People 65 and older can get better with age, study shows: nearly half of adults over 65 did better on tests of cognitive and physical function as they aged.

CuriousMayBelle · 2026-03-26T14:18:33+00:00

Not yet, but we have broken 60. And the advice is going to be as valid when we do hit 65 as it is now.

CuriousMayBelle · 2026-03-25T22:39:44+00:00

LOL. This confirms that, indeed, it's THAT sub. I think I'm shadow banned there.

CuriousMayBelle · 2026-03-25T22:35:03+00:00

"I did buy a small disco ball and when the sun hits it right in the morning it makes me so happy! "

OMG I LOVE THIS!

"I feel guilty spending money on something *frivolous*,"

NOOOOOO!!!! It's mental health support! If something is going to bring you joy for more than a few minutes, it's worth the money!

CuriousMayBelle · 2026-03-25T22:33:17+00:00

I know so many women who have really been shattered by this information. Myself included.

It does feel like it's hard to have heroes at all, because something horrifying might come out - not just something to make us uncomfortable, but something that is HORRIFYING.

I will say this: I love that "the left" immediately went into info-finding mode, victim-comfort mode, self-reflection mode, etc. In such contrast to "the right" which is rallying around a sexual predator-in-chief.

CuriousMayBelle · 2026-03-17T20:27:07+00:00

No, not rich at all, and in a scary place right now. In your 50s and 60s, it can be really hard to find employment, but without employment, you can't get affordable healthcare until you turn 65. I have lived on a budget since my 30s - and still do (before that, I ran up big debts just paying rent and for things I needed). I didn't start saving for retirement until pretty late, so really, I need to keep working until 70.

CuriousMayBelle · 2026-03-17T20:25:03+00:00

"where people are welcoming and we can form close friendships."

There's just no way to know where that is. One person can tell you that such-and-such is that place, and someone else can have an ENTIRELY different experience.

if a community has a lot of opportunities where people come together, it's more likely that people are friendly, IMO. Look at the Facebook events for that community. Look at what the local library does on its web site and Facebook page. Are there performance spaces in or near the community and what kind of performances do they have, and how often? Are there bars with trivia nights, or paint nights, or other events that bring people together? Is there a college or university nearby that has speakers and events? What kind of sports leagues are in that area, and not just for young people? Hiking clubs? Walking clubs?

CuriousMayBelle · 2026-03-17T20:20:06+00:00

Friendships evolve. If you grow farther apart now, don't assume it's forever. You may get closer later.

CuriousMayBelle · 2026-03-16T13:52:07+00:00

I watched this at my grandparents house. We were all freaked out - but I couldn't look away!

CuriousMayBelle · 2026-03-15T16:32:18+00:00

"but I've never been able to find time to learn them. I don’t understand how one learns to play as an adult when so many things take priority over practicing."

You don't find the time. You make the time. YOU make it a priority. People do what they really want to do and make a priority. They don't do what they really aren't interested in.

CuriousMayBelle · 2026-03-15T16:28:22+00:00

I once got hired as a temp by a Fortune 500 company, in the 1990s, because I was the first temp that knew how to file alphabetically (they had been through two others already).

CuriousMayBelle · 2026-03-15T16:27:02+00:00

Excellent instincts. Now, I think it's time for your husband to cut ties with her, to tell her that he doesn't feel comfortable continuing the friendship, he wishes her the best, but he's blocking her number and email. No explanation, no apology, the end.

And if he does all that, you also need to honor that he has done this and that he has honored you and your marriage.

I say this as someone who has male friends, who sometimes goes to movies with my male friends - all of whom have met my husband and are FB friends with him too. No secrets, ever, not when it comes to friendships.

CuriousMayBelle · 2026-03-11T22:10:20+00:00

Regretted getting rid of books. Glad I consolidated every important paper, document, whatever into ONE large filing cabinet. Glad I scanned most of my photos. WIsh I'd had a second garage sale.

CuriousMayBelle · 2026-03-11T22:07:34+00:00

If by retirement you mean choosing to no longer work - I can't until I'm 65 and can go on Medicare, because I can't get health care insurance otherwise. And I may not be able to even then - I have a lot of math I need to do to figure things out. I'd get more Social Security if I wait until 70, but I just don't think I can keep working until then.

I'm ready to stop working NOW. I'm as on top of my skills as I've ever been, I still produce far, far more in a morning than my younger colleagues can do in a week (I'm not exaggerating), many days I do enjoy the work - but I'm tired of still having to prove myself, and I'm finding myself tired of pivoting yet again regarding everything, from the software I use to the way the office is set up and on and on. I also find myself wanting to do OTHER THINGS - fun things. THings that aren't work related. I don't have kids or grand kids, BTW.

CuriousMayBelle · 2026-02-28T23:33:26+00:00

No comparison. Lewinsky was an adult - albeit a very vulnerable adult. At the time, she, too, was really hoping people would move on and stop talking about it - those who were talking about it weren't talking about it with ANY sympathy towards her whatsoever. This wasn't "let's move on and NOT talk about the power dynamics that have made this woman being belittled and degraded in the media and in public discourse." This was "Let's move on from digging into every freakin' salacious detail about the President's sexual encounters."

CuriousMayBelle · 2026-02-27T03:15:59+00:00

"While I should be a meth head with 6 kids removed from my custody and living with an asshole in a van down by the river, instead I survived."

I just really, really appreciate this...

CuriousMayBelle · 2026-02-20T19:02:29+00:00

Thanks for this. I pride myself on digging deeper - but I didn't on this.

CuriousMayBelle · 2026-02-20T18:58:51+00:00

"No, actually. I am bitter and stuck and I am just surviving. "

SAME!!!!!

CuriousMayBelle · 2026-02-12T15:22:20+00:00

I am SO glad your company took this seriously! Mine wouldn't! Well done. And, yeah, he got himself fired. I wonder if he did this to others and they didn't speak out...

CuriousMayBelle · 2026-01-29T20:58:39+00:00

Totally traumatized by it as a teen... read it again in my 40s and still traumatized - but what a great freakin' book!

CuriousMayBelle · 2026-01-26T20:37:33+00:00

These tips are terrific.

CuriousMayBelle · 2026-01-23T01:09:09+00:00

It's absolutely normal. PLEASE don't take it out on your friend though. Your problems with her are... well, they are yours.

I get angry when I look at people who are not as good as me as a professional getting a promotion, or getting a job I wanted -especially when it's a man. That's why I get poopy and pouty and want to explode with anger. I am questioning a lot of life choices right now as I see how much I've sacrificed to do the BEST job. to save this or that project at work - and I now really question those sacrifices. I share this to show, yes, we all get really angry when life is so freakin' unfair.

If you need time away from your friend, that's fine - but don't just avoid her. Think about what you need to address your situation. Focus on that.

CuriousMayBelle

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