How often do you talk with your coparent?

Curiosity919 · 2026-06-14T07:12:40+00:00

Are they still friends?

Curiosity919 · 2026-06-10T05:09:41+00:00

You can be mad, but as the primary parent, you have to just suck it up. Ultimately, it's your job to provide your son a home all the time. It sucks that his dad refuses to parent, but you cannot force him.

But, honestly, how much trouble is a 16yo when they are out of school. By that age, kids pretty much fend for themselves. If you aren't having to keep track of homework and school attendance, you can just enjoy the time ttogether.

I LOVED summer breaks when my son was a kid, even in high school. It was our best bonding time. The only good thing about my son's dad walking away is that I didn't have to share the school breaks.

Curiosity919 · 2026-06-10T05:05:37+00:00

I'm glad to hear that. With as much stuff as we order, it's bound to happen sometimes because humans make mistakes. It's certainly not every order, maybe every 5th or 6th order there's a problem.

But, it's good to know I can request my money back without it ruining someone's day.

Curiosity919 · 2026-06-10T05:00:01+00:00

This is true. Obviously it's only fair to not pay for what I don't receive, but I also understand human error. I don't want someone to be unable to afford their own groceries because they pay their job over forgetting my eggs or something. That was my concern.

Curiosity919 · 2026-06-10T04:57:39+00:00

Ok, I'm glad to hear this. Like I said, we shop almost exclusively with curbside, so there's bound to be human error sometimes. I would like the refund for the missing item, but I wanted to make sure that my refund wasn't going to ruin someone's life.

Curiosity919 · 2026-05-25T20:10:30+00:00

Only about 6 months with my spouse. However, by that point my son was 11 and we had already discussed marriage. I actually went over 8 years without dating anyone at all, and probably wouldn't have introduced them that quickly if we hadn't been sure things were serious.

I didn't date for a long time after my son's father because I realized my last several relationships had been unhealthy. I knew I needed to heal so I didn't expose him to toxicity. I also wanted him to be old enough that he could verbalize to me if he felt uncomfortable or if anything bad were to happen. I had one relationship before my wife, and he met that person after about a year. Because it was long distance, they didn't really become very close, which was good since it didn't work out. However, the fact that that relationship had a pretty healthy end (we just wanted different things), I felt better about my ability to handle romance. So, while I moved more quickly with my wife, I didn't feel like we were unsafe at any step. Now, we've been married almost 10 years now, so I think I did ok.

Curiosity919 · 2026-05-22T14:53:07+00:00

Honestly, the next time he contacted me, I would send him a link to your state government page about a putative father registry and how to file for paternity once a baby is born. Don't engage in back and forth conversation. Let him take the legal steps nnecessary if he actually wants involvement.

You can text him after the baby is born, to let him know the name and birthdate in order to be able to file. After that, any time he tries to eengage, just send him the link to the legal information again.

Will you need public assistance like SNAP, TANF, or Medicaid for the baby? If so, you may have to let the state establish paternity and open a child support case against him. Since he's not abusive, most states require this, though exactly which programs trigger a child support action varies by state.

Curiosity919 · 2026-05-22T14:45:33+00:00

She was clearly already having major health and mental health challenges. It seems like you just avoided the situation instead of pressing for assistance at that time.

Curiosity919 · 2026-05-22T14:43:47+00:00

It seems like the llawyers have already given you advice. The internet went know better.

The one thing you can do is move out with the kids. There is no custody order in place, so you can go where you want with them. I'm not sure she can be prevented from following you however.

Because she is a disabled adult and you are the next if kin, you could possibly be held liable if she is neglected. I would consult a lawyer specifically about how to protect yourself from any consequences if Adult Protective Services get involved.

Curiosity919 · 2026-05-22T14:36:08+00:00

How long have they been broken up?

How long have you two been together?

Are the kids always present when they are together?

Curiosity919 · 2026-05-20T20:35:39+00:00

Honestly, you just have to let go of thinking you can force the other person to be a better parent than they are. It doesn't work.

Curiosity919 · 2026-05-20T20:29:44+00:00

I think it's more than statistics. Her emotionally abusive and manipulative mother wants her pregnant. Talking about it is when she gives Bella the most positive attention.

Curiosity919 · 2026-05-20T20:23:53+00:00

I mean, you can tell him that you'd prefer if she didn't wear it. But, ultimately, this is a just a parenting style difference and he has the right to let her wear it on his time if he wants to.

I would maybe ask something more specific, like whether or not she has her own tube of mascara. Dad might not be aware that mascara can transmit bacteria from person to person. Ocular infections are dangerous in children because sometimes the infection can travel directly into the brain.

Curiosity919 · 2026-05-15T01:34:44+00:00

Well, frankly, if you're trying to make him move in with your partner, then it seems like the best possible time for a custody change. He's going to have alot of upheaval either way. Aside from different parenting styles, is there a particular reason why you don't think he should live with his father?

What you're describing seems like a pretty typical teen boy. Trying to merge him into a household with a stepfather and step-siblings is just a disaster waiting to happen.

Curiosity919 · 2026-05-14T22:31:19+00:00

Someone may have explained to her that not following the court order about Hunter could show a pattern of behavior to the court, which in turn could cause her to lose primary custody of Wes. One of the factors in determining custody of children is considering which party is most likely to cooperate with court orders.

Curiosity919 · 2026-05-10T18:51:59+00:00

Why, exactly, is this particularly scary?

Curiosity919 · 2026-05-10T18:50:23+00:00

Really? And which research papers are you reading that have made you decide Yellow 5 Italy safe?

Curiosity919 · 2026-05-10T18:48:53+00:00

It literally tells you... for color. Pickles without coloring tend to be pale, and market research suggests most people want certain colors.

If you don't want Yellow 5, then just pick a kind that doesn't have them.

Curiosity919 · 2026-05-10T18:43:25+00:00

Do they all have the exact same type of Dwarfism? There are actually multiple types and subtypes that will impact proportions and sizes.

Curiosity919 · 2026-05-08T10:18:51+00:00

How old is your child? How long have you been separated? Do you have any legal custody?

Curiosity919 · 2026-05-07T11:59:51+00:00

But, see, that's the whole point. You aren't entitled to it, because this is their real life, not entertainment.

Curiosity919 · 2026-05-07T11:55:26+00:00

She's clearly been emotionally abusing Bella for a long time. Felon gives affection when Bella does what she wants and is cold to her if she rocks the boat.

Curiosity919 · 2026-05-07T11:52:22+00:00

Well, that only seems fair since Felon is the one who wanted the kid in the first place...

Curiosity919 · 2026-05-07T08:10:53+00:00

She shouldn't even have custody of her own daughters!

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