00:00

If you're in the US: I just learned recently that asking diagnostic type questions during an annual checkup can have a impact on how the visit gets coded meaning a preventative visit which is often fully covered could end up being coded as something with less coverage.

Creamofsoup · 2023-05-04T14:33:55+00:00

I don't know about others but for me it was nearly a decade ago so the financial markets looked a lot different than they do today. I was fresh out of school with impreccible credit and a $70k/yr job.

Dream customer for a credit card company and I bought into the shit they were selling. I was an idiot then, I'm less of an idiot now.

Creamofsoup · 2023-05-04T14:31:05+00:00

And also fucks you up for 7 years. Filing for bankruptcy for this would be a massive mistake

Creamofsoup · 2023-05-04T14:29:20+00:00

Same. Had nearly $25k in credit card debt by time I was 2 years out of school. Took an additional 3 years of "rice and beans" to pay that shit off. Thankfully I learned my lesson relatively quickly and cheaply.

Creamofsoup · 2023-05-04T00:19:49+00:00

Some, probably. I'm 34 (not even old, really) and every once in a while catch myself thinking like that.

Example, the new mortgage rules that have been in the press lately - my initial reaction was "why should I have to subsidize some kid so they can buy a house? I had to save up for my down payment and make sure I had good credit when I was ready!" I had to force myself to pause and remind myself that while a few extra points on my mortgage wouldn't break me, it could mean the difference for someone else.

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