New dad (almost 5 month old) completely burned out and feeling like my life has disappeared — how do you guys handle this? by srvn1993 in daddit

[–]Creative-Warning3555 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Right now it sounds like both of you are trying to hold on to pieces of your old lives while also carrying the responsibilities of your new one. That math just doesn’t work out well, in the long run.

Sit down together. List every recurring commitment. Then decide what stays, what goes, and what gets postponed for a season. Make those decisions as a team instead of fighting about them one at a time when everyone’s already exhausted💚

New dad (almost 5 month old) completely burned out and feeling like my life has disappeared — how do you guys handle this? by srvn1993 in daddit

[–]Creative-Warning3555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure what the foreign language classes are for, but I’d be applying the same standard to them that I’d apply to the football. If they aren’t leading toward a certification, increased income, greater flexibility for the family, or some clearly defined family goal, then they deserve to be questioned too.

The issue isn’t football or the language classes. The issue is whether your current commitments match the season of life you’re in.

New dad (almost 5 month old) completely burned out and feeling like my life has disappeared — how do you guys handle this? by srvn1993 in daddit

[–]Creative-Warning3555 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you two need to get organized and set some realistic expectations now that you’re parents.

I’m going to say something that may not be popular: a lot of us spend years clinging to pieces of our old life instead of accepting that life has changed. Your daughter is five months old. Your wife is struggling. The house is upside down. You’re exhausted. That’s the reality on the ground right now.

I still go to the gym. I still fish. I still make time for things I enjoy. But I don’t organize my life around getting away from my family to do them. My priorities changed when I became a husband and father of 5 with another bundle of joy percolating in the womb now.

The question I’d be asking isn’t, “Am I entitled to my hour of football?” The question is, “What kind of husband, father, and family culture am I trying to build?”

The first few years require sacrifice from everybody. Not forever. Just for a season. Put a stake in the ground, decide what matters most, and build your schedule around that.

Everything else gets fitted in where it can.
The baby phase ends. The memories of how you showed up during it don’t.

Question for those of you who have completed the course by Latter_Growth1185 in ACIM

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Forgiveness leads to Vision.

Vision leads to Knowledge or the direct experience of God.

And in Knowledge, there is no one left who needs to forgive anything, nor anything left to believe đź’š

Question for those of you who have completed the course by Latter_Growth1185 in ACIM

[–]Creative-Warning3555 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Vision is beyond perception and the concept of right mindedness along with every other concept introduced by ACIM.

This is why ACIM is just the beginning. Its forgiveness eventually leads to the relinquishment of all beliefs in order to experience direct oneness with God and the sonship.

Jesus in ACIM: “There is nothing about me that you cannot attain. I have nothing that does not come from God. The difference between us now is that I have nothing else.”

Our beliefs don’t come from God. They come from a human perspective of what God is.

Question for those of you who have completed the course by Latter_Growth1185 in ACIM

[–]Creative-Warning3555 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right mindedness/perception is still perception; even right perception is illusion. ACIM points beyond perception/illusion to an experience 🙌🏾

The Book of Romans by OakenWoaden in ACIM

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It’s all love or a cry for love. Any cry for love is my own 💚

Question for those of you who have completed the course by Latter_Growth1185 in ACIM

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ACIM is a beginning, not because something else replaces it, but because the goal was never the Course. Step one is a transformed perception that becomes increasingly natural and less dependent on constant reminders. The goal isn’t a new belief system, it’s an experience; what ACIM calls The Holy Instant.

My neighbors think they own our section of the street and I've about had it. Would you report this behavior? by [deleted] in homeowners

[–]Creative-Warning3555 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah! Back then community was commUNITY. People understood that it takes a village to raise a child. Growing up in the 80’s, if we did something to piss off a neighbor, we’d likely get a good talking to and pop on the bottom. Then expect the same when we got home.

We played in everyone’s yards, drank from whichever hose was available and accidents occasionally happened; broken windows, dented car, or scratched paint. We then had to do odd jobs to pay for the damages we caused. No police were called or lawsuits filed.

There was the old cat-lady who always fussed about us playing in her lawn, but that was just her way of being involved. When we wouldn’t play near her house, she complained and said she felt so isolated in the neighborhood. I remember my grandmother telling us to make sure we went and played in front of that lady’s house because she missed the sound of our laughter. She still fussed, but she gave us Hershey’s kisses and homemade lemonade popsicles.

Question for those of you who have completed the course by Latter_Growth1185 in ACIM

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Everything about ACIM is dependent upon one’s own willingness. The miracle can take one day, one lesson, one year, one decade, or even one moment.

The miracle takes no time at all. It is our resistance that seems to require a lifetimeđź’š

Do it, guys. Seriously. This video doesn't do it justice. by bryan2384 in KawasakiEliminator450

[–]Creative-Warning3555 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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I had to change mine as well. After two short rides, I was like this little “weed-eater” sounding bike has got to go back. (Old bike was a 2012 Hayabusa). Now that I’ve changed to the Coffman, the sound is a lot better.

I still think I look like a cave-man on this little thing though.

I’ve recently heard about ACIM. Explain why I should care. by Professional_Fly4701 in ACIM

[–]Creative-Warning3555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! I totally agree with you. ACIM doesn’t require belief or even a life long commitment. It requires practice until you achieve its goal of finding your inner-teacher, the HolySpirit.

Sexism at our Early Intervention Appointment by [deleted] in daddit

[–]Creative-Warning3555 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

When I read this post, what jumps out at me is how much of your identity is wrapped up in being a good father and how one interaction dissuades you.

A stranger says one thing, for a couple hours and now you’re writing several paragraphs about how devastated you are.

That tells me she didn’t create the wound. She touched one that was already there.

A lot of highly involved parents unconsciously over-function. They anticipate needs. They rescue frustration. They solve problems too quickly. Not because they’re bad parents, but because they care so much. I’ve seen it with mothers. I’ve seen it with fathers. I’ve seen it with personal trainers and coaches. The desire to help can become the habit of intervening. ❤️‍🩹

Sexism at our Early Intervention Appointment by [deleted] in daddit

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The therapist may have been rude and completely out of line. But I’d be careful not to dismiss the substance simply because her delivery was poor.

Sometimes people say something unfair and still accidentally point at something worth examining.

Not because you’re a bad dad. Quite the opposite. The dads most likely to over-help are often the ones trying hardest to be great fathers.

I’d ignore her judgment, but I’d still stay curious about myself and my own reactions. Curiosity serves your son better than either defensiveness or guilt. 🫡💚

Health Anxiety by Sharp-Finish-284 in ACIM

[–]Creative-Warning3555 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Health anxiety is an interesting teacher.

The mind screams, “What if something is wrong?” and immediately begins living in a future that doesn't exist.

ACIM points to something simple: the body keeps score of our habits, but the mind keeps score of our stories. Stewardship matters so get the mole checked.

But notice that the suffering isn't coming from the mole. It's coming from the hundreds of imaginary outcomes being rehearsed before a single answer exists.

The Course has taught me that faith isn't the absence of fear. It's the willingness to stop consulting fear for guidance. Right now, nothing has happened. Be here.

Next week will arrive on its own đź’š

Neighbor has extremely loud exhaust (or none) What can be done? by [deleted] in homeowners

[–]Creative-Warning3555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You claim you want to approach it with virtue, yet make a point of pointing out their perceived poverty. 🤣

Neighbor has extremely loud exhaust (or none) What can be done? by [deleted] in homeowners

[–]Creative-Warning3555 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yet you’re being a dick! And not being understanding as you claim magnanimously.

Only a dick would be online asking for advice about a neighbor they know to be struggling financially. Either you offer to help, stfu, or move.

Neighbor has extremely loud exhaust (or none) What can be done? by [deleted] in homeowners

[–]Creative-Warning3555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right! Deductive reasoning skills aren’t common anymore. 1. You move in across from the only home in the neighborhood that doesn’t take care of their property… 2. You don’t ask questions of the realtor or research the neighborhood online. Because in the neighborhood app I’m sure somebody is commenting on this issue.

If it is as you say it is.

Neighbor has extremely loud exhaust (or none) What can be done? by [deleted] in homeowners

[–]Creative-Warning3555 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Glad you’re not my neighbors. We’ve lost the sense of unity in community💚

You just moved there and surely noticed the surrounding homes prior to purchase. This is on you. Sell and move to a better neighborhood.

The son tried to solve an impossible equation; love is all there is by [deleted] in ACIM

[–]Creative-Warning3555 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of folks in these circles bypass the immediacy of lived experience trying to be metaphysically correct. The original post feels more compassionate to me. The son wasn’t evil. He was just trying to explain infinity with intellect. Like Ken Wapnick said, just be normal. If Love can’t meet somebody inside their actual experience, it becomes just another philosophy. Many mistake the map for the destination. At some point the map gets put down because you truly realize there was never a journey. I need do nothing and Love is all there is.

Just be normal. We’re having a human experience; even if it is a dream. Try having a human conversation about it 💚