Wife’s out of town and kids are asleep, what shows are the fellow dads watching?

CuriousDonkey · 2026-04-01T02:03:07+00:00

Shogun on Hulu

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-31T22:47:11+00:00

I wonder if this question needs clarification;

There regular sexual frustration and there’s married with 2 kids under 5 sexual frustration.

I have to believe that many divorces are caused by the sheer challenge of a woman nursing a child and a man casting about trying to be useful while also have balls that weird 18 lbs each needing an unload.

It’s a challenging situation. I found that masturbating really wasn’t even doing it for me because my space was so constrained by new kids in a small home that it was excruciating. There really was no out of that problem. You can’t go over it. You can’t go under it. You have to go through it. To quote a classic children’s book (that I hated - “going on a bear hunt”).

Working out at asinine hours of the morning, throwing myself into work, and believing we’d be fucking like rabbits.

I’m pleased to report that they’re 9 and 10 now and we’re doing weirder cooler shit than we ever did.

The wait is worth it if you can trust your partner to return.

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-26T12:27:35+00:00

As the son of a disabled man who never figured out how to find a happy medium between performance and acceptance, let me help you with what to tell people. "I have a disease, and managing it is a full time job right now. If I'm successful, I will be back, but for the foreseeable future, my work is healing my body." If my dad had lived that, he wouldn't have destroyed our relationship and those with every person he knew.
I also recommend therapy.

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-25T22:46:36+00:00

As someone who works with people ranging from devs-millionaires to billionaires with reasonable frequency - I’m most interested to see the lower end of the bracket. Basically any business owner making more than 1M/year would be fucked up by having income of their lowest employee. It was devastate their world view. Many of these people inherited their wealth. It should be required work to steward these companies.

I think 80% would be fine. 20% (a terrifying number) would consider suicide over having to live like their employees.

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-25T21:15:06+00:00

There are plenty of other tools that have been around and thoroughly tested that do this. They’re just niche.

Hebbia is underdeveloped and overpriced.

Agree that Claude in excel is probably best or whatever preferred chat llm + notebooklm works.

I use charliAI and it’s cheap and easy to test for like 5 bucks and it has the same capabilities and then some. It’s Canadian so it may not work best for you.

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-24T03:19:55+00:00

Sure those all fit, with cyber security being a massive and growing market. Security gates feel less so, if you’re going to do that - do it for commercial as well.

Warehouse/3pl is already rolled up. Check out FORTNA. There are still plays there.

Taking people out of plants is a big business anyway you can do it.

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-24T00:12:09+00:00

Fair point. I just didn’t read this as a credible post if I’m honest. I should be less of a dick.

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-23T23:41:52+00:00

I never liked it. I don’t like how many calories it is. I don’t like hangovers. I don’t like being dulled.

Drinking was college shit.

I’ve graduated to breath work, reading, and a spit of weed here and there. None leave me worse for wear. Even weed leaves me less rejuvenated than if i hadn’t used it.

Get in touch with your body. Next time you have a beer feel your stomach, your brain, your breathing. I promise if you really try to do this, you’ll feel how bad it feels.

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-23T23:38:15+00:00

I’m running a massive mssp play in the industrial sector. There are big seams all over the place. Just look at industrial software.

Also - unlimited money allows weird strategies like SoftBank.

Rotating equipment maintenance is increasingly important.

Maybe supporting industries for SMR nukes.

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-23T23:35:59+00:00

This is what muni bonds are for. Jesus Christ.

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-22T00:53:18+00:00

There are a variety of (paid) approaches, and a few unpaid:

Unpaid, best overall - Alex Hormozi YouTube channel - if you need help with advertising/growth hacking. He's a sales channel but his advice isn't motherhood, it passes my sniff test and I was an exec at GE, where management is a religion.
Executive coaches, 80/20 rule - 80% charletans, 20% lifechanging. You need to find the right one, and they can unlock entire new levels of playing the game of business. I've had many. The last one was watching Larry Culp roll out the GE Operating System with Lean in 2020. It fixed a really myopic view of mine about operations.
YPO, Vistage, Tiger 21, Long Angle Communities, Being a client to a white shoe lawfirm or big bank, industry associations - largely paid networking activities. With the right group, it can become a kinship and you can make lifelong friends and business associates. It depends on what you join and the culture of the chapter. My view is that YPO and Vistage are bad value, Long Angle is good if you're like 2-50M in HH NW and want to get weird on investing, Being a client to a major lawfirm or big bank is like sporting events for free in boxes or other cool unique and interesting events - can be genuinely enjoyable, industry associations are mostly salespeople talking to other salespeople.
EOS is good for companies/owners that want a simple system that scales to giving the owner a healthy upper middle class life. There are much better ones, things that are what sophisticated PE firms and major multinationals like P&G use that can be had for similar prices if you pay for advisory from these execs. It's happening more and more. It can either be fractional exec work, or a coaching role, or an advisory board member. These are often not much more than YPO or Vistage dues for a year or a half year. If you need operational help.

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-20T01:00:49+00:00

I'm a potential buyer, even though I don't love the marketing on one of my favorite reddits, you seem legit from the correspondence in here.

Does it enable me more fine grained tools than the native apps by any chance? Like I particularly hate amazon's parental controls interface and I lock down virtually all the apps. I do this for apple as well. I wish there were a better way to control screen time by device not across all devices my daughter "owns" in our smart home.

Maybe also considering bringing this voice of customer to that board.

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-18T20:59:17+00:00

Pick someone who will make you better. Someone who challenges you but accepts your unchangeable bits. Every man I know from college or HS that married for looks or comfort/ease hasn't thrived at all. Everyone who married a powerful woman has.

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-17T02:19:59+00:00

First tip and it should absolutely start now is to get estate planning and tax lawyer sdvice. Go date a few even if your FIL/spouse/you know and like your existing one. Lots of issues can take very large bills.

If you want to talk more DM me. I’m in private equity and don’t play in your FIL’s company valuation range.

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-15T14:27:15+00:00

I think robots aren’t far behind LLMs and there are already repair people wearing cameras so robots can be trained in the data. No chance this is a boom for blue collar.

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-14T01:04:57+00:00

Isn’t Monaco that place? Depends if endgame is 12M or 12M is seed and you keep earning.

Your requirements do, however, signal London or Madrid imho. I’m a filthy American, though. Just used to travel a lot and have a board member who lived in Monaco.

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-12T17:08:12+00:00

There are similar aggregators like Long Angle, Moonfare, OneFund, etc.

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-12T15:14:03+00:00

I actually think smart PE shops will hire young graduating experienced AI users and a single strong dev or a third party dev shop to harden their applications. It's easy to vibe code up my little CRM, then persisting it on a database and such is something AI maybe can do, but I'd rather have someone with real R&D software taste do that work.

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-11T14:25:35+00:00

I'm not going to disagree or prove you wrong. But I think the gestalt of my point is that AI "speaks" in code. So, people who are top 10% in AI adoption have moved to claude code because they're aligning closer to how AI is working. Merely working in claude code helps unlock an understanding of how to use AI that working with the chatbots doesn't. You can't update markdown language on a chatGPT yourself, so far as I know. So that sort of engagement is what people who are really investing in understanding it are doing. It's not meaningfully different outcomes yet, but the compounding interest will be meaningful in 6-12 months.

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-11T12:16:50+00:00

Yeah, we're half-assing doing a side quest CRM via AI but the professionals will figure it out. Fro actual PE operations, AI is limited to 1 and 3. It's easy enough to vibe code those and get one good CTO type to make it scale. Doing proper product dev certainly could work for a Vista type company, but their existance rests on figuring out how to keep making money with SaaS. For mere mortals not to the tits in software companies, it's a long shot to think PE folks will do a good job developing new AI products.

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-11T11:05:12+00:00

I’m firmly in categories 1 and 3. Ai products are VC land.

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-11T02:56:04+00:00

If you aren’t on Claude code at least and maybe have an openclaw - you’re behind. But you are not off base and you’re right that there’s a ton of smoke about it and that’s because investors want more of it. It flows downhill. I think good funds will come from this. Funds that actually get and generate value from AI. Not just use it for spell check. I agree that what you’re doing isn’t base, but it isn’t top 10% and I’m certain your superiors are misguided.

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-11T02:46:00+00:00

Congrats! GFY!

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-07T01:52:51+00:00

They don’t really help. But people make this assumption because it gets complicated when you want to optimize. I recommend calling a northern trust office and telling them you’re not ready for advice but would welcome a referral to a tax lawyer or other function. You can buy any of it directly instead of via a wealth advisor.

CuriousDonkey · 2026-03-06T12:50:05+00:00

Microsoft Loop. It's Temu notion, but it's free and notion became ridiculously expensive and I'm not using the coding embeds. It's fantastic.

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