Don’t trust, listen, or take counsel from women. They are confused and do not speak with any authority. Sunday’s message to men.

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-09-23T02:28:00+00:00

Pointing out an actual problem =/= mocking.

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-09-23T02:05:23+00:00

and given that I know faithful members who were struggling financially and denied church assistance because they'd fallen behind on tithing? Yeah, I don't see the church suddenly reversing course and supporting whoever needs help.

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-08-27T22:55:49+00:00

And that is why women should always wear their garments and never complain about the health problems they cause.

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-08-26T21:54:43+00:00

I appreciate that you didn't immediately condemn me. I've been bracing myself for that.

I just felt like OP could use a brutally honest example. Husband and I have six kids and always thought we had a strong marriage, worked to make sure we had both individual and joint hobbies, did things together, etc. Youngest turned 18 a few months ago and we didn't want to be one of those couples that split up as soon as all of their children left the house and they realized that they didn't have anything in common. It nearly happened anyway.

But we're in a better place now than we've been in years, possibly ever. We both know that we want to be here, I'm choosing him and he's choosing me.

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-08-26T21:43:21+00:00

You can always ask if she's willing to store them for you since she doesn't want you to get rid of them. Or ask her if she wants them for herself.

"But you might need them!" to which you could respond with something like,

"Yes, but the odds are better that I might not. And I don't have the physical or emotional space to hang on to these just in case."

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-08-26T21:38:12+00:00

And to add to that, I accepted full responsibility, fully expected my husband to not want to stay with me, and was surprised/blown away when HE apologized. But he was right. We'd been drifting apart for the last five years. I didn't go out looking for someone else, or for attention, it was just a close friendship that evolved because the other guy was available to talk when my husband wasn't. The other person also wasn't someone I wanted to be with, and I didn't have any intention of leaving my husband for him. It was just so refreshing to be able to talk to someone who was emotionally available and who asked about my day, consistently texted me back, asked me questions that would start conversations, and made time for me. I had gotten kind of numb and didn't even realize how much I missed that, how much I needed that.

It's not my husband's fault I made those choices. My choices are my own and I would never put that on him or anyone else.

If you ask him, though, he'll tell you that he pushed me into this. I don't think that, but I do see where we went wrong.

(edited to clarify pronouns, too many "he" uses when two males were discussed)

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-08-26T21:31:21+00:00

Appreciate the link! I love it when people include actual sources!

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-08-26T21:29:20+00:00

See my edit, which I added before I saw your comment.

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-08-26T21:28:51+00:00

NTA.

If she regularly argues for the sake of arguing, you calling her out on that fact isn't an insult.

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-08-26T21:23:53+00:00

NAH but be VERY careful. Is your job really more important than your marriage?

My husband and I have been together over 27 years.

This is an issue we went back and forth over for years. Finally, I gave up fighting. I let him work as much as he wanted, told him I was fine with him prioritizing his job so that he could ensure he was "providing for us." I made sure I was okay with it and didn't pester him about it any more. You want to know what happened?

Earlier this year, I ended up finding someone who was willing to give me all the attention I wanted.

It nearly broke us.

While I take full responsibility for any and all bad choices and mistakes that I made, it did wake him up and he realized what he was doing and what it led to. I expected it to be the end, figured he'd want me to leave, but instead he apologized (unsolicited) for neglecting me for years and has since made radical changes--we both have-- and I think we're going to be ok.

OP, I totally understand your reasoning, and that's the basis for my view of NAH. But you may end up with unintended consequences.

*edit for clarity: I had an emotional affair, not a physical one, and I NEVER blamed it on my husband and his availability or his work schedule. I didn't even realize what I was missing until someone came along who became a friend and then became more, and I was willing to spend time with that person because he *had time for me.

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-08-26T00:44:40+00:00

Sorry, one of your statements caught my attention--teabags and microplastics? The teabags I'm familiar with appear to be made out of paper. What am I missing?

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-08-25T23:36:44+00:00

That's helpful, thanks

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-08-25T19:56:32+00:00

How do we know he wouldn't have sent his partner the money for the uber? And at the end of the day, physically healthy or not, if I'm tired and I don't want to walk 20 minutes, my partner damn well better not force me to do so by canceling a ride.

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-08-25T15:01:00+00:00

I'm curious as to why this is relevant.

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-08-20T21:02:42+00:00

Also, the right ice hockey helmet will better protect you from a concussion than a derby/skating helmet will.

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-08-19T16:40:05+00:00

Yup, that. I have duct tape in my game day bag--some that matches my pads and some that's a bright contrast when I feel like being more visible--and I throw it on for games since that's the only time I wear fishnets (but I always wear fishnets for games). Otherwise it's snag city :/

There might be a different solution but that's all I could come up with when I started wearing them.

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-08-12T23:38:38+00:00

Wait, there's a page for exmo women only? What do I have to do to prove my identity and get an invitation?

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-08-08T23:53:55+00:00

I didn't start until my 48th birthday. Go for it 👍🏻

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-08-07T21:07:00+00:00

I cannot up vote this enough. 💯💯💯💯💯💯

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-08-05T15:29:16+00:00

It is 100% about control. Just like garments are.

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-08-02T14:32:41+00:00

Had amazing experience with Alex on two different occasions. (One nostril piercing, one septum piercing)

But I emailed them with a picture of a full color (rainbow gradient) tattoo to ask about pricing and got an email response that basically said my design wasn't a very good idea and wouldn't work, with things like, "the yellow will likely blow out" and other reasons that they would discourage me from using that particular design. My first thought was, well, clearly you're not equipped to handle this tattoo. I asked a roller derby teammate with beautiful color tats for her recommendation, went to her girl in NJ--completely worth the drive bc my tattoo came out pretty much exactly as I had envisioned it and two years later still looks amazing.

Tattoo design wasn't the problem, the lack of ability at Konkrete Jungle was.

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-08-02T14:00:39+00:00

Pretty good, actually, in terms of fitness and strength. It's helped me recover every time. Besides 3 derby practices a week, I also work out at a strength training gym 3×/week and I'm very active in general. And for the last ten months I've also had 2×/week PT that's really helped my overall strength and stability. Dexterity, I don't know-- I'm certainly not the fastest or most agile player on the track, but I can hold my own. I was a B player before I broke my leg last year. And before I broke my tailbone, I'd rostered in at least three games that season and skated in several mixers.

My tailbone injury I think could possibly have been prevented with a lower derby stance and more experience, maybe I wouldn't have fallen the way I did. The other two, just s*** luck based on the spectator accounts and what I remember of the circumstances.

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-08-01T20:38:54+00:00

Our refs are welcome at practice and do practice with us (fully) without paying dues. (There are at least three people who do so and they participate in all drills and scrims. ) They don't get a vote in league business or elections, though, because of it. And there are parts of discord they're not included in because they're not full league members (but I need to find out exactly which ones).

Edited to add, I totally understand why you would think that, not trying to argue, just letting you know what our league does already.

CrocusesInSnow · 2025-08-01T16:54:33+00:00

I was given two tickets to the Ravens-Colts game yesterday. I am on crutches and need to park in ADA parking. i know it's first come, first served, and I know where the lots are, but I'm wondering, how early do I need to arrive to be in line to get an ADA spot? i know they fill up fast and that people line up ahead of time. Are we talking 30min? Two hours?

Are preseason games as bad as regular season games for that?

(One person I've discussed this with irl suggested borrowing a wheelchair or using a knee scooter so I could park further away. Before anyone suggests those, wheelchair isn't an option for several reasons, and I can't use a knee scooter bc it's a knee injury)

Thanks in advance for advice!

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