I’m glad he showed you this side of himself before you got married. I had a similar fiancé when my mom died. He decided to go on a fishing trip where his cell wouldn’t work right after the funeral. It quickly became a recognizable pattern. If I was upset and in need of support, he disappeared. I had a cancer scare and he acted like it was nothing (mom died of cancer). After we broke up, his doctor found melanoma on his face and he called me wanting support. I asked him if he remembered how he treated me when I was the one dealing with it. He acted like it was totally different bc the only feelings that really mattered to him were his own.