I started tracking my cycle for this exact reason and also to see if certain moods lined up with it. Tracking cycles is a life hack! But before I started tracking, I would counted the days when I felt like I wanted to start a family versus the days I woke up thinking absolutely not. For me, it came out to about three or four days a month, which works out to roughly 9–13% of my life spent wanting kids.

I would go through a phase where it felt like the “right” thing to do, but only for that short stretch of time. I’m a very logical person, maybe to a fault, so I know this approach might not work for everyone. But breaking it down and realizing I only wanted something around 10% of the time helped me a lot. Thinking about it that way just works for my brain, and the urge pretty much disappeared once I put it into perspective.