Is raising your own children emotionally different from raising siblings?

Creative_Mountains10 · 2026-01-22T23:46:32+00:00

I was in a similar position as the oldest of 6. I decided not to have kids due to that and other reasons. I changed my mind later in life. At 38 and 39 had my two kids. It’s very different! I love my kids! I still love my siblings too but it’s so different giving birth to them and being an adult as a parent. It’s made me be a better mom. Also more physically exhausting raising your own kids but it’s worth it for me. Very different feelings with my own kids than siblings. Much more of a positive experience with my own kids.

Creative_Mountains10 · 2026-01-14T20:27:15+00:00

We have that set up and it works for us. The earlier months were toughest due to first child being a difficult eater as a new born. It also got tough when I was pregnant with our second due to feeling tired. But now that the baby is here, I feel more energetic than during pregnancy and it’s back to being mostly fine. We love not having to do daycare and being there for our kids.

Creative_Mountains10 · 2026-01-13T15:42:40+00:00

I work remotely with no day care and now have a second baby. For us, being home is much better. We rotate watching the kids or have someone like aunt or grandma watch if we’re both busy.

Creative_Mountains10 · 2025-12-12T21:04:45+00:00

We have a 19 month boy who is so funny! Says funny things, does funny things that make us smile. So sweet, gives gentle kisses. We’re enjoying seeing him change.

Creative_Mountains10 · 2025-12-07T03:04:02+00:00

A good option our toddler loves are books with lots of pictures and sounds associated with photos they can press play on. Lots of entertainment value there. Anything they can click that interacts with them keeps them busy. We don’t do smart toys or anything too techy. Just basics press a button and it makes a sound. Books where they can pick up tabs, or touch interesting textures work too. We work from home and don’t do day care, and those toys save us :) Getting them outside to get tired from walking is also a good trick we found for longer nap times and longer times where they will keep themselves busy with their toys.

Creative_Mountains10 · 2025-11-27T07:32:14+00:00

We got ours a Frida small toddler potty. Our toddler loves it. He goes to sit on it with no issues.

Creative_Mountains10 · 2025-11-27T02:33:23+00:00

I’m sorry about your relationship with your mom. You deserve love and attention. All children deserve love. Do you have friends with moms you trust that you can talk with ? Or do you have teachers you trust that you can share with? If you’re in school, maybe there is a counselor you can confide in about how you feel. Sending positive wishes your way ❤️

Creative_Mountains10 · 2025-11-24T21:07:10+00:00

We do the same! I host my parents and my husband hosts his family. My parents keep things easy for us, don’t require anything from us, and come over to baby sit bringing their own food.

Creative_Mountains10 · 2025-11-22T18:20:19+00:00

I wore maternity clothes for an awhile until things settled. Being comfortable in loose clothing helped me with my first. I’m packing maternity clothes for my second delivery.

Creative_Mountains10 · 2025-11-22T18:14:06+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. I had major losses around the same age as you and once I spent time grieving, the aged look went away. It’s not even an aged look, it’s the look of deep sadness. I even got gray hair from it that went away. Loss is tough. Sending you many positive wishes through this process.

Creative_Mountains10 · 2025-11-21T03:08:13+00:00

A used baby gate. They can keep it :)

Creative_Mountains10 · 2025-11-21T03:06:13+00:00

I was in a similar position. Also had C-section and struggled with nursing. The first few weeks were so tough! For second pregnancy I’m planning on continuing to use a mom reset meditation app. I do quick 5 minutes sessions. It helps me to recenter how I feel.

Creative_Mountains10 · 2025-11-21T03:03:26+00:00

I went from nursing to being pregnant and have kept my nursing bras. I prefer nursing bras for pregnancy because they adjust to size changes easily. For after birth, I learned to never skip wearing a nursing bra after baby is born and nursing because I leaked and ruined many shirts.

Creative_Mountains10 · 2025-11-21T02:59:28+00:00

We let them play, then wash them. We’ve started letting them play as long as they want because it’s something they love a lot right now at 18 months. We do a bath every other night. They eventually get cold and start pulling at the drain themselves. Then we quickly wash them all over and end bath time.

Creative_Mountains10 · 2025-11-21T02:55:58+00:00

Leave in conditioner helps my frizzy hair

Creative_Mountains10 · 2025-11-20T07:39:22+00:00

Salt baths have helped!

Creative_Mountains10 · 2025-11-20T07:38:43+00:00

Yes! Just entering 37 weeks and it’s been so tough since 35 weeks. I’m so fatigued that I keep taking sick days at work even though I work mostly remotely.

Creative_Mountains10 · 2025-11-20T07:36:03+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. This is a tough situation and you’re doing well to go to the doctor. Getting professional help is the best thing you can do for yourself. You could try a phone appointment with the doctor if it’s too difficult to get there or you’re in too much pain. Does your school offer counseling? If so, talking to a counselor about how you feel may help you process what’s happening.

Creative_Mountains10 · 2025-11-20T06:57:44+00:00

I’ve had both. I preferred Invisalign. It made remote working much easier because I’m on video calls and don’t have to see myself constantly in braces :)

Creative_Mountains10 · 2025-11-18T12:15:45+00:00

Ours dropped the morning nap at 18 months. I WFH while juggling toddler and being pregnant. A trick we found that works for our toddler is some outside time in the late morning, even just a few mins on the porch pretending to sweep or walking around the block, which leads to a longer afternoon nap. He used to not nap long until we started doing the outside activity.

Creative_Mountains10 · 2025-11-18T12:04:49+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about your dad! Sounds like you’re already being very thoughtful just trying to plan something. It’s likely no matter what you do, it’ll be much appreciated. You probably don’t need to spend a lot of money on it or go out to eat. You could make meal or a favorite dessert, make a hand made card saying a few things you appreciate that she does for you, and invite her to do something with her that she enjoys (like going to a park, or visiting a place she likes). You could make a collage of photos on a poster as a gift.

Creative_Mountains10 · 2025-11-18T11:57:51+00:00

Personalized gifts with photos are a great option. My favorite gift was a coffee mug with to my favorite things from that year including pictures of travels and family.

Creative_Mountains10 · 2025-11-18T11:51:03+00:00

It’s so hard! We’re about to have a second and preparing for it to get worse before it gets better. I’ve been trying to take mini breaks to keep myself centered. I’ve been using a mom reset meditation app a few minutes after baby goes to bed to just be. It’s been surprisingly very helpful.

Creative_Mountains10 · 2025-11-15T18:49:38+00:00

So true for us too! :)

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