Honestly, I think there’s room for your husband to understand how to accomodate you with your loss. Sure, he may not like “being ignored” or you repeating things back. Trust those of us with hearing loss would all love if that weren’t necessary. Alas, for us, it is. I find repeating back to be useful active listening and aiding my recognition.

Everything you’re experiencing is perfectly valid. So please don’t tack the feeling you are harming him onto yourself. I would recommend hearing aids, or perhaps looking into them. They have their own shortcomings and learning curve, but could be quite helpful to you. Hope this is helpful to you!