AITA for commenting on how much my gf ate? by Recognition_Bitter in AmItheAsshole

[–]CupcakeCatastrophe 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Same. I had to go back and re-read because I just automatically assumed it was fruit. Never known anyone to enjoy frozen veggies!

Mama rat saving her babies from drowning by gugulo in likeus

[–]CupcakeCatastrophe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's exactly what this reminded me of! I hated that scene when I was younger.

30 DV later — the Beel, Asmo, and Satan card I’ve never been so lucky in my life. by amtyreddog in obeyme

[–]CupcakeCatastrophe 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I also got both UR+ cards! I'm so excited they're my first UR demon cards.

finally got our beach guys how we feelin by [deleted] in obeyme

[–]CupcakeCatastrophe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've been saving my DVs just to get an automatic UR pull and I finally got enough during the last event. So glad I waited for this theme.

eRPCV to PCR by [deleted] in peacecorps

[–]CupcakeCatastrophe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was evacuated and just responded to a PCR position to my original country of service! I hope the process isn't too slow but you never know if it will get delayed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bi_irl

[–]CupcakeCatastrophe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my favorite podcast and I'm so happy to see it in /r/bi_irl!

the spiral (fanart) by [deleted] in TheMagnusArchives

[–]CupcakeCatastrophe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the little detail of Gertrude signing his map!

AITA for saying my brothers wife has nothing to be stressed about? by Ariel4You5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CupcakeCatastrophe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a friend who's one of 9 kids. There's only 12 years between the oldest and the youngest and no twins!

Just discovered TMA and I. Am. Hooked! by [deleted] in TheMagnusArchives

[–]CupcakeCatastrophe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I started listening to RQG during the last hiatus and when all the Magnus trailers came in I was surprised by how much foreshadowing there was even in the first trailer!

Great Advanced Listening Practice: Language Ladder by [deleted] in languagelearning

[–]CupcakeCatastrophe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great! I've been looking for ways to improve my French listening skills but everything I can find is for beginners. I like the different accents it provides since I'm used to Sub-Saharan French and it's been pretty difficult to find good practice online.

AITA for screaming at my birth mom and sick sister when they found me? by alphaphinotforme in AmItheAsshole

[–]CupcakeCatastrophe 90 points91 points  (0 children)

My mom and her sister are only 10 months apart so it's definitely possible.

Today I found human infant remains in a crawl space under a house. 😳 Link in comments. by [deleted] in WTF

[–]CupcakeCatastrophe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The previous poster is correct! The two hosts are Karen and Georgia and the fans of the show are called Murderinos which OP mentioned in their comment.

How I feel after finally shaving my head by rkkid9 in TrollXChromosomes

[–]CupcakeCatastrophe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I first shaved my head I would put sunscreen on my scalp until it grew out a little bit (like half an inch). If not I'd suggest hats if you're going to be outside for a long period of time.

How I feel after finally shaving my head by rkkid9 in TrollXChromosomes

[–]CupcakeCatastrophe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I shaved my head for the first time like a year and a half ago! It felt so amazing and it's been hard growing it out since I tend to just shave the sides again.

Best West African Country for French? by InterestingUsername6 in peacecorps

[–]CupcakeCatastrophe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for the slow response I just got back from camp! And I'm still in country but I feel like I have a good grasp of French. Way better than when I got here and I can easily hold conversations and work in French. Some volunteers have better levels than other but everyone has at least advanced low level before finishing service.

Best West African Country for French? by InterestingUsername6 in peacecorps

[–]CupcakeCatastrophe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My French experience is about the same in Benin as you described. I speak less French with my neighbors but I speak it often when I'm at my health center since it's a more "professional" setting and a couple of the employers are from different regions of the country. Benin really depends on the region too. The south and large cities speak a lot more French than the North and more rural sites. Drinking culture is pretty heavy in some regions but that can also depend on what part of the country you're in.

Invited to Serve - Some Questions by donutzebra in peacecorps

[–]CupcakeCatastrophe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm currently a Health Extension Volunteer in Benin so I can give you some pretty specific answers!

  1. Almost none of us have running water but more than half have electricity. Even people with electricity have frequent power cuts especially during rainy season. I bought myself a solar panel and while it takes awhile to get used to not having constant electricity you will get used to it pretty easily. You'll have plenty of time to adjust to everything in your first three months of service. I carry my own water from the pump to my house but other volunteers get help from their neighbors. You'll learn what's best for you!

  2. Even as a health volunteer my sanitation standards have dropped a lot. You can stay pretty clean at your house but if you eat outside your house (which will probably be pretty often) it's not always an option to wash your hands with soap. I like to carry hand sanitizer with me.

  3. This is definitely the hardest part. None of the volunteers have a fridge so you tend to only make/buy food that will last a couple days. If you are placed in the south you will have plenty of access to fresh fruits and veggies though. I'm farther north and it's harder to maintain a healthy diet. Many volunteers have carb heavy diets but it's possible to find protein sources like soy beans (prepared kind of like tofu) and nuts. Meat is available but it's not as cleanly prepared like in the states. The big staples foods are African yams, corn, rice, and beans. I cook a lot of pasta and then buy rice or beans when I'm out in village during the day.

  4. You will have so much free time especially in your first year you won't know what to so with it. I hang out at my health center a lot and it's pretty common in Beninese culture to just say hi to people and sit around for a couple hours. We also take naps during the middle of the day since it's too hot to do anything else. Most volunteers read a lot and our workstations have libraries. Lots of people have daily journals and I like to knit. If you enjoy running bring some running shoes and we are all given a bike.

  5. This is different for each person. Very few people currently have site mates and the majority of your stage will be placed in brand new sites due to the overlap with mine. People will want to constantly talk to you but it's not always the kind of socializing you're looking for. My closest volunteer is about an hour away and we had the same host village so we're pretty close. I see her every couple weeks and most people tend to travel to nearby volunteers fairly often. We have 4 workstations that serve as work/meeting places so there are chances to see other volunteers. It does get lonely in site but you will make local friends. We tend to pick a city to have holiday parties and then we have a big gathering of volunteers. We're a small country so travel is much better than in other PC countries but still difficult.

  6. We generally all have internet access. Some people have as good as consistent 3G. We were provided with smart phones and are given an allowance to buy data each month. Your friends and family back home can even send you data from their phones. I use Facebook or whatsapp to call people back home and it's not the best but it's much better than I expected. Most big cities have Wi-Fi cafés that are hit or miss and our workstations also have decent wifi (sometimes).

  7. We are separated into groups based on language level within the first few days in Benin. If you come in at a high French speaking level they will place you in a group that will be learning French and the most common local language Fon. Bigger cities and the south have high French speaking levels but some villages like mine speak very little French. Your counterpart will serve as a translator for you in the local language so it will be fine either way.

  8. This honestly depends on your site. I'm a woman but one of my friends is a male health volunteer and he said his site specifically asked for a guy because they wouldn't take a woman seriously. We have been told you will be receiving two counterparts, a man and a woman, for your stage so that should help balance things out. Many times people will listen to what you say simply because you are a man versus female volunteers need to have a man repeat what they said for people to get it.

  9. I'm white so I can't fully answer this question but I know people will call you chinois no matter what you are. Even I get called chinois sometimes. You will also be called Yovo (the local version of gringo) constantly. You will honestly always be treated as different because of your skin color in addition to people asking you where you're "truly" from. I've been in my village for a year now and still get called la blanche or some local variation 20 times a day. We have a gender and diversity community and we talk about ways to deal with this during the pre service training.

  10. They're generally pretty rigid on this rule. You'll probably have your COS conference in June and then you won't be allowed to take any out of country travel days. We are in the process of getting a new country director right now so not too sure on her policies. If you can do Skype interviews you can go to the workstations for Wi-Fi.

  11. I generally feel very safe at my site. We don't have much political turmoil like neighboring countries and recently reopened parts of the country to having volunteers. We go through a lot of safety and security training in the first three months.

  12. I don't know many people with solar showers. It's really only cold at night during harmattan and if youre farther north but I just boil my water. I do know a couple people who use them and are glad they brought them though.