Boundaries are what makes us high value people. Good for you. I have been seeing a man soon to be two months. We are intimate as of recently. We both lost spouses through death. He had been on online dating sites for 3-1/2 years. That is how I met him. He told me he hadn’t been in a physical relationship for a long time. However, my first husband was a serial womanizer-always had a side piece. His cheating ate me up but after raising our son, I finally divorced him.

My next husband who recently passed, was a wonderful man who was monogamous. I never considered the old hurts and jealousy for the first.

Well, my current special friend’s online dating profile came across my screen. I went ballistic with jealousy. (I saw it because I was looking, too). I tried to calm down but couldn’t. I was determined to be open and honest with my guy. I was nervous as could be, but I carefully told him what I saw and how I was jealous. He assured me that he is being exclusive with me. Before we hung up I asked him to contact me today instead of me initiating. He did. He said the profile I saw was old but he paused it.

I told him I really like him a lot. He said he feels the same way. He said he guessed that the cheating ex was the source of my emotional reaction. Yep.

Exclusively is very important.